Stories Collected While Living in France
…………….Judgment….
the uncomfortable part of myself that has sat in the shadow of my being, came out and took a seat in the light today.
Get away I screamed I do not like you…
but closer it sat and rubbed its dirty hands on my face…looking me right in the eye!
Judgment is one of the things
I am guilty of …
and it sits on me today
heavily.
Corey, don’t be so hard on yourself! Every one of us is guilty of being judgmental at one time or another. It’s human nature. You are a wonderful person, but an imperfect one, just like all the rest of us. So stop beating yourself up for whatever happened and focus on all the good things you do and how more often than not you inspire the rest of us!
If you are too busy judging people you have no time to love them
~ I believe this quote was by Mother Teresa!
Bless you my precious friend!
deary ~ don’t compound the problem with harsh judgement of yourself. more of the same certainly won’t *fix* the issue at hand. i’m trying to learn to sit down with my shadow instead of running away from it, and your image and words demonstrate you’re doing it as well… it’s beautiful.
Why is it we are usually most hard on ourselves? I once heard someone describe love and hate being the same word, just different perspectives… The colors of a day can ‘shadow’ our personal views differently each time we look around… What looked detestable yesterday, may be what we adore tomorrow. We just have to be kind to ourselves today…
It has made you so uncomfortable because you recognize its presence and are used to holding it at bay. Your words strike a strong cord with me today, the cord of tension in the midst of internal struggle. Thank you for writing them; I am not alone.
Yes I forgot to put that in my message……You are beautiful inside and out and each of us are human.
To err is human and to forgive divine!
Blessings be thine you are a golden friend of mine.
I send love and springtime bliss.
Love Jeanne ^j^
Oh beautiful, sweet Corey…I see you around the blog world on more than few occasions and only kind words, full of love and hope have I ever seen you lay down. We all have shadows. Good for you to sit with yours for awhile. It makes us real and all the more grateful.
Hugs,
a.
I can relate to this.. daily struggle for me… and then when I judge myself for being judgemental… I say to myself… who said you get to be the perfect one… and sometimes I listen to myself and sometimes I dont…
I think that sometimes just being able to vocalise our guilt and fear can help so much.Remember though that judgement isn’t always a bad thing.As a good sense of judgement helps keep ourselves on the right path.It’s when that judgement is of others that problems arise.We are responsible for our own actions and relationships in this life and can never be accountable for others.
This post is really sad, cheer up we all have our days and make our mistakes, but it’s a new day tommorow with new experiences and feelings.
May God bless you always.
We all are guilty of judging on occasion. It is human nature! So really the only thing you are guilty of is being human. Just being aware enough to recognize when you are being judgmental is a credit to your character!
Beautifully said, next time I’ll scream “get away, I don’t like you” too! I hope this ick feeling passes for you soon.
p.s. I love the photo of the frillies in the shop window that you sent to Ulla.
There’s only one who is perfect. If that were not so, we wouldn’t need Him!
I hear you, sister. I am guilty of the same, that ongoing struggle. I love how you attempt to free yourself with words.
It’s 8:26pm in NJ right now (2:26am where you are living). May you wake up tomorrow morning to sunny skies and happy thoughts!
Well then ! you see ! you are human.
Now forgive yourself and then wash your sweet face and come out to play again.
Love and kisses allllll over your loving heart.
It will be alright.
S.
Interesting to read this after I just finished the last instalment of 660 minutes of Brideshead Revisited (it’s been 25 years!) this evening. Judgement is such a key theme. Maybe even *the* key theme. I like the way it was explored.
I am continually inspired by your words and images.
Lovely Corey com habitude! And the additon of a title under the picture is terrific! 🙂
i just read an email today about this very issue and this is the quote i read from there:
“nothing can bring you peace but yourself”
by ralph waldo emerson…
it ties in with the whole serenity prayer…
whenever i am feeling that way, i try to remind myself that i need to take better care of myself and to be kind…sometimes it is easier said than done…
but please try to be gentle and kind to yourself…you are special!
🙂 mary ann
hmmm… your ambiguity intrigues me but is strangely appropriate to the topic… we cannot point a finger without pointing some at ourselves.
Grace – free, but not easy.
my heart is so heavy tonight too.
hi, Corey. whatever the trouble might be, i am sending you good vibes, prayers, respect, and love.
We all have a side that we don’t like to acknowledge. Recognizing it, becoming intimite with it, gives us control rather than being controlled.
Be gentle with yourself Dear Corey. Breathe it in, look at it with an honest heart, learn from it and then let it go. Begin a new moment….which is what life is you know, one moment at a time. Forgiveness is not just something we extend to others, but to ourselves as well. xoxoxo
I have the overwhelming urge to go wash my hands.
Corey,
I hope you know that you are a wonderful person. Your posts inspire and tell me how special you are every day.
Take good care of yourself.
Connie
I judge too, Corey – we all do. part of being human I guess. I am also impatient & intolerant – don’t forget I am but an email away xoxo
It is strange that we so lightly judgement ourselves, all though we should be our own best friend!
But I do often that also and it makes things just worse. It bite bit by bit the selfesteem towards life and art that I make.
Strenght to you dear and a warm cyber hug.
Treat yourself as lovingly as you treat the dear ones around you!
Judgment takes away precious energy from our spirit. Being conscious that you are judging gives light onto your intimate self, a wonderful thing. Sit in that place and breathe deep and admire the view…you are seeing!
Corey everyone has reiterated what I have felt about you from the onset you are a truly marvelous lady, one I am so proud to call my friend.
God forgives me daily on my many blunders, I learn each day life’s lessons, and Yes I am hard on myself too.
We must learn to forgive as God forgives us.
The trick is not to repeat the same errors and move on.
You are lovely!
Happy Monday my friend
Rabbit Rabbit for good luck for the first of the month!
I love you~
Jeanne
Such a powerful image, so often we try to keep the dark parts of our nature hidden but unfortunately sometimes it rears its ugly head. If I say “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.(Pslam 139)
Its one thing for us to admit to ourselves that we have imperfections….but its couragious to admit it to everyone else. Dearest Corey…. we are all learning from your example. Thank you for sharing with us. Hugssss
Corey, at least you’re aware of it. The worst are the people who are judgemental and just don’t see that they are.
My goal has been to eliminate judgement from my mind and appreciate all of the experiences that I, and the people around me, have in our lives.
judgement is the hardest. to judge and to be judged. to be free of judging, ah, maybe Ghandi, Mother Teresa, a few others mortals, but so few.
It is something to aspire to and to forgive yourself along the way otherwise..
Judgment should always be tempered with mercy.
There cannot be a single person who does not judge its human nature, its part of life, I hate to be judged and I hate to judge, but it happens and is a part of life, being aware of it is a good thing:)
I love how you say it put its dirty little hands all over your face, you are soo cute corey!
k
corey, this piece is as beautifully powerful as it is wonderfully succinct. wow!!!! love it!!!! thanks!
You just described me.
The picture, your words…
I am moved.
We are not “guilty” of being human. We ARE human. We judge every moment of the day, and very often it’s good: When we say “Those chairs are so beautiful!”, it’s a judgment of sorts and it is GOOD. And when we are aware, we can acknowledge and temper what we don’t like. I am so happy we met. A little piece of mail is on its way to you. Bisou, bisou.
Is it so bad sometimes? Or is it sometimes only “discernment”?
🙂
I feel judged often by my Mom and by my Mother in Law… I don’t like it. I wish for grace, acceptance, trust…
sudden judgement is simply a reaction…a fleeting impulse–a result of the human condition. you’ve acknowledged it; now simply forgive yourself and re-evaluate the situation from a distance and continue on your beautiful life journey…
thoughts/prayers,
julie
Angels don´t inhabit this world – we do!
Wayne Dyer said, “Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”
Corey, there is a certain beauty and honesty with in you. And all the readers of your blog see it everyday.
As it does to all of us at times…and yes, she’s terribly heavy…
wow, your words just move me… i am so feeling the same… i so want to move into the light
You write in the language of the heart. You live in the landscape of my heart. So far away, yet so very present. I’m wishing you lovliness…
Corey everyone has reiterated what I have felt about you from the onset you are a truly marvelous lady, one I am so proud to call my friend.
God forgives me daily on my many blunders, I learn each day life’s lessons, and Yes I am hard on myself too.
We must learn to forgive as God forgives us.
The trick is not to repeat the same errors and move on.
You are lovely!
Happy Monday my friend
Rabbit Rabbit for good luck for the first of the month!
I love you~
Jeanne
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