The French Connection

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When France was occupied by the Nazis during World War II, they set up their headquarters in certain large often beautiful French homes throughout France. My Belle Mere's (Mother-in-Law's) parents' home in Rennes was chosen for such a purpose. My Belle Mere was sixteen at the time, she and her family were allowed to live in the basement while the Nazis took over their home.

 

At the same time, my Belle Mere's family who lived in Paris were afraid that Paris would be destroyed came to Rennes because they thought they would be safer, they moved in with my Belle Mere and her family, forty-five of them lived in the basement.

 

My Belle Mere's Father was active in the French Resistance. Living underneath them in the basement provided a sneaky eye's view on what was going on. It also proved a place easy to eavesdrop on the Nazi officers' conversations. He was allowed to ride his bicycle into the countryside to collect fresh produce and dairy products, a note or two was often slipped into the potato sack. Certainly, he feared for his life and the life of his family. But "…to sit and do nothing was like death itself." he later said.

My French family has many stories about life with the Nazi officers, oddly none of them are brutal nor ugly, seemingly surreal. The head Nazi officer was a family man and his wife like my Belle Mere's mother was pregnant. When my Belle Mere's mother went into labor, the head officer took her to the hospital, and made sure that she had everything she needed.

I often wonder how it was to live like that? How it must have felt to be treated with an odd respect, yet knowing a violent war surrounded them. To see the enemy as human, to see their lives similar and intertwine. It was as if the Nazi officers in their home were not part of the war. The twisted twist of being involved and yet not wanting to be.

As horrendous and evil as that war was, it seemed some small acts of kindness sipped out of such ugliness. Often at night, the Nazi officers played the piano, and the music seemed to settle their frayed nerves. Though my Belle Mere's family never once let down their guard and knew that death was as close as their doorstep. The expression, "killing with kindness," seemed to hold a raw meaning for them in times like this.

A family in my village (whose home was also occupied during WWII) told me that their Great grandmother was told after celebrating Christmas with the Nazi officers that occupied their home, "We have had a wonderful Christmas celebrating with you, we have enjoyed our evening together but if tonight we receive orders to kill you, we will." He said as he smiled and went upstairs to bed.

 

Photo: A French food ration chart from WWII that I found years ago at the brocante. The food chart lists the food items available, the cost and how much per person. Fresh fruits, vegetables, milk and meat are not on the list. 

The WWII food ration chart is hand-printed on canvas, and hangs in our kitchen.

 

Today August 22nd, our town in Provence celebrates the day it was liberated, as it does every 22nd of August, with a parade celebrating the American and British soldiers, a moment of silence, then a party in the streets. I will post videos to my stories on Instagram.

 

On this day over twenty years ago I met Annie when she came to my door and said, "I didn't know an American to thank at the end of the war, and since I heard you are American I came to say thank you to you."

 

 



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61 responses to “The French Connection”

  1. well corey, the family of belle mère was lucky being ‘well’ treated by germans during the war. however, they deprived them from living a normal happy life, occupying their land and properties. my parents told us so many stories about the war, mostly ugly ones. being born after the war and at the direct border of germany we learned to get along with them, even spoke their language. they denied for a long time, some of them still do, but mostly learned over the years about tolerance and friendship.

  2. I am enchanted by every word………..
    Everyone has a story to tell do they not?
    Blessings my lovely.
    Love Jeanne

  3. We can only imagine what living like that was like…a friend who has since passed away, a slender, elegant elderly woman, told me of watching her entire family being sent to the camps while she was held back to be a housekeeper for a German officer. Her eyes took on such a faraway look when she spoke about it…

  4. Such an interesting story, a bit scary also.

  5. What an amazing story.
    My grandparents and parents lived through the London Blitz and I pass their stories down to my children and grandchildren as I am certain you do. We must never forget.

  6. Shannon

    What that Nazi said is one of the most evil things I’ve heard heard said. I know in my head why, I just can’t find a way to put it into words.
    You know my grandmother faced death day in and day out at the hands of Nazis.
    What an incredible story this was and it shows what it means to be family….the way you’re mother in law’s family came together like that.

  7. French husbands family must have a million interesting stories…an I am happy they they are here to tell them! Such a bittersweet memory you get to hang in your kitchen…

  8. Everyday I am thankful for the many blessings that I have and I make myself aware of the people around the world who are going through terrible war/famine/strife. My problems are so insignificant compared to that. The cruelty that humans do to each other is so far beyond my understanding and our ability to live through and shine in the midst of it is truly heroic.

  9. I look forward to reading many other posts like this one – please share your French family’s stories.

  10. judypatooote

    What an amazing story….I only wish I would have ask more questions of my dads family….I have my memories, but my dad came over from Germany when he was 18 with his family, and I remember his story of the trip on the ship… There were good Germans as well as bad Germans, and it’s like now here in America, there are Good Arabs and bad Arabs, as well as Americans….it is so hard to justify war…. I do so enjoy your stories. Write them down now while your mother in law is alive….I’m 66 and feel I missed so darn many stories…..because mom and dad have passed on… judy

  11. What a story! We read about the war in novels but this reminds me that it was a real experience for people and it lives on in their memories, no less extraordinary than the stuff of fiction.

  12. Your Belle Mere has lived through a lot in her life. It would make it hard for me to trust people after going through such an ordeal!

  13. Well at least chocolate and jam are on the chart…
    Cheese, butter…bread?
    No peanut butter though 🙁
    Fascinating story today!

  14. It’s a strange thing when the “enemy” is recognizable and present; stranger still for them to be in your very home. All of this is kept so quiet in France, isn’t it? Such a mix of emotions that arise, I’m sure, as memories are stirred.
    But we learn from these kinds of recollections, no doubt about it. Stories of the past help us into the future.
    Meilleurs voeux!!

  15. Those people surely were survivors, weren’t they?
    I love your kitchen so far…hint…hint…

  16. Karen Reilly

    You write of the WWII era Germans…”oddly none of them are brutal nor ugly.” Do you
    suppose a citizen of Iraq might say the same of Americans now stationed in their country? Perhaps in both cases it was not the common soldiers who were brutal but the governments they fought for.

  17. So sad. I have wondered how many nazi’s were forced into doing their horrible acts for fear for themselves and for their very own families. My mother in law was born during that war, too. When her mother was in labor the nazi’s wanted her to be seen by their doctor. Her father refused, fearing they would kidnap the baby, or worse. That happened in Reims.

  18. I find WW2 history fascinating. It blows my mind to imagine that Nazi troops invaded and marched down the Champs Elysees. Australia was involved in WW2 on a large scale but mostly in the pacific. My grandfathers were stationed in places like Boreno etc, so I find what was happening in Europe to be incredible and incredibly moving. Have you seen the documentary the Sorrow and the Pity? Hiroshima Mon Amour is also an amazing film about war, the main character has her head shaved for having been in a relationship with a german soldier.

  19. What a fabulous family history. Reminds me of Le Silence de la Mer and the stories my favorite French professor tells of her childhood…so many families had such experiences, but not all were ‘well-treated’ as yours. I too look forward to more family stories.
    I really enjoy reading your blog…it reminds me of all the things I miss about living in France.

  20. What an amazing story–and coincidence. I just saw a new movie about the Resistance during the war. It just will not leave me; one of the best films I have seen in years. It is “The Black Book” and so worth two hours…incredible to learn what one woman’s courage can do.
    Hand written on canvas? So beautiful! Thank you for sharing, and for visiting my fledgling blog, leaving words of kindness and encouragement.

  21. to be free to live as you like is a gift to each of us…thanks for te reminder to be grateful for every day of life…blessings, rebecca

  22. I have goosebumps.

  23. What interesting stories you have. It must have been a surreal experience, scarey too, to have the enemy within arms reach and yet see them acting so normally.
    Interesting.

  24. patpaulk

    The combatants are pawns for use in the evil by others. Not always though.

  25. One of the books i have read several times is a Joanne Harris <3 Five Quarters of Orange, which is a story about French family who lives under Nazi’s eyes.
    It must have not been light at all to live like that, to be afraid every minute and feel how the heart thumps at the chest from tiniest things.

  26. Fantastic blog this morning, Corey! What memories french husband’s family must have! I’m so happy they made it through the war!

  27. anonymous

    My dad couldn’t serve due to health reasons but he did work for the USO as an entertainer. He felt guilty that he couldn’t help the military but said that seeing the troops laughing at the USO acts and taking their minds off battle was wonderful.

  28. What a good story, and especially because we know they survived.
    There are so many who are living like that even today. It’s not enough to be happy for you that that story is ended well. Humans are just inhumane.
    I saw a satirical Iranian film Sat night named “Half-Moon” that everyone should see if they can. If they live in Iran they can’t. It shows a group of Kurdish musicians dealing with reality, just as it is right now, in Iran. There is one scene so beautiful that I will never forget it. But the story brings one’s own good fortune front and center.

  29. Fascinating story about the everyday realities of war. Humanity and ideology all bumping up against each other in a weird mix. Glad that your family was safe– and smart.

  30. Facinating family history.

  31. Wow that story gave me the chills. That story is so facinating. I couldn’t imagine living in an attic with the enemy right there. Thanks for sharing the story.

  32. It’s hard to imagine having to live that way. It is amazing how huge the human spirit can be in bad times, how hope lives on. Imagine how awful it was in the concentration camps. Unbelievable what people can do to other people.

  33. As terrible as it must have been for your belle mere’s family, I would still be intrigued by these stories. Thanks for sharing a glimpse of their past! ♥

  34. I wonder if this is how the people of Iraq think of soldiers occupying the palaces there?

  35. In my wildest imagination, I cannot fathom what it must have been like to live unde Nazi rule..restricted your own attic..not knowing if you live or die at any moment.When I Read The Diary of Anne Franke I was distraught for days…. Imagine that feeling a hundred fold every day of your life in imprisonment.

  36. Bossy was touched by those very acts of kindness she saw chronicled at the Holocaust museum in D.C. It took so much bravery.
    And speaking of bravery and your quest for old things, stop by Bossy’s Virtual Yard Sale to purchase items like other people’s blogs, bad advertisements, and silly purple fonts.
    http://iambossy.typepad.com/i_am_bossy/2007/07/bossys-virtual-.html

  37. Hearing stories like that really does help to put your own problems in perspective, doesn’t it?
    A hug to your Belle Mere…just because.

  38. Whoa. What a beautifully written story, Corey. Such times normally seem so removed for our modern lives.
    Thank you for the reminder.

  39. War sucks. Boys serving in Iraq come home and kill themselves, today even, because of what they have been expected to do, and what they have seen. We cannot imagine some of the atrocities in this world, while we sit in front of our computers.
    The holocaust museum did a good job of portraying all Nazi’s as evil killers…but realistically, there had to be some decent people in there just following direct orders. Sad, and scary.
    xoxo

  40. Alexandra

    Forty-five in an attic, yikes! And yet they got through it. What a wonderful family: what pluck! Thanks for sharing.

  41. Corey,
    That was an amazing story.
    Hard to believe that 45 people lived together in an attic.
    Rosemary

  42. how uncanny. I am reading “Suite Francaise” at the moment and I’m at the part where a French village has German soldiers living in their houses. It gives such a clear picture exactly as your belle mere said…this kind of uneasy compliance…. But then you have a real person to tell you those stories…

  43. Humans….wonderful and terrible.

  44. what a story corey. it’s hard to know that these things happened. how long did they occupy their house?

  45. What a fascinating story. I remember reading an interview with the director Louis Malle who said that was one of the things that was so difficult during the Occupation–that often the occupying Nazi soldiers were so nice. It made everything so much more complicated.

  46. wow..
    we must never forget.

  47. What an amazing family history. I can not imagine coping with living with 45 other people let alone with all the fear and tragedy. Thank you for sharing and reminding me how lucky we are to live in our life time.

  48. Corey, your blog is unreal. I know I have told you that before.. But, I have been catching up and I had to laugh out loud at the topless tarzan mud splack. On and on I read, smiling, tearing up, and now this…Wow… You are amazing, what you share, always so increadible. In my heart and soul, I have always felt a strange tie to those times…Anyhow, Thank you! xxo

  49. Corey’s post
    is my morning coffee
    today is art camp
    Monday – so
    coming in late
    to a story
    of love and
    human – ness
    dark/light
    day/night
    and we all
    find our place
    therein
    such a beautiful
    story of strength
    and courage
    and the responding
    commentary
    who and where
    are we –
    in this rich
    passion play?
    xox – eb.

  50. Corey, I really am speechless.

  51. a very moving story! maybe they should make a film of your colorful life!

  52. wisteriagirl

    Thank you for sharing your Mother-in-law’s story. I found it very fascinating. I can not begin to fathom what took place during WW2. You have a gift for writing, Ms. Corey!

  53. I am always, always fascinated when I hear stories of that era. All that horror and ugliness. Unfathomable. I often wonder how every day people lived their lives with the specter of death constantly around the next corner. Did the fears and tragedies make the small joys that much more intense? Would I or the people I’m close to have that sort of strength? So many questions run thru my head when I read something like this.

  54. elizabeth

    Wow, what a story and so glad your inlaw family had some decent Nazis to live with. Brave people they were!! You must be proud!!

  55. I feel like Shannon, completely horrified by the Nazi’s comment. Spending Christmas with one’s captor in relative peace, only to be boldly threatened. I think that if that had happened to me I could never have slept at night. I would be waiting for the sound of footsteps on the stair. Why would he,or anyone, even feel the need to end Christmas on such a cruel note. How could he ever think that they were not aware that they were in continual peril. Even if they had felt slightly less in danger, what is the point of breaking that spell. Just another twist of the knife of one in the position of power. Just another reminder that they were imprisoned in their own home.

  56. Thank you for sharing your family’s story. It is wonderful to be reminded that our spirits always prevail even during such times. What a brave family you have.

  57. What always amazes me when I hear stories like these is how people DO cope in extreme situations. How they remain brave and true to themselves, even under the threat of losing their lives. Being German my stories are quite different and I never quite believed my grandparents when they claimed they did not know what was going on (the holocaust) until the very end.
    Then again, my grandfather became a prisoner of war at the hand of the Russians, for seven long years, and listening to his stories it is a miracle that he came out alive. Alas, with scars that would bleed through many generations of my family.
    War has so many ugly faces, but we must never stop believing in the basic decency of human beings.

  58. What a neat story. I love history things like this. It reminds me of stories from my high school French teacher – she grew up in Pau, France and shared memories of the Nazis taking over her neighbors house during the war.

  59. Very touching, emotional and real. Thank you for the reminder through history and for the faith in the good of human nature in times of awkward duty vs respect.

  60. That is certainly a family experience worth remembering and telling to the younger generations. I can’t imagine living in such a place, under such circumstances. Your French relatives were brave and so patient – how does one not break down when told that you along with everyone you love could be killed on a moment’s notice..?

  61. These are such powerful stories. I cannot imagine, and I know that this means I am very lucky.

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