How to help a friend:
Look into their eyes.
Listen to their story.
Embrace their goodness.
Help them to wash their dirty dishes.
How do you help a friend when their heart is breaking?
Photo: Dishes on the counter waiting to be put away.
Friendship and the dishtowel
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50 responses to “Friendship and the dishtowel”
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What a delight!
Barbara -
So true, everyone needs friends like that and I hope I am a friend like that too to people when they need me. 🙂
And THank You for visitin my blog and commenting on my book, made me happY! -
I do the very same thing you do and sometimes I need that kind of friendship too.
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yep I do those things too……and bring the chocolate.
Amanda (aka Cottage Contessa) -
Love them, love them, love them
and spoiling lots of TLC
Love you dear one -
How true, how true.
And make them soup with lots of love in it! -
Yes, just be there with love.
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Food. Warm, sweet, childish food – apple pie, rice pudding, hot chocolate.
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There was a tradition of “spoons” between my best friend and me… when we were younger. A LONG story indeed…
As we collected boyfriends, we happened to collect heart breaks… If she and I had kept all the spoons of that time, I think we together could open a spoon shop !!! -
Love, patience and listening.
A good meal never hurts either. -
Listen . . . don’t comment.
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By introducing them to you !!!
You are such the best listener , the best match maker , the best “american” friend …
By the way As you teach to women how to do with men , you shoulg give to men also lessons of seduction … -
Yes. Make time to listen to a friend who feels broken, this is paramount!!!
Sometimes just “being” with a person can help them get to the next space, where healing can start.
After my Dad died, angels came out of the thin air to lead and guide me out of a deep sorrow, and get me back to where I am today. I have no idea where any of these people are. They were just there at the appointed hour. People who have kind hearts and took the time and to love and just “be” with me. -
Very true!
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everything you said and i would add a cup of tea! maybe even a party.
i am grateful to have had good people uplift my soul in hard times.
and when i had a girlfriend with a broken heart, i first convince them how the loss was the jerk’s, than i have a “coming out” party for them. at my house or go out dancing! WWWOOOOHOOOO!i say, you are coming out!! -
[I would be happy to grab a tish towel and help with the dishes…especially those you have collected the years of living in France!]
Listening with love is the most important thing a friend can do![We can listen while we do dishes!] -
Ooh, a broken heart…well sometimes you have to help hold it in your hands and treat it tenderly..sometimes it needs a laugh…or a listening ear…but most of all it needs to know that you are near, or ready to kick whomever’s butt that caused it to tear in two…or when it is beyond our meager powers here, just holding, that will do. AND the dishes. I like that one.All best, Jan
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Pretty much what you said, let them know they are heard and not alone. Clarice
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Yes, you help by listening, by not offering advice unless asked, and then forgetting everything she said when the heart is mended, and ‘they’ are back together..!
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helping a friend requires 3 things:
my ears
my hands (well maybe 4) my arms for hugging and squeezing*
but most of all my non-judgemental heart:)
sending love your way;) berriehead -
Two things… hugs and prayers.
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oops – I didn’t realize Amy’s post just before mine saying “three things”!
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Corey,
This should immediately be made into a poster…or card and you could sell a million.
What a dear person you must be to have as a friend.
Is Lea designing a labryinth for you…sigh. -
I would say I would certainly :
Be there (with her).
Keep the coffee percolator on.
Forget the clock.
Make her do something she used to love and was forgotten for long (because of him) -
I hope I can be these things when I see a friend in need…..great reminder.
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Give them a hug if they want, sit by them and listen, do not express your opinion regarding the other party, bring chocolate and coffee. Ask them if they want to go out for a walk and get some fresh air. Don’t bring wine-sometimes you hear more than you want to hear!
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Pouring your heart out to a friend who is a good listener and seeing a nice clear kitchen sink is like chicken soup for the soul.
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I am a big believer in Kitchen Table Kindness…it is a complete healer for all things that go wrong. You have your friend over, give them something wonderful to drink…medicinal or comforting…or STRONG, create some lovely food…like homemade soup and fresh bread, followed by a decadent dessert (chocolate being my heartbreak drug of choice) Let them talk and you be the listener. Tell them all the wonderful qualities you see in them…offer the gift of your time and heart…it is the BEST medicine.
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Short and so very true!
die Rabenfrau -
The little things that mean so much…
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Corey, oh yes I had the opportunity to be a good listener this weekend. I hug and cried with her. I could almost embrace her pain.
Pinkie Denise -
How true. It’s always the little things that can mean so much to someone.
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Hi Corey,
Love that post. I always try to be a good listner.
Have a wonderful day. My daughter called to tell me they arrived safely in Rome.
I am taking it easy today.
Rosemary -
Doing things together, listening, sharing, giving of oneself…being there when times are not good..this is a true friend.
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Hold their hand.
Be there.
Listen.
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Beautifully written, Corey. Your writings are such a treasure. Words of wisdom and guidance for your children, too. Are you keeping copies of these posts for your children?
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listen, hear, cry, hug, love.
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All the things you list are the most lovely and loving ways to help a friend. I also pray for the person and often write notes … mostly on bright,homemade postcards. It’s something they can hold onto. (I save all the sweet, meaningful, handwritten,handmade notes people send me and, in an email world, I love a message I can hold).
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Ice cream. I buy them ice cream.
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Corey, if my heart were breaking…you would be a loving salve.
Think of you. Just sending love.
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Perhaps I could get my husband to read the part about dish-washing?
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Simply said……wonderful!
Penny -
Good advice. Most especially the listening bit.
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Everything you said. And if its one of my girl friends, I take her out for coffee or afternoon tea. We sit, talk and I try to offer a shoulder to cry on and bring back some joy and laughter in her life. 🙂
Or I just sit and listen. Hug. Cry with them. Sometimes thats all they need… -
yes oh yes…blessings, rebecca
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Corey, I think just being there…and a ((hug))
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Corey,
As usual, you said it simply and perfectly.
~elaine~ -
I offer a shoulder to cry on an ear to listen and an offering of ~CHOCOLATE~ comfort food!
hugs Anna -
beautiful post.
i believe that you show up. that is how you help them. you show up and listen.
blessings to you dear one. -
give them chocolate…
hold them when they cry…
love each & every part of them…
& send them to corey’s blog!
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