The Dusty French Antique Shop

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Venturing out to one of my favorite antique shops yesterday, I tried to imagine what I hoped to find. This summer, when I was antiquing with my mother, I asked her to visualize what she wanted to see, and she said she was looking for a rusty red bed. At the very next stop, she found one.

With that in mind, I tried to visualize what I wanted, and nothing particular came to mind. But I went anyway in joyful expectation of just getting back into my everyday life, where I peek into an antique shop before grocery shopping.

Photo: French canisters that do not have lids; I will use them to hold spoons, flowers, or something like that.

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When I walked into the shop, I nearly tripped over the boxes, and things sprawled over the floor. I looked at the owner as if to say, "What happened here?" It seemed someone had just delivered a pile of treasures, and the owner hadn't had time to put them away, let alone price them.

Photo: A crystal bathroom canister with a silver lid. I have placed the tea in it instead, which is in the kitchen.

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The owner came up to me and said he had heard about my loss and offered his condolence. I was caught off guard… I didn't expect him to know. I hadn't thought about what I would say about my long absences.

Photo: A pair of silver wine bottle trays.

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…and with that, I was caught off guard and started to cry. And not just a few tears but an entire truckload of tears. Uncontrollable sobs. And as I stood in the sprawled-out mess of antiques, I couldn't see very well to get away and get hold of myself. So I just stood there blubbering in French and feeling very self-conscious.

Photo: A turn of the century glass frame without an image and with water spots on it.

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The owner bowed his head and looked the other way. Then in a flash, he gently grabbed my shoulder and said,  "I am sorry, it is hard, it takes time…" He bent down, putting the canisters, the crystal canister, the wine trays, this little blue and white espresso cup, and…

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These three 19-th century French demi-tasses with gold and pink, hand-painted roses into a basket. I wondered what he was doing, and my tears subsided. He looked up, smiled, and said, "It was dust in your eyes?" With that, I knew he was telling me it was okay and trying to help me feel less self-conscious.

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Then he handed me the basket and this miniature painting. With that, he said, "Welcome back; I hope this little offering comforts you and lets you know I care about you."

A billow of dust engulfed me, and did I ever start wiping my eyes? I knew I had found what I was looking for–

My everyday life.

Note: As a way of paying it forward– add your name here, and I will pick a name out of a hat or something this coming Saturday and send a porcelain demi-tasse cup to the lucky winner.

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Thank you! As of today, Saturday, September 13th, the comments for the draw are closed. Winners will be announced around  10:00 am French time.



Comments

230 responses to “The Dusty French Antique Shop”

  1. ….paying it forward….There is no better way to serve the Universe. All my life I have held this strong belief and made it a daily practice. I am happy that it is shared by more and more forward thinking and enlightenend persons such as you. Corey, your beauty radiates brilliantly from within. Thank you for YOU!

  2. Corey,
    Can’t believe I’m first! How’d that happen…must be fate.
    Put my name in under D’s, 🙂
    rel

  3. Dear Corey, my tears are rolling down as I type.
    I check your blog every day looking for some comfort and learning how to cope with my lose. all you say is very close to me as I also lost my mom this summer.
    is not for the present (even if you pick my name, please give it to someone else), I just feel that I need to tell you THANK YOU!
    Love,
    Irina (Hong Kong)

  4. I know grief,and how it can take a person by surprise, and the flood gates open, only one who has been there can understand, the shopowner is a dear.

  5. Corey, your beautiful blog always brings up a swell of emotions out of me…Thank you.

  6. What a sweet man in that shop! You make good friends, but how could it be otherwise? I know it sounds impossible, but the grief will lessen – at least the violence of it. My mother died in 2001 and I can still tear up on occasion. (I turned 50 that year, too.)

  7. how nice people can be… you must feel very treasured and welcome to be home again. i’m happy for you! sending regards, erika

  8. Sorry for your loss, it does take time, doesn’t it? Hope you take some small measure of comfort in knowing that your words bring hope and positivity and spread cheer, even to someone 6000 miles away. I look forward to your site everyday.

  9. It is the unexpected words of people you never thought were a real part of your life who can bring the sorrow to the top. It’s like watching something bubble up.

  10. Your writing is so beautiful. I am sitting here with tears in my own eyes. How wonderful to live among people so sensitive and caring. You are truly blessed!

  11. Jeanne from Ohio in USA

    God always puts someone in your path when you most need encouragement!

  12. coming after a long time
    feels as if i’ve returned to France with you
    🙂

  13. Once again you have brought tears to my eyes…truckloads!!!! What kind and thoughtful people there are all over the world!!! It makes my heart smile…….

  14. The unexpected gestures of kindness. So Real, heartfelt. I think they missed you in France. You pay it forward every day when you share this blog. Thank You!

  15. Oh, those tears that just come out of the blue! What a nice way to be comforted though.
    I am always encouraged by the way you are able to make friends and see the good in people and situations. It comes back to you when you least expect it.
    Nancy

  16. Corey,I had a very similar experince9too many tears),after the loss of my parents. What a comforting gesture,filled with love.May your everyday life be all that you wish for… and of course you must keep sharing your adventures,we old antiquers need inspiration. blessings

  17. It will happen many more times. And, although tears will fall, happy memories will come to mind at the same time.
    What a kind and generous man. I will keep what he said in mind “It was dust in your eyes?”
    So glad you’re home and routine is taking hold. It’s calming.
    michelleb.

  18. What a sweet shop owner! and you’re sweet too, to pay it forward…

  19. Better than any of the things that kind man gave you is the sentiment of caring behind them. Welcome back to your everyday life 🙂

  20. Corey~
    This beautiful story stirred up the dust in my house, and brought tears to my eyes. What an understanding and compassionate Frenchman.
    Nancy

  21. I think I have “dust in my eyes” too, after reading your words. And the paying it forward, what a special idea! Your father was there in the antique store for sure, he knew you needed a good cry. If my name comes out of that hat of yours, do me a favor- fill up the demi-tasse cup with flowers or a bag of tea and in your dad’s name offer it to someone in your area that you find in need of some TLC. Your father is definitely around you 🙂

  22. Hi Corey,
    I’m from Australia and am not writing for the gift.
    Thank you for sharing, the story is beautiful. I look forward to coming here and feel like I am home when I read about the beauty you find, the stories behind the items and how you come across them.
    What a lovely story! You share so much joy.
    Thank you
    Debs

  23. Dang – now I have dust in my eyes!
    I’m sure you needed a really good dose of dust in your eyes.
    I’m glad you are getting back into your everyday life. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.
    Hugs,
    Tina

  24. Oh, Corey, that is so sweet! Isn’t it wonderful to have people like that in your life? Just a shop keeper but what a people person to know what is happening with his customers. God is looking out for you!
    Jill

  25. I am so thankful that you are back with your family. It will take time to readjust – but you know they are glad to have to back!
    Your antique store friend is so sweet! What a welcome home!

  26. Christy in Texas

    What a lovely, caring gesture your antique ‘friend’ made! Seeing that painting will always give a double memory – father and friend. Maybe it is a way for your father to let you know that he is there with you in your French home – whether he ever actually visited it or not……Life goes on.

  27. Cheryl in California

    Corey, Some of that magic dust has flown back to California and landed in my heart…er I mean my eyes. How very touching.

  28. what a wonderful story. Oh, I have been there with the tears……they just start and its hard to stop them…..that was just so sweet of him. That is so wonderful you are paying it forward….I just love reading your blog everyday.

  29. I love you my darling one.
    Big hugs and kisses.
    I am sure you are having a glorious time finding all of your antiques calling out your name.
    Love Jeanne

  30. What a lovely man – and he knew what to do too – a few quiet words and a few quiet, pretty pieces to give you a bit of welcome home and help settle you back in little by little.

  31. Sometimes people come into our lives at exactly the right time. And how wonderful that you have mementos that will remind you of that kindness…It is a lovely thought that your memories now meld so softly with those who treasured these items in the past.
    I am grateful that this shopkeeper was able to offer you the sort of comfort those of us who read your blog wish we could give. Please know we send our own small baskets of comfort from all around the globe–add Indiana in the US to that–if even just in thought.
    All the Best as you settle back into your french life.
    DEB

  32. Those types of gestures make life sweet don’t they?

  33. sometimes it the kindness of strangers that get you through the tough times

  34. See how you are loved. I well remember the “getting caught off guard” moments which still happen but not so often. I have walked the streets of London Christmas shopping whilst crying my eyes off. I was standing crying in the supermarket the same Christmas when a lovely old gent patted my shoulder and said ” i always feel sorry for the girls at Christmas ” – think he thought I was overwhelmed by all the Christmas chores rather than grief! Peace, Jx

  35. Amazing!! What a precious friend. You really are home.

  36. Wecome home, Corey.
    xox

  37. What a wonderful, gentle man to comfort you – not only was it “dust”, it was a cleansing! Thanks for sharing

  38. Blessings to you sweet Cory~
    Your gentle kindness and thoughtful gestures bless others so often. May there be many joyful, hopeful, healing days ahead. May GOD soften the path before you.

  39. I LOVE antique shops that are loaded with ‘stuff’ and spending the whole morning finding good finds.

  40. Your tears have given me “permission” to let mine go too. A death in the family and a wedding within a week and now a new job overseeing a large Christian non-profit. Tears flow. Thank you, Corey.

  41. suddenly I cried when I read your post.. I don’t know why.. but I do know how it feels to loose someone so dear to you.. and the shop keeper was sweet and he knows how to comfort your sadness.. welcome home! and have a nice day!..

  42. How beautiful dear Corey!! What a sweet and thoughtful man ~ (((((hugs))))) to you sweetie and I’m sure each and every time your eyes fall on these treasures you will be reminded of his kind heart and your precious father, xxoo, Dawn

  43. What a beautiful post. A lovely start to the morning.
    hugs,
    Gail

  44. What a lovely story! That shop owner is such a kind person.

  45. Oh my goodness Corey, what a sweet, sweet story. That first time when you are caught off guard after losing a loved one can really throw you. What a kind man to try and make you feel less self-conscious. Men are usually very bad at handling emotions…they just want to fix everything. I guess this was his way of “fixing” you…. what a dear. 🙂
    Joy

  46. Welcome back to home and hearth, Corey. And what a fine thing that fellow did for you! To warm and comfort and gift you with little treasures. Very fine.

  47. God bless you, Corey. I’ve come to think of you as a friend.
    Sher

  48. I am always taken with the “chance” encounters that enter your life. These are obviously people who are as caring and sensitive as you are and recognize that this is a rough time for you. You don’t need to enter my name in the drawing – I just wanted you to know that your writing about your “everyday life” is a heartwarming moment in mine.

  49. You get back what you give. It goes to show how much you are treasured by everyone you touch, Corey.
    Shannon 🙂

  50. Isn’t it wonderful when the things you love return to love you too? When your daily life is so connected that the people you meet and with whom you interact care so very much about you? Your story brought tears to my eyes. And your finds are beautiful.

  51. I have tears in my eyes as I read your post.
    Such a lovely and kind man. I am sure that he gave you these beautiful treasures out of respect for you.
    After my Mother-in-law’s death, I would see her everywhere and I would cry at the drop of a hat…anywhere I happened to be. She lived with us after a stroke…for the last three years of her life. I experienced many kindnesses from strangers when I happened to cry out in public…people do come through when you need them.
    You are so kind to share your gifts with us…thank you.

  52. Corey, I want you to know that when you cry, you are not crying alone. So many times over these months when you were shedding tears of sadness, and tears of joy, and I know I don’t speak alone, we were right here, sharing and shedding those tears with you. Thank you so much for sharing your heart. You are an amazing woman.

  53. Such a touching gesture in the midst of the dailiness of living…a gift beyond the material…a heart and soul connection. That’s exactly what I experience when I read your posts, dear Corey.

  54. Corey…what a precious story…beware of those tears they will come at the least expected times!

  55. The grief comes at expected and unexpected times. Sending hugs your way…time will make it easier.

  56. What a lovely gesture…!!! That’s when you feel you are home…!!
    Isabel

  57. God works in mysterious ways 🙂

  58. I only wish I could say that the pain of loss will get easier with time but years later it will still bring on the same flood of tears. When these moments of loss and pain come to the surface, trying wrapping the sorrow with all those treausred memories gathered through the years. This makes it more bearable. You couldn’t feel the loss if you didn’t experience the joy.
    Patty

  59. His kindness would have had me crying AGAIN. Thanks for offering this gift to your readers. Wouldn’t it be so exotic to have a box coming from France…….with a beautiful demitasse cup? Oh, living on the Illinois prairie I can dream, can’t I?
    – Suzanne, the Farmer’s Wife

  60. Corey,
    It takes as long as it takes.
    What a sweet man. So tender.
    *hug*

  61. Corey- It is clear that you were supposed to be in that shop yesterday, to have someone connect with your spirit in such a profound way. What a kind, sweet man to offer his sympathy and give you the time to express your sorrow.

  62. constance lefevre forehand

    this same thing happened to me after i had lost my mother. my mother, a buyer for woodard& lothrops in washington d.c. for 44 years, an incredable lady, lived her last 9 years with my husband and me. when she died, i would go to shops that no one knew me that well just to stay busy. i drove 40 miles to a favorite shop and the owner who i had talked with in the past said to me ” you are such a sweet person” at that i started crying and explained to her that i had just lost my mother, she came from around the counter and hugged me. i’m tearing up now remembering it. it takes a lot of time. todays love to you and may GOD comfort you and give you peace. i’m glad there are people in the world like your shop owner.

  63. Corey,
    Its hard – hard to see those familiar faces because not only do you have to relive it all again but because you ARE going back to your “normal” life and how can that be when you’ve experienced such a great loss – but it is also so true that going back to living your life is exactly what you need to do. Time really does heal. And living a full happy engaged life is the best gift we can give our father’s memories. Relish each “normal” moment, day.
    Ruth

  64. You bring out the best in all of us, dear Corey! What a wonderful thoughtful man … a simple gesture that speaks volumes. I’m afraid a little of that dust has gotten into my eyes as well.
    xo,
    Lynda

  65. Tripping on Goodness – You are truly a blessed woman. I read your blog daily and your life inspires me. Today you’ve taught me that through life there may be difficult times but there are also times when you accidently stumble on blessings and goodness.
    Thanks for sharing.

  66. Hi Corey,
    I am not after your give away but just want to say thank you for the story. It is stories like this one I collect within and treasure. They tell me that even a person you never met before can help you become whole again.
    I wish you all the best.
    Elizabeth

  67. Great, now I have dust in my eye also! : )
    My admiration for the French just went up a notch. Maybe since I have French blood in me, I would usually get annoyed when the American media (or whoever) would get a little dig in at the French.

  68. sometimes you need that dust in your eyes. As time goes by the pain fades but never goes away, becuase we never want to forget those we love and lost.

  69. Unbelievable compassion and kindness. That shop owner is very much a blessing and his act of kindness is inspiring….paying it forward…..

  70. People know, the connections are like little invisible threads, filigree, that suddenly glow gold and you realize they have been there all along. What a LOVELY experience! What a lovelier shop owner!
    If you pull/pick my name, will you give the gift to your young friend who was bitten in the face by the dog? That is an ongoing heart-hurt of mine – how IS she?

  71. corey,
    isn’t it just amazing the direction our everyday life can take us……..
    meleen dupré

  72. So sweet of that french man. We can find friendship wherever we least expect it.
    I’m glad you found a bit of your “everyday life in France” entering that antique shop, Corey.
    Love*

  73. becky up the hill

    Well if you didn’t know it before you know it now, these ‘dusty’ moments will happen many times. Time and distance mean nothing to the heart. That was an endearing story.

  74. Of Course I now have dust in my eyes too like many of us here! What a wonderful place to live where your town remembers you while you are gone and welcomes you softly back. Glad you feel HOME again and ready to continue the adventures.
    Lynn O’C
    Illinois

  75. That is the nicest story!!
    How very sweet!
    Wish I were there to give you a big hug.
    Rosemary

  76. Corey, I am glad that you are home. As the shop owner said, it does take time.
    I will see you next month.

  77. I was just thinking this morning about how we influence other people’s days without ever knowing about it, whether for good or bad. His kind gesture not only aided your heart, it has multiplied its benefits with your telling of it. Like ripples in the water, a kind word can touch many other lives.
    Thank you for the ‘paying it forward’ idea, but please do not add my name to the draw. I have so much stuff that I need to let go to bless someone else that I’d love the demitasse cup to bless another friend here.

  78. You teach me to be brave with my feelings and emotions Corey. To not hide what I am experiencing but to let it out, let it live, let everyone know these emotions are part of what makes the truth in me. To trust that when I do allow myself to express my heart’s condition that there will be gentle souls ready to help. Admiring you, as always. . .

  79. Beautiful story Corey. The antique owner sounds like a treasure himself. We got dust over here too apparently, because I have tears after reading your story.

  80. My how that dust does travel. What treasures you received in the caring of another soul. Welcome home!
    I hope you are also enjoying your bed.

  81. After my father died for several years afterwards I could cry at the drop of a hat when I thought of him and what a loss we had suffered.

  82. ‘Everyday life’ is what’s most important, especially when the everyday people around one are so kind and generous with both the right words……and the little extra treasures. This gentleman knows how to treat a lady, that’s for sure! Such lovely things to grace your home Corey.
    Letting the tears fall is never wrong, and good people understand the loss of a loved one – it’s something we all have in common at one time or another. I often feel tears welling when I think of my dear parents, perhaps this is God’s way of making us so thankful for what we had.
    See you in Aix – such a wonderful thought!

  83. kindness is everywhere.
    xoxo

  84. I too have dust in my eyes. I am so glad you are home.
    Barbara

  85. What a lovely story! I have no doubt that each and every one of us who reads it will also have dust in our eyes. Welcome home Corey!!

  86. Corey,
    What a beautiful welcome you received, such kindness. The shop keepers gesture is so touching.
    Your father and my grandmother passed about the same time and I feel every step of your journey. I had a similar emotional experience while traveling. My husband and I walked into an eating establishment and I was caught off guard by the smell of the food. It brought back an instant memory of my grandmother and the night she passed. I was standing there stiff as a post trying to hold it all together when my poor husband thought I did not want to eat there. I was trembling and trying not to melt down as he kept assuring me we could eat elsewhere. I made it back to the car and the dam burst. He was still trying to comfort me with the fact that I did not have to eat there until I was able to gain control and tell him that it was not the food choice but the memory of how many times we stopped there to buy my grandmother her favorite meal and the fact that this was the same place we had eaten the night she passed. I was shocked at my reaction to a simple smell. I guess it is all a part of grieving.
    I am thrilled that you are finding footing in your everyday life!

  87. what a sweet, sweet man. it sounds as though you did get just what you needed when you ventured out. God’s ways are mysterious & very beautiful!

  88. Corey,
    Thank you for sharing that story. That was such a kind gesture by the store owner.

  89. I am not leaving a comment because of a giveaway……..
    this story touched me. The story of a random act of kindness that is often so lost. Knowing too well that moment when tears are not within our control…..knowing there will be the odd condolence or the gesture of “I’m sorry for your loss” that will spring them(tears) in to action.
    What a wonderful moment you had with this person….who knew why you were absent….and who took a moment to dry your eyes with his empathy.
    Love,
    Lisa
    XOXO

  90. ..seems like that dust is everywhere!
    ..thank you so much for your posts, I look in daily and you are an inspiration… and as the saying goes ‘what goes around comes around’..you certainly deserve all the kindness that come your way.

  91. there is a turkish poem..
    named..
    I didn’t cry when my father passed away..
    and goes on.. telling..
    the poet’s not being able to cry during the ceremony, during the prayers..
    the final part.. is..
    and then a few days later..
    I went on my balcony..
    my geraniums were all fading..
    I said to myself I should ask my father..
    and then I cried..
    Dear Corey..
    I wish you start soon.. to remember just tender moments shared with your father and be able to smile thinking about him..
    loves and hugs ..
    from here..
    to you..

  92. Corey, surely your Father was standing behind this lovely man, smiling and beckoning at you from the sunrise… We all care for you, and pass teacups your way on a daily basis!
    Butterfly kisses to you my dear!

  93. Although I read your post almost every day, I rarely comment – feeling that others have said what I could say. But this story touched me so much.
    It made me think of how we on this planet, separated not only by distance but also by culture and language, share the emotions of humanity. Grief and joy are universal, as are caring responses such you tell of in this story.
    When we take the time to show, by small gestures or words, the love and care we feel in our hearts, the world is made smaller and the differences of culture and language fall away to reveal the shining soul beneath.
    Thank you for sharing this story.
    Lorrie

  94. Bonnie Buckingham

    Well, that is very kind, Corey!
    Whoever gets it will treasure it.
    Hope you have some wonderful
    cups with your family too.
    Have you ever been to Louviers?
    And Susan Loomis’ cooking school?
    ( On Rue Tatin)
    Bonnie

  95. Kindness is everywhere.

  96. Oh Corey, what a dear, dear thing for him to do for you. We must all be so touched.
    Annie

  97. Oh, Corey, now you have me crying. We never seem to see these moments coming and yet they do.
    I’m SO glad this man is in your French world! He gifted you generously before he shared his wares with you. What a beautiful spirit!
    May God continue to comfort you and surround you with such special antique dealers.

  98. Ohhhhh, thank you for sharing this wonderful heartwarming story. A big hug to that sweet man!
    xoxoxo

  99. Thank you for reminding us all of the way we affect one another’s lives with a simple act of kindness.
    I am humbled by the lesson of the shop owner and the generous nature of his gesture. I will strive to emulate his example.
    Your life touches so many others. You gave him the chance to express love to another person simply because you have shared your heart.
    My tears are still falling after reading this post.
    Thank you.

  100. I have tears in my eyes, too! What a sweet gesture for a sweet woman! You inspire all of us. Thank you!

  101. Friends and comforts come in the strangest places and in friends you never knew you had. This shop owner was very kind to have found out where his special american antiquer was for so long. What a wonderful way to get back to your life someone remembered you and was very thoughtful to let you know he cares too. Glad all is starting to get back to normal for you at home…getting into your old routine. Jeanette

  102. He is a wonderful man. I know you will think of his shop first now, when you want something special.
    You and I seem to have the same taste in bibelots!

  103. So refreshing to hear a nice true story. Thank you Corey.

  104. Corey – It seems as if your antique dealer has a gentleman’s character and thoughtfulness; his gestures prove as much. Though self-conscious, I think it’s wonderful that you are capable of overpowering emotion. Now, you can think of your father when you look at those beautiful objects. Though he’s physically gone, isn’t wonderful to know that he’s still introduced into your life in the most unforeseen instances? Thoughts and prayers devoted to you and your family.

  105. God is in the world and working through us!

  106. Corey,
    You never fail to strike that deep chord in my heart with your posts about love and loss and the little details that make up our lives. I’ve decided to adopt you as my aunt because 1) you are living my dream of one day residing in France and speaking the language and 2) because you’re a namesake! My first name is Coryell (a surname of French derivation, I believe?); growing up, my family called me Cory.
    Blessings to you! (Do the French have a term that means “kindred spirit”?)
    Love,
    Rebecca

  107. I really have nothing to say. I’m fighting another migraine and I love the roses on those cups. Have fun wondering the shops!

  108. Welcome home indeed. How everyone must have missed you and be so happy to see you again.
    What a kind and compassionate man to provide an outlet for such healing tears.
    Erin in Morro Bay

  109. Corey …you never fail to strike it rich when you go out to the flea markets. All your finds are fabulous …I especially love the canisters without lids. Wishing you a happy week …alice

  110. Sometimes I think unexpected kindnesses from near strangers are the sweetest. Years ago I worked in a restaurant in the cool section of our city. I worked there for almost 10 years, during my 20s. I was a waitress and bartender, and I took it very seriously. People would sometimes look down on it, but I knew that it was a important profession when done with love and sensitivity. Many,many times people let down their guard with me, and told me things that I know they would not tell their best friend. I saw people at their best, and many times at their most lonely, moments. In particular, a man that was a occasional customer with his wife, was a very regular customer with his girlfriend. Wife was wonderful,girlfriend was not. His 22 year old daughter died unexpectedly. I was torn. I wanted to offer sympathy with a card or basket, but how could he justify this to his wife, who did not know he frequented the restaurant so much? I sent nothing. A few weeks later, he came in with his girlfriend, and I privately offered my condolences and the reason for my silence before. He sat in the restaurant and cried and cried. He thanked me for my sensitivity.And cried and cried some more. Later, his girlfriend cornered me in the dining room, and chastised me. ‘What did you say to him?!” I replied that I said I was sorry for his loss. And I was glad. Glad to see that her lack of understanding was so obvious. Glad that soon he would come to his senses and return fully to his wife, who was so devastated and needed his love so much.Sometimes we can unexpectedly be ourselves in front of near strangers. Sometimes, the kindness of others can strike a resonant cord. Sometimes we can share a moment of true human connection with another and then be on our way. And that can spur us on to be kind and loving to others. To pay it forward everyday.

  111. You’ve never failed to touch my heart. I can so relate to this story and it brought back memories of the loss of my Dad and the kindness of strangers.
    What a wonderful healing experience!
    I’d love to win the cup~

  112. Wow – I just got all teary myself. I have to say your blog always touches me – thank you for keeping us all real. As I get mine together – I will share it with you. Thank you for sharing your life with us all.

  113. What a sweet man and wonderful, kind gesture! Welcome, home, Corey. It is obvious you are loved by more than your immediate family there in France! 🙂

  114. Corey ~ your post is very touching and so are all of your comments that you have gotten.
    a many hugs

  115. Oh Corey!
    The healing takes forever, doesn’t it? And yet, back in the normal every day life seems to help.
    I hope you are finding comfort back with your family…
    Beverly

  116. Unexpected kindness is such a gift, isn’t it? Count me in for the fun of passing it along.
    Welcome home,
    Diane

  117. What a thoughtful shopkeeper. The tears will always come at unexpected times. I lost my dad in ’76 & the tears still come but not quite as painful as the first ones. Time always helps. I hope you mom is doing okay without you by her side. It’s so hard on both sides of the globe. Lucky she has lots of family around. Your dad is always with you.

  118. I could hardly wait for your posts from “home” to begin. You are now seeing all those treasures through different eyes, albeit sometimes teary ones.

  119. So glad you are back to your everyday life.
    Losses like yours happen everyday around the world- so people feel your loss around the world- even your home in France.
    Stories like this should be remembered, because the French get a bad wrap, but I have found them to be warm, smart, witty and funny.
    What a lovely story and lovely treasures.
    I think you should pick the name out of the basket the shop owner gave you your treasures in 🙂

  120. How very, very kind and sweet. And it just sounds soooo French.

  121. Oh the dust around this place is absolutely beautiful. : )
    Normal may not be perfect … but it is comforting like a ragged quilt that we remember using at great-grandmas house during those delightful summer vacations.
    Wrap yourself up in the delightfully mundane and inhale the fragrance of belonging.
    Welcome home, sweet friend.

  122. Your blog should be named “From the Heart”, because I am so moved by your writing. Today’s story brought tears to my eyes and joy to my heart knowing that there are kind hearted people around the world who want to comfort and help those in pain. Thank you for sharing your life and helping me in mine. Cheers.

  123. Yep, it’s pretty dusty in my office today! This is a wonderful story and what a dear man. You have made my day! Jamie V in MT

  124. Oh dear Corey – that dust made its way to Cape Cod, because this post brought tears to my eyes, too! I am so happy for you finding comfort at home once again! =) hugs to you!

  125. Me, me, me!!!
    Pleeeaaase…
    Sincerely,

  126. What a lovely idea, Corey! I would love to win, so my name in the hat, too, please…
    Eunice

  127. Cheryl Mohr

    Your fan, Cheryl Mohr in Virginia Beach.

  128. Darling Corey, You’ve already “paid it forward” by sharing your daily life with us. Random acts of kindness are such precious gifts and the unexpectedness of them make then all the more special.
    Thank you for being in my life.
    XOXOXO
    Anne

  129. Another beautiful story from you, reminding us that friends are everywhere, and that we are never alone in our joy or suffering.

  130. He was an angel sent from God. 🙂 What a good man.
    Janet here, from Arizona.

  131. How wonderful to be home and to know that you were missed and loved.

  132. awww, gee grief can hit you at the most unexpected times. It’s weird isn’t it how it can sort of bond strangers?

  133. Cousin Chris

    Corey,
    Pour some wine in the cup and raise it up to Uncle George and “Salute”. Pay it forward and in memory, for me.
    XO,
    Cousin Chris

  134. Oh my goodness, what a lovely man!
    Crying at the drop of a hat is so very normal, a step in the grieving process- but what a lovely gift to get 🙂 Obviously you are a well loved customer 🙂

  135. I hear you barking my dear friend love you Christy

  136. A lovely tale of love, caring and friendship.

  137. What a beautiful post. It made me cry. Blessings, Kimberly

  138. COREY, ‘HUGS’ TO MY SWEET FRENCH FRIEND

  139. Yes, you did find your life in France again!
    What a tender homecoming!

  140. What a beautiful story! Love reading your blog…

  141. Much love to you Corey, and thank you for sharing. No need to pay it forward, just graciously accept the gifts that come your way…I’m leaving a comment to send you heartfelt love and compassion, not for the prize.

  142. Your Father knew that life has to go on as it is meant to, well lived. Cheer up Charlie.

  143. What a thrill it would be to receive a package from France! Thanks so much for doing a giveaway — and even more, thank you so much for doing your blog.
    -Ruth

  144. How kind.
    Amylia Grace

  145. Kindness is a blessing. It’s very nice of you the “pay it forward”. It was so good of the store owner to understand what you were feeling. It shows that there are good people on this earth
    Carolyn

  146. Amazing when we need them most good people show up.
    Amazing isn’t it.
    Kerry

  147. I always love to read that others can have the same reaction as i have had. i am always sure i am the only one who has broken down in public instead of the stiff uppper lip thing which i was raised to believe. the mantra of my home life was “DONT CRY!” Which always struck me as odd– bacause, you know, if they’d just let me cry i’d have gotten over what ever it was so much more quickly…
    God bless you, Corey.

  148. What a sweet story. There are good people in the world.
    Suzanne

  149. What a lovely thing to do…both the shop owner’s and yours.

  150. Dear Corey
    What a wonderful man. It’s these moments that show us what life is really about…kindness to others.
    I hope I am lucky enough to be the one who you can pay if forward to
    Kathy

  151. Barbara Magafa Sydney Australia

    Corey, I have always found kindness from strangers during times of grief the most sustaining. It is so unexpected and sincere. It has taught me the value of a small note in the letterbox to a neighbour that is having a difficult time, lending a book that has given me comfort or the good old pastitso (greek lasagne) that usually will feed an army but is true comfort food and can sooth many a sad soul.

  152. Some weeks after my dad died I went grocery shopping and ended up at a display of lovely tomatoes. I burst into tears. I guess nothing ever happens when you think it should.

  153. CORAGGIO!!! Love is all around you.
    un bacio ,Marigio. (Italy)

  154. I am just so happy you are home at last…

  155. The firsts are always the hardest. What a kind soul to let you know he cares for you.

  156. What a lovely post. Isn’t sorrow a strange thing? You expect that it will engulf you on birthdays or during holiday gatherings, but not on an ordinary Wednesday afternoon. Blessings to you.

  157. Vickie Hurst

    Such kindness and tender generosity from an unexpected source….God bless and keep you, Corey, and your beloved home.
    Vickie

  158. I found your blog since Shannon put a link to here on her blog. Love to read your entries. I also like paying forward, and do it all the time.

  159. Cris, Artist in Oregon

    Oh what a sweet dear man. Isnt it nice you were missed? and yes the first’s are the hardest. Lovely story. Brought tears to my eyes. Cris

  160. Welcome home friend!

  161. “The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears”
    How fortunate you are to have had this happen in the company of another person who understands..wonderfully told, Corey:)

  162. Sometimes God sends us angels in the most unexpected places! So glad you were surrounded by kindness when you needed it. May you continue to find beauty and sweetness in the everyday.

  163. beautiful post comme toujours..
    Kasuma from Malaysia

  164. Corey,
    Emotions that take me by surprise, are those that are from the soul.
    Hugs,
    La Donna

  165. Bless his dear heart! What a sweet man… good heavens, I’m getting tears in MY eyes…
    ..and such beautiful pictures… 🙂

  166. What a nice person, there are a few left in the world. Hope all is going better for you.

  167. What a dear man – to recognize your loss and give you joy at the same time!
    MimiG

  168. Having read your blog for a bit over a year now, I am often impressed with the way you express the art of living. I always receive a gift from your words & pictures (whether a smile, an idea, & yes, even tears), and today’s post no exception. You have shown us again how we–all of us– are connected and how a small gesture of kindness, can touch so many.

  169. What a kind and dear souls he is. I’m so glad you are being comforted in your everyday life. These encounters will gently wrap themselves around you and slowly heal those tender bits.
    xo

  170. I would love to have a cup. Tongue in Cheek is the first blog I read everyday.

  171. Thank you, Corey, for your beautifully moving post. Moments of grief turn up at the most unexpected times. It’s nice to have friends there when you need them.

  172. Corey,
    What a lovely thing your antique man did for you, but it also speaks of the connections you make with people in your everyday world- Your warmth and caring nature can be felt in your writing. You truly touch people’s lives on a daily basis – it is a wonderful gift you give the people around you. Thanks for sharing.
    Regards from a Western Canadian Quilter,
    Anna

  173. Adding my little name to the list….
    Miz Boo

  174. Oh dear, the hat is getting rather full. Is there perhaps room for one more?

  175. Pick me Montie!! I love giveaways. It’s like playing the lottery. Imagining you won is so much fun, it doesn’t matter that you usuallly lose.

  176. Lovely photos, even lovelier words. I look forward to your posts! THANK YOU!
    Kristy

  177. I don’t need your cup, just writing to say thankyou for your tender honesty Dear C.
    There’s and old Welsh kitchen waiting for you over at my new place!:)

  178. Wow Corey!
    An unexpected angel waiting to comfort you with generosity and understanding.
    A true blessing.
    xo
    MB

  179. What an amazing post and experience!
    You truly do write beautifully.
    ~elaine~

  180. Charlotte Le Den

    Hi!!!
    Just a small word to say that was a really nice story!!! I’ve moved into my new 19th century flat, you would LOVE it!!! It’s all antic-y and full of old and new stuff and new stuff pretending to be old and old stuff trying to be new! You’ll have to come to Madrid to see me!
    Longer email soon,
    Lots of love!
    Charlotte

  181. Dear Corey, I truly understand the gush of emotion and tears…yes, everyday is a new beginning. ((hugs))

  182. Corey, Glad that you are back home (another home) safely. It’s amazing that so many people are visiting your blog and posting. I just wanted to say that I check your blog everyday, and your beautifull stories and pics inspire me in many wonderful ways. (I don’t need the cups, – although they are pretty – you have already given me a lot through the blog.) Thank You! oxox Y

  183. Oh these demi-tasses are just perfect for my still-life!!

  184. would you a have an handkerchief please !

  185. Oh Corey,
    that lovely encounter gave me some dust in the eyes. may those everyday acts of kindness continue to help heal your soul. God Bless you,
    Tracy

  186. Fashionably late??
    XO
    D.
    PS- Of course, this post….well, you know.

  187. You have enriched my life in so many ways-Thank you Corey for sharing your joys, sorrow, and beauty in the whole of life.

  188. Corey,
    The painting is precious. As was the giver.
    That glorious sun shining, I pray it gives you comfort and strength and a reminder of peace when you look at it each day.
    Blessings,
    jody

  189. Haley Stewart

    Ohh ohh PICK ME PICK ME!!! If you don’t want to send this to the US I understand and wouldn;t be hurt if you simply “picked out” someone closer by 😉
    Thanks for your words,
    -haley

  190. what a lovely story.
    debbie

  191. as always I love watching over your shoulder.
    thanks for including us!

  192. Corey, how wonderful to have such a lovely greeting back home. We miss you here!

  193. What a lovely gesture from a kind soul. That brought tears to my own eyes.
    And a treasure from France? Oh mon dieu!! S’il vous plait!!
    I am glad you are back home with French husband and your kids…

  194. As always…thank you for sharing your moments with all of us.
    Have a wonderful weekend Corey and kind thoughts to you and yours always.

  195. What a lovely thing the store owner did. I especially liked his comment about dust in your eyes. That was so kind of him to not make you feel so self conscious. It’s been nice to hear that you are getting back into the groove of your every day French living. I’m sure it’s especially comforting to be with your family and around the things you treasure once again.

  196. What a sweet gesture from a sweet man!

  197. Corey, unexpected symbolic gifts are the truest of treasures. I returned home from a 1300 mi. trip just last night in a truck carrying my recently deceased mom-in-law’s treasures. I had to catch up on your journal before the task of unpacking the memories. Bless you in your healing. Janie
    http://www.sacredartimages.com
    http://www.sacredartimages.blogspot.com

  198. Freda Butler

    Hi corey
    How did French husband not get snagged by French wife? I think he got the best of the deal with his American wife. You were meant for each other.
    I enjoy your blog so much. Keep on posting. You should be a writer.
    Hugs
    FredaB

  199. Hi Corey, I am new to your blog and love it. I am sorry about your loss and I had to comment on the sweet shop owner. It is amazing the little miracles that God presents us with everyday, if we just take a moment to look, his work is everywhere. I lost my father when I was 13 and I know all about blubbering (by the way i giggled at your choice of words there) in unexpected places and moments. God bless,
    Suzette

  200. Corey – Yet another wonderful story from our worldly “everywoman”. Love, love, love your blog! I check it out first thing every morning with my cup of tea in hand. You never disappoint.

  201. What a wonderful story. I think you attract so much love and beauty, Corey, because you send so much love and beauty out into the world.

  202. Ellen Cassilly

    Such a lovely story, Corey.

  203. Corey, that was a lovely story. Such a sweet gesture to comfort you. So glad you are home safely and getting settled in chez vous. I lost my father in January, and it does take time to go through the grieving process. I’m praying for strength for you.

  204. Kristie Franklin

    How sweet. I was almost drawn to tears after reading your text. What a wonderful way of not only welcoming you home but of also trying to help you hide your sadness by giving you things from his shop. You will always be reminded of your return home each time you drink from these cups and will fondly remember your favorite shop owner as someone who cared.
    Kris

  205. Awwww…what a touching post, Corey. Yes, grieving does take time and everyone grieves differently. What a kind and generous soul you found in that antique shop.

  206. I have been away few days and have out of sorts not reading your words daily that touch my heart so. Such a lovely story.
    Love and blessings

  207. Marci Larsen

    Add my to your drawing. What a great story.

  208. what a wonderful man, welcome home……
    Kelly

  209. I am crying now as I read this. Life is full of so many heartaches and yet that is what makes us who we are. Blessings to you Corey.
    Nancy

  210. xo
    Hugs too.
    xo
    Gillian

  211. penny nelson

    What a sweet story. Thanks for sharing it because it renews our faith in one another and how we can take care of each other even when we don’t know each other very well. Life is good and also difficult at times. I am so happy to share some of your delights in the French world of which I have no experience. An again sorry for the loss of your father., Penny

  212. oh Corey- this brought tears to my eyes……
    surely you are loved and missed in two countries. I am sure the shop owners are so happy you are back! What a thoughtful man!

  213. Corey, Wherever you are you create such beautiful impressions for us all, welcome home. Margaret

  214. Corey – I came over to visit and was surprised not to see California! Are you back in France? I’ve been swamped but good to see you again! Marva

  215. While being in a sort of transition myself, I have stopped in & read what is happening with you. Life????????? Thanks for sharing yours daily.
    Kim G.

  216. Simple acts of kindness and compassion ….priceless.

  217. Debbi – in Seattle

    The first year is always the hardest – allow your self to cry when you need to – it is part of healing the heart.

  218. I think I could read your words all day long. You have a way. Thank you Corey!
    Teresa
    xo

  219. Big Hugs, Corey, God Bless you. Lisa-Vet.

  220. Hi,
    I just came across Tongue in Cheek today while feeling yucky, only to remember my Father passed away Sept. 16, 1979 I was 16 years old. I have grown and truly miss my Father for many years. My heart has a place for the memories and the joy I have towards my Father, I will see him someday in heaven and will share my life while we were apart. The tears will dry up and the smiles will reappear.

  221. I’m just entering your ‘pad’ and see that it is your father that is bringing the tears. WHenever I have those moments about my own Dad, I know he is swooping in and our souls are connecting for those brief moments and I embrace the tears wholeheartedly and have that moment with Dad. Let the tears fly!

  222. aww. WHen you feel the tears coming, know it is your Dad swooping in to be near you. Embrace it. What a lovely gentleman in the shop.

  223. Dear Corey,
    There is nothing like a giveaway to find out how many readers you have. Look at all the people who adore the glimpses into your world. Please count me as one of them. Happy weekend to you and yours.

  224. How sweet of that fellow to care for you so gently 🙂 This is a hat I must throw my name into, if only to say ‘welcome home’.

  225. I lost my dad 1 1/2 yrs ago and I know what you are going thru. Sometimes it hits you when you don’t expect it! What a sweet shop owner…You are definitely a special person for him to do something so thoughtful and remember you in that way!
    I would love to have one of these beautiful cups but most of all just wanted to connect!
    I love seeing France, my dream is to visit someday! hugs! karen…
    recycledrita.blogspot.com

  226. Dear Corey,
    I loved reading about your travels and ‘your’ France. We have family in Menocino, Ca; And I use to be such a “treasure hunter”, also.
    We lived in England for two years and went to many antique shows. That was after church, and we would go to one of many quaint pubs for lunch. Then we would go hunting for treasures. Reading your experiences brought back so many fun times. And, I did find lots of ‘treasures.’ I started out looking at fine linens. Some of the most beautiful hand made lace on them. Then I began collecting hat pins, then antique fans. I have to admit my collecting got out of hand. When the company my husband worked for said they were sending us back to Lancaster, Pa; I was not ready to leave. I loved living there. There were so many things about England that I fell in love with. We traveled and saw quite a lot of England. As well as France, Spain, Germany, Wales,Scotland.
    But of all the things we did, I was always looking for that little ‘treasure.’ And I can certainly relate to your story. When you find something and literally fall in love with it, there’s no way you can walk away without it. We had our home things shipped back to the states in a container, at the company’s expense.That was a really great way to move back to the states. We continued our treks to antique shows, and to estate sales until we filled our attic and basement with found treasures. And then we decided we should scale down because we were getting up in age, and could not keep up with such a large home and huge yard. I started with a rose bed, and the garden continued to grow with new beds and planting perennials mostly. The last few years after my youngest daughter had her wedding in our garden, my body said no more digging. We moved almost two years ago into a lovely ‘little’ home with our two cats and have decided to really retire! We had to give up so many of our treasures. But we made sure our children took them to their homes. And we took what would fit into our little nest, and we love where we moved. The amenities are nice. It’s not a retirement home. But it is a community of 50+ and we have a Club House, swimming pool. And most anything you want to get involved with. All individual homes. Our meeting is a story within itself. And it was truly love at first sight. I prayed for God to send me someone..my prayers were answered. A true ‘Gentle'(man)We will celebrate our 29th anniversary Sept. 29th. God does answer prayers!
    Patsy Whigham

  227. How sweet of the shop owner. Sometimes when I think about my grandmother I break down in tears. The loss never completely goes away.
    I drove from LA to Portland earlier this week and passed by Willows! I thought of you and that drive with your dad along the backroads.

  228. So sweet of him to offer you a welcome home present and how sweet of you to think of to sharing it!

  229. Marie-Noëlle

    Oh Shhh… SUGAR!!! I’m too late !!!

  230. oh, that was so sweet of him. he was doubly sympathetic.

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