French Silverware

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French silverware speaks of the importance that the French put on food and meal- time.  The French have a fork, knife, spoon for every food under heaven.  They also have one for every sauce, and believe me they love their sauces.  To which my thighs cry AMEN!

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Since we are an American-Franco family some of my silverware is from America. The innocent pair come to the table, an American fruit knife (1920s) and dessert fork (1940s.)

Unlike dinner knives and forks, the fruit knife has a sharp blade with a point on the end for stabbing fruit after it has been cut.  The dessert fork has a fancy prong "do." Often the tip is curled-in to aid with slicing into a cake bite.

The fruit knife and dessert fork are much smaller than the dinnerware knife and fork.

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The French place the silverware upside down on the family table, well that is in comparison to the American style of setting a table.  The monograms on French silver are on the backside.  Note the photo of the same service (1880):  The fork’s front side is bare, and the back side is elaborate.

Though at restauants the French place the silverware right side up.  I am sure my dear friend Marie Noelle is going to tell me why (look for her comment below.)

Teaspoon

The French have two sizes of spoons for coffee.  A tiny one for espresso and a larger one for cafe au lait.  The larger spoon can be used for tea, hot chocolate, eating cereal and yogurt (… ) that tiny espresso spoon has a singular role, certainly it feels smug adorning those cute little expresso cups!

(Photo French tea and coffee cups. Hand painted 1920s)

Tablesetting

The table fork goes onthe left side of the plate.  The table knife goes on the right, with its blade facing towards the plate.  The table soup spoon (which looks like a serving spoon) goes by the table knife.  The dessert spoon and cheese knife go on top.

The first time I came to France and had a meal at French husband’s parents home I went as stiff as the silverware in front of me.  The array of silverware overwhelmed me.  I sat the entire lunch (five hours) mimicing  French husband’s Father. Whatever fork, knife or spoon he grabbed I followed suit.  I don’t remember a thing I ate, but I thank God for French husband’s Father’s impeccable manners.

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Another view of a French table setting line up.  As you can see I have mix and match silverware.  It makes collecting easier and fun.  Find a pretty fork at the flea market, inexpensive since it is on its own.  Buy it polish it…  Instant success! It adds to the collection and shakes up the snobby line up.

And by the way the French eat Pizza with a fork and knife. Tres Elegant.

Photos: Vintage French silverware.



Comments

66 responses to “French Silverware”

  1. Corey, is there going to be a test afterwards? 😉 Thank you for teaching me the fine art of French silverware etiquette and placement. That dessert fork looks like a fork within a fork! 🙂

  2. Thank you for this lesson of etiquette and savoir vivre à la française

  3. WOW! It’s certainly elaborate, but the place settings at dinner (I’m assuming at home, since the silverware is facing down) is SO elegant!
    It’s morning here, and I’m just imagining my kids eating their frosted flakes at a table like that!
    Grand experience!

  4. Beautiful!
    Your festive table setting with all the dreamy white feathers and array of cuttlery is stunning.
    I’m a big fan of silver and all the accouterments that accompany dining!!
    Loved this post!

  5. My European grandmother taught me how to set the table. Not as many utensils, but very similar set up.
    My Southern grandmother kept a formal table setting for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
    I love the way formal tables look.

  6. Spoons and forks lined up in rows,
    Right under my nose.
    From the left, from the right…
    Have I correctly chose-n?
    Did I commit a slight?
    Can I fool the pros?
    Will I get another invite?
    Qui sait / who knows?

  7. Everything is exquisite my darling friend.
    Love you dearly……..
    Your table looks fabulous darling!
    Love you
    Jeanne

  8. Oops! I got behind..but I am loving all your posts! I just read them. I adore the photo s!!!

  9. What a lovely lesson! Very useful for visits to Paris!

  10. I love the dessert setting – and the monogrammed dinner plate.

  11. 🙂
    I met my french husband in Canada and each time any of us set the table did it in its own way so…any time we passed by the table we turned “upside down” the silverware….

  12. Presentation, presentation, presentation! I love it.
    I’m certainly going to have to get a larger table if I’m to entertain in the French fashion.
    Are meals served already plated? Do you have minions in the kitchen sorting everything out?
    Darla

  13. Lovely silver…the French are so elegant…and now I find I must be also, as I eat my pizza with a fork and a knife. I also eat my sandwich and hamburger the same way…after I take the top off…sometimes tricky with plastic fork and knifes.

  14. Paris Parfait

    I love collecting mismatched silverware. Makes for a much more interesting table. But yes, sometimes the vast array of silverware can be bewildering, especially at a meal with several courses!

  15. Great lesson. All your messages are fascinating. Do all French people focus on the visual experience of life? It seems worlds away from the American way of living. Appreciation of how things look seems like a great way to help one enjoy each day.

  16. These are beautifully laid out tables!
    Interesting, I never knew that the French turn their forks so that the back greets the diner!
    I loved to read Ms. Manner’s column in the Washington Post, every now and then somebody came up with a question about a peculiar looking piece of silver and she always came up with it’s rightful use. 😉
    I’ll be right over (and I am not afraid of a myriad of forks and knifes, being of Austrian extraction, we are taught to use the silver from the outside in, i.e. the sequence in which the different plates would be served – at least I hope that works for France, too).
    _____________________________
    Yes Merisi, the French do the same with the use of silverware “from the outside in.”

  17. Corey…Beautiful post this morning! Love the silverware! I do remember using a knife and fork while eating pizza when I was in Paris a few years back…and also remember the egg they always put in the center of the pizza…I like eggs…but NOT on my pizza! Is there a reason for doing that? Or do they just like egg on their pizza? 🙂

  18. Oh boy, I’m imtimidated just READING your post about silverware. I have an unhealthy fear of dining anywhere where the silver outshines the meal – literally. I think I’ll print this post and keep it in my purse for the next time I’m faced with this challenge. Although, if on the way to the restauant there is a fork in the raod, I may take the path going the other way!!
    _______________________________
    Donna, have you ever thought of stand up comedy?

  19. Now I know I must come out buying with you; my mother loved to collect odd pieces of silverware, and I have some of what she chose.

  20. oh very beautiful!

  21. Bonjour Corey,
    I love setting the table! Thanks for all of the great tips. I don’t know if it my French roots, but for me it is all about the table display and less about the actual food. Although, in France it is all about both… beautiful tables and great food.
    When Rodger and I were in Paris back in May, we ate pizza at a sweet Italian restaurant near the Sorbonne, I’m really glad that we used our forks and knives!!!
    Sharon

  22. corey…loved the look onto your table…i decided a few years ago to use my silver daily…the big serving things as well as my silverware…why keep it hidden away for special occasions? i even keep my kitchen sponge in a silver tray now…it makes me smile every time i use it…blessings, rebecca

  23. Dear Corey,
    The table settings are amazing. I am addicted to silverware, dishes etc.
    I love the different items that you shared with us. I want to set my table the French way. It looks beautiful.
    Rosemary

  24. superb post! i think you are just a great story teller…you could tell me how you ate a peanut yesteday and i would still be amazed! hehehe
    delphine

  25. That was very interesting and answered lots of questions. Mom very generously gave me Nana’s silver. One dilemma was identifying some mystery pieces. Round spoons are just for cream soups, regular teaspoons are for other soups, a round flat thing is for jelly such as cranberries. All of the food tastes better when the silverware is used.

  26. :O antique provence fabrics, french silverware!! she keep teasing me, huh corey??
    love the table setting with the delicate feather wreaths and petite candle bowls…
    i’ve chosen my site of the table allright, thanks for the champange…a toast to the devine!!

  27. Oh! que c’est beau.
    This is beautiful (my english is very bad, i am sorry)
    I love your blog.
    Friendly. Fine.

  28. Very interesting, Corey. I’m enjoying these little lessons and I especially enjoy seeing the accompanying photographs. You really know how to dress up a table! Merci beaucoup!

  29. Wonderful detail. I had no idea there was so much to eating. Not so sure about silverware being placed face down but when in Rome . . . well, anywhere in France that is . . . I DO like the mixing and matching. Definitely makes collecting more fun.

  30. Corey,
    I just love this post. I found all of the info quite fasinating. I loved how that table was set. The one with the candles and stuff. Very pretty I would be very intimidated by all of that silverware.

  31. Tres elegant for sure….I always love your photos Corey and I adore the chic lesson you have given not to mention the beauty of the silver, table and china.
    XOX
    Kristen

  32. Anytime I see lots of silverware at a table I’m about to eat at, I get very excited…it means there is going to be lots of food! 🙂

  33. I can just get lost in these posts, Corey. Thank you. I have long wanted to begin a silver collection–I think this is my sign to start now.
    Sarah B

  34. Marie-Noëlle

    Oh oh… that’s pretty tricky because I put the forks upside down when setting the table … as a mere habit… I ‘ve seen things done this way since I was very little … Tradition…
    True… when we have a whole range of knives + forks, we use them outside in, following the order of courses… so, to all your readers, no need to panique, use the most outside set of fork+knife with your 1st course… these will go with the dirty plates… then use the next set (which has become outside in its turn) with the next course, etc…
    Yes again, we put cheese and dessert forks + knives on top of the plates, in front of the glasses, ready to be picked by the “good” hand : the knife handles to the right (to be seized by your right hand) and the fork handles to the left (ready to be seized by your left hand) …
    YES we do use knives and forks for our pizzas… And at home too.
    … but my children are allowed to use silver fingers very occasionally …
    (They did it last year with a party of teenaged friends, during the soccer world cup – all gathered round the tv to watch France playing).

  35. Thank you for sharing a french tradition, I have never set a french table but because of your beautiful photo I think I will try. I hope you don’t mind but I added you to my little french tour.

  36. Perfect post for those of us used to fumbling along. I always start with the outside pieces and work my way in… but even then it gets confusing… Love the mix and match look! and feathers on the table — oh la laaaaa!

  37. Pourquoi? how do you eat pizza outside in the world?

  38. I have got to get down to the South of France. In Paris cutlery like yours is very thin on the ground or so expensive you need a mortgage to buy it.
    Delighful!

  39. This is such a fascinating read, informative and pure essence of culture. I love the American dessert fork, the decorations on the backs of the French ones and the wonderful table setting. Looks like there’s a cause for partying daily.

  40. The silverware is lovely – but I can certainly see how it would be intimidating to have so many pieces for each course. In America now, some family restaurants no longer even give you a separate salad fork – they expect you to save it for the main course!

  41. Love this lesson in table etiquette! And thanks too to Marie Noelle for further clarification…
    I always wondered about the decoration on the back side of some silverware!!!

  42. Very interesting, Corey! I love your mix and match silverware … it looks beautiful together and very elegant! ~ hugs, Lynda

  43. I mix and match, myself! Especially with plates…
    My 8 yr old son eats almost everything with a knife and fork (pizza included). I keep telling my husband I had an affair with a European and that’s why Adrian has such manners. LOL

  44. Love silverware. Enjoyed your post. :0)

  45. Hey! I eat pizza with a knife and fork, probably the only elegant thing I do. 😉
    Oh my, you’ve been showing such a lot of lovely things lately Corey. Holy moly, only in dreams can I imagine what it must be like to live with all that beauty. Thank you for sharing your many delights and blessings with us.

  46. Nothing can make my heart flutter like table silver! (okay, except my European husband) I love everything about it, forks, knives, spoons, ornate and plain. Thanks for sharing yours, very beautiful!
    Lidy

  47. I collect silverware, and when I stop by garage sales I pick some up. Hubby doesn’t understand but that’s ok because I don’t ‘get’ his thrill over electronics.

  48. Gorgeous! I love silverware………

  49. Cutery Francais! What an amaZing post.
    I never knew of the upside-down feature on the French table…
    xo
    Blue

  50. Oops, pardonez vous
    That should read, cutlery
    not cutery!!!
    Though, it is cute!

  51. Did someone say ‘spoon’, ‘fork’, what? The photos are just so mesmerizing.

  52. I love all the table setting makes me want to do it tonight for dinner! Wait dining table is covered with mail and projects I started this weekend. Maybe next week.
    Jeanette

  53. I love these photos… there is just something so elegant about table settings, although I love eating at a Moroccan restaurant where there is no silverware and hands are washed for you at the table, with as much elegance as a silver setting! I have my great grandmother’s soup spoons, given to her on her wedding day. I treasure them.

  54. Being a person with very eclectic tastes, I love the elegance of the mismatched silver and china. It makes life so much more interesting.
    Corey, when you’re home for a visit, do you eat French or American style?
    ~elaine~

  55. Only YoU could make an interesting post about knives and forks Ms. Corey! I shall remember this lesson when I am faced with French cutlery during my visit in Sept./08..for now I rest..not well NG

  56. Oh dear. It has been far too long since I last had a chance to visit of here. Beautiful words. Beautiful photographs.
    Here’s hoping I can stay just a little bit longer,
    g xx

  57. Marie-Noëlle

    Additions
    Forks MUST ALWAYS be on the left of the plate… except oyster forks or snail forks – as we use them with our right hand and without any knife.
    I have always wondered why knives should be turned sharp side inside… some people say “for safety”… ok, fair enough…. but I have never ever seen a silver knife that does cut -talking about the long (meat) knives…
    I GUESS we put silver forks + knives upside down so that family letters (or “armoiries” in a few cases) can be seen….
    it’s only a guess… wonder where I can check upon that…

  58. We always laid our table this way at home too, though we never had quite so many courses to lay for and the forks and spoons stayed the right way up.
    Now my son has decided to reverse the sides the knife and fork go on, because that is how he likes to eat. No amount of telling him that the rest of the world does it this way will convince him to do otherwise when it’s his turn to lay the table, and he gets miffed if I lay his place the way I consider right!
    How do you keep all your silver clean Corey, it must take ages to polish?
    _____________________________________
    When I was a kid growing up I was in charge of setting the table. I loved doing it. I reinvented the settings like your son. Never the same any two nights in a row. My Mother constantly told me fork on the left…and each night I would forget.
    About polishing, if you use your silver often there is no need to polish it. Handling it often keeps it shining.

  59. Like you, I think mixed flatware looks so attractive. Luckily, while thrifting, I found real English (bowl shaped) silver soup spoons with our engraved ‘S’ – love these as we enjoy soup often!

  60. my parents taught me to eat pizza with a knife and fork too. it did not feel weird until i was 8 years old at a birthday party where all the kids just ate their pizza and i asked for a knife and fork. the adults were looking at me like i was a freak. and i felt like a freak. it’s strange because i stem from a country where we eat everything by hand and i guess my sweet parents just figured pizza was western food and therefore should be eaten as they do! with silverware!
    thank you for the crash course in french/european silverware ettiquette. your former self trying to fit in reminds me so much of myself now.

  61. The post may be about silverware, but I have fallen for the cups.The shape and the decoration. Impecable.
    I was trying to think where I’ve seen this motif before.
    Ines de la Fressange (one of the few style icons I acknowledge in my life), has a similar bay leaf motif on her logo.
    Oh well, I shall have to make a post about that, too!
    Thank you for the Beauty.

  62. I am always amazed at the beauty you see in the world and how beautifully you convey it to the world with your words and pictures. My heart just soars when I visit here. I may never get to France so I live vicariously through Corey. What would it be like to be Corey? Is France and French life really so beautiful? The lighting, the colors, the textures, the personalities?

  63. If you could just add smells to your blog it would be absolutely perfect. Until then I will just have to use my imagination.

  64. What beautiful pictures and what a great blog!
    I am so glad I stumbled across it!

  65. Corey,
    We soooo love all the smae things. Are you sure you aren’t my long lost sister????? I should be so lucky 😉

  66. Oh Corey,
    Your blog is an ode to life, and we all sing with you. Many, many blessings.
    I never knew the French put forks face-down… They’re less aggressive this way, more like the way they’re held during the meal. And the boeuf is one step closer to being stabbed and gulped down. Mmmmmm…. Bon appetit!

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