Living in a Monastery

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When I was nineteen I went to live in a Benedictine Monastery in New Mexico. As the monastery was semi cloistered each community member was assigned a task to do when they arrived to help maintain the monastery and partake in community life.

The Abbot asked me if I knew how to cook. I lied and said yes.

You see right before he asked me if I liked to cook, he asked the other young woman who arrived at the same time as I did to the Abbey, what she like to do? The young woman replied that she liked to sing and play the guitar. The Abbot said she could play with the other musicians at the liturgy. Though the laundry room needed helpers, so when she wasn’t playing during liturgy she could assist in the laundry room. He then looked at me.

Ironing and I were not the best of friends… I feared I would get stuck ironing. The Abbot didn’t ask me want I liked to do…all he said was, "Do you like to cook?" I thought cooking was far better than being in the laundry room. My first sin at the monastery was I lied, "Yes, I love to cook."

The Abbot loved to eat meat…barely cooked meat at that. I was a vegetarian. When he showed me the kitchen I noticed three things: 1) There was a walk in cooler full of meat. 2) The only vegetables were canned. 3) The professionally equipped kitchen was on the top floor of the Abbey and overlooked the grounds.

The Abbot handed me a book titled, "Sugar Blues" and said, "No sugar is allowed, except for birthday cakes for the members of the community."

"No sugar?" I asked.

"No sugar." He said.

"Is honey or fructose, or natural sugar in fruit, consider sugar?" I asked.

He looked at me as if I was trying to be smart, though in the corner of his eye I saw a small twinkle, he said, "No white sugar."

I knew better, I don’t know why I did, but I pushed it a bit further by asking, "Is brown sug….." But before I could utter the the ending to sugar, he gave a stern look and said, "No white or brown sugar."

I didn’t dare ask about tofu.

I knew the Abbot and I were going to be the reason for many hours of prayers for patience.

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One of the many pleasure of working in the kitchen in the Abbey was that I got to drive into Santa Fe once every two weeks to go grocery shopping. Most of the members in community never left the Abbey unless to visit home once a year, or for a doctor’s appointment if needed.

On those outings I bought kitchen supplies that weren’t delivered to the Abbey, and I was able to buy sugar if a cake needed to be baked. I loved when it was someone’s birthday and I got to make a cake. Especially if they asked for Chocolate. If they didn’t ask for Chocolate, I would ask them if they were trying to make me hate my job or just torture me for the fun of it? I told them that God smile when Chocolate was being used in our kitchen and that the angels would guide them from harm.

They usually let me have my way. I was after all the youngest in community, and they loved doing acts of Christian charity even if that meant, letting me make a chocolate cake for them on their birthday, even if they didn’t like chocolate.

Actually Jack (a community member of the Abbey, and my superior in the kitchen) made the rare chocolate birthday cakes… I helped by licking the bowl and washing the pots and pans.

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More stories of the monastery in the months to come.

Side notes: The nun in the photo is not me. Though it seems we had something in common.



Comments

42 responses to “Living in a Monastery”

  1. So much joy and wisdom here – I want to ask you Corey – how did you happen to go into a monastery at nineteen?
    What drew you to this experience – to this choice?
    xox – eb.

  2. Corey,
    You have had such an interesting life.
    I really enjoy reading your blog. It’s like a good book.
    Rosemary

  3. oh sweet lord, a volontary living in a monastary! difficult to swallow!
    to me a punishment after having spent my entire school period with severe nons!
    they represented a first experience between good and bad!
    however a good lesson in life!
    and i’m sure you have learned a lot as well over there!

  4. Longing for more of, “My Life in a Monastery.” 🙂
    Those fruits and veggies look sooo good!!!

  5. I love your stories they are enchanting and enrich me beyond measure………
    I love you
    Jeanne

  6. LMAO…you lied.
    I can’t wait to hear more.

  7. Corey,
    Funny that you lied at the monastary. I just love that!! Did you become a good cook because of your job at the monastary? And how, why and when did you become a vegetarian?

  8. You have definitely lead an interesting life, Corey. I can just see you lying to the Abbot. Were your fingers crossed? Great story – I can’t wait to hear more.

  9. ….you are jus too sweet corey…. 🙂
    delphine

  10. This is a fabulous story Corey – so few people have had such a life experience. I would have had a problem there (well a lot of problems most likely!) being a vegetarian for almost 30 years. How did you make the choice to actually live in a semi-cloistered monastery? Were you planning to become a nun? Did the need to dance and a Frenchman change your mind? So many questions – you must write the book.
    Sending happy New Year wishes – enjoy your celebration, knowing you and Yann it will be special.

  11. I can envision this all occurring in my head. You are an excellent storyteller.

  12. You sound a little mischevious like Maria in the Sound of Music! I would like to know what motivated you to go to there.

  13. Rare meats and no white sugar and canned vegetables… oh my!!
    I love the above photos of all the fresh vegetables. I can’t imagine how nice it must be to walk down a street and have all those vegetables calling out to you, “pick me” “eat me” “turn me into soup”, etc. etc.
    I wish you and your family a very Happy New Year!!

  14. What an interesting life You have! We have a monastery (holy Birgitta) 20 km from where I live and another not far from our sommer cottage (Vadstena monastery).We ususally visit every summer because it´s a beautiful old town and monastery and it feels like being in another world!
    I wish You and your family a very Happy New Year 2008!
    Liisa

  15. Have you ever read Kathleen Norris, who worteabout her experience as a lay member of a cloistered community? Cloister Walk is the name of the book.
    I fantasized about becoming a Carmelite nun all through grade school. My aunt’s sister became a sister, and I will never forget the first time she came to visit in her towering black and white habit. She’s gone on to be quite a success, head of her order, and ran the midwifery program at Columbia Presbyterian in NY. We need more nuns and sisters in the world! And I could sure use a term in a monastery.

  16. Like a wonderful book…..I can’t wait to get to the next chapter:D Thanks so much for sharing this part of your life with us!!!!! Happy New Year Corey:D

  17. What is truth anyway? Do you love to cook now?
    I love reading the stories of your life…they are all so very interesting and unique.

  18. I picture you as the flying nun.:) Naughty, but nice. My Mom almost became a Nun, but changed her mind after her last interview where the Abbott drove home the fact that
    O B E D I E N C E was one of the driving forces at the convent.
    (I’m glad she didn’t, otherwise I wouldn’t be here!)
    Happy New Year Corey!
    xo Lidy

  19. This post put a smile on my face, Corey. I can just imagine you trying to figure out how to get sugar on the menu. I bet you charmed the abbott with your “what about…”? I’m afraid if I was at the monastery in my early twenties, everyone would be eating macaroni and cheese every day!

  20. Marie-Noëlle

    NOW do you fancy “religieuses au chocolat”?
    … a good balance between the monastery and chocolate…
    If you are still the one in charg of fresh fruit from the market, you can have one “à la fraise” or “au cassis” …

  21. Cannot wait to read more! You know I love to paint my whimsical nuns, now you have given me inspiration to paint one with vegetables, hmm, canned? or fresh? 🙂
    Teresa
    xo

  22. This was a life I was drawn to, but not ‘called’ to. What a wondeful experience.
    I hope you share more in the year ahead. Best wishes to your family in 2008
    xx

  23. He didn’t ask if you *could* cook. Just if you liked to. And when compared to ironing, you loved to cook. Doesn’t sound like a lie to me. 🙂

  24. Can’t wait for the rest of the story. I was also going to ask you about Cloister Walk, but I see someone already has. Happy New Year!

  25. I had a friend years ago that was in the process of becoming a nun…then she met a guy and ended up pregnant (which is neither here nor there).
    I wish I had discussed that part of her life with her – I don’t even know if we EVER talked about it. I remember some details so I either heard about it from someone else, or we had a brief conversation.
    I’ve always been intrigued with the whole idea of someone choosing to become a nun (I’m not Catholic – but the whole thing is still interesting to me).

  26. Did they call you Maira?
    Did you wear a habit?
    I can’t wait to hear more :o)

  27. Oh Corey, I love your stories!! Especially about the Monastery days! How wonderful! Licking chocolate bowls!! hee heee

  28. Great beginning of this part of your life… My mom wanted to be a nun. She sometimes still says, I so wish I’d been a nun… that is when I say, but mom… if you had been, I would not be!!!
    Guess what I got today??? My Victoria. It’s all there Corey, your home in gorgeous light and color photos and I am so happy to visit this happy and special place of my heart, where such cherished friends of my heart, live, laugh, and fill the world with such beauty…

  29. Corey, you always make me smile. I can see you there now. Your presence must have been like someone opening a window on a glorious spring day. 😉

  30. Yes, I’d like to hear about the “why” of your young vocation.

  31. Corey, I can tell you’ve brought enthusiasm and joy to wherever you’ve been!

  32. Oh Corey!! I can’t wait to hear more about your time in the monastery… I always love reading about people’s experiences in such places. 🙂

  33. Some day you WILL write a book about your life’s experiences. You are so interesting and such a great story teller.
    ~elaine~

  34. Lovely. Looking forward to more.

  35. Good! I always want to hear more of this time in your life, you know.
    …Because I’m so holy, an’ stuff. 😉
    🙂

  36. I’m looking forward to hearing more. I think living in a monastary is a very uncommon experience. That marketplace is spectacular!

  37. Corey,
    I can sooo see you asking about the different sugars LOL!!! I enjoyed this story and look forward to more of your stories from the monestary.

  38. Nice one – the white lie on your first day. That was a funny post 🙂

  39. Julie G. Baxley

    Corey, I live in New Mexico; were you at Christ in the Desert? There is a cloistered monastery here in Roswell and I am so intrigued with the nuns behind the walls. Luckily I do notary work for them, so I’ve met quite a few of the 32 women that live at Our Lady of Guadalupe Poor Clare Monastery! I look forward to more of your tales of monastic life.

  40. A delicious memory. And in a monestery to boot. Your experiences are encouraging and honest. Thanks for sharing and happy new year to you!

  41. I bet you charmed the heck out of the Abbot and everyone else in the monastery, Corey! I love how you tried to get around the no sugar rule. Good thinking on the honey and natural sugars.

  42. Too funny… this made me laugh. I love Santa Fe, especially the little chapel there. Can’t think of the name but it’s the one with the spiral staircase made by the mysterious stranger who came to help the nuns. I used to think about being a nun when I was younger (even though I’m not Catholic – I’m Lutheran). I can’t wait to hear more stories about your life there.
    Ariane

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