A Monumental Change has Occurred in France

French bakery

Views of France: The everyday, run of the mill, things that stare you in the face that we barely notice them. Objects that are so much the fabric of France that they are like the water running from the faucet, the foundation underfoot, the air we breath. They often go unnoticed, simply because they are… they have been, and we assume will be here forever unchanged.

stone pathway in France

Stones steps that lead away from the center of the village. Stone steps that are impractical but have not been replaced by cement steps, or worse pavement.

turn of the century French majolica tiles

Majolica and stone. Instead of plaster board or cement.

French bread cutter, at the bakery in France

The baguette, with classified ingredients and strict rules to keep it that way.

nineteen century French tiles

Tiles that have not been changed, even when they didn't match the new furniture of 1920s or of the 1950s, nor of 1970, or even when the 1990s rolled in…. it has stayed the same.

French antique street lamp

Street lamps that burn brightly even when it was more complicated to convert them into electric lamps.

French countryside with a tower nearby.

Buildings, that have stood strong even under heavy bombing and train tracks rolling by.

French arched doorway

Doorways that have not been enlarged, and doors that have not been changed. Amazing how the French keep their history alive, how they make it live anew by letting it be.

French Bistro

The French bistro… nothing changed (except the cigarette smoke) not the chairs, nor the bistro tables, or the zinc bar nor the mirror in the background.

 

hands

Yet a monumental change has occurred that has rocked France, or my corner of France that is… In the last twenty four hours, the only notable change in France that has been brought to my attention…. and surprisingly so… is that my eighty year old Mother-in-law has asked me to be her friend on FACEBOOK.

Facebook? When did my mother in law become computer savvy?



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67 responses to “A Monumental Change has Occurred in France”

  1. What an amazing Mother-in-law! Eighty is the new 60!A whole new world has opened up for her now maybe she might be tempted to write a blog of her lifes memories too!

  2. Facebook is the IN thing now.. every one I know be it friends and relatives, young ones, old ones.. sisters, brothers, cousins or even mothers and grandparents.. they have an account with facebook.. and get connected.. isn’t that amazing? hehehehe will you add your MIL in your friend list? 😀

  3. jend’isère

    As long as she doesn’t start using expressions like LOL. Mine was born same week and year as Jacques Chirac and has skilled computer savy. But I refused to answer an email once with ado-text jargon!

  4. Fantastic to see what facebook can do ….

  5. What a great punchline! My teacher in 1st grade is also my friend in Facebook, and she’s like 80+ too. Just gotta love technology!

  6. Corey
    This is wonderful news – really it is — it reminds me of the scene from the movie “Under the Tuscan Sun” I always thought there was some truth to that Hollywood version
    The scene I am referring to took place at the Italian dinner party it went like this — oh no may be this will happen to you and FH??
    Scene:
    I knew this would happen.
    Remember?
    Don’t blame me.
    I told him not to get her
    that computer.
    She got an e-mail lover,
    you see, from Ecuador.
    Finally, she had to
    tell him her age.
    No mail !
    You had it coming.
    You’re wrong.
    I hurt in my heart.
    Even though I’m old,
    my heart still aches.
    Great story,
    Joanny

  7. Just when we assume the waters are stagnant, we get caught off guard by swirl at our ankles, and the gobbled up by a wave.
    Cheers! to MIL’s who manage to not stay still.

  8. That is amazing and funny at the same time.

  9. Oh my goodness, first I must say I am so relieved it wasn’t a change to your town, like a McDonalds went in or something. That would be so very sad. Facebook, it’s bombarding me. My mother is on it every day, connecting with friends she grew up with in England and hasn’t seen since she left there in 1964. I have not converted. I suppose it’s coming. Are those your MIL’s hands? Not an age spot anywhere?

  10. I think I’de like that woman alot!

  11. What a delightful way to begin a day—with a smile!

  12. Julienne

    Sensible woman your MIL! Facebook is where I keep in touch with all my Grandchildren and Children and all their friends! I am there for the birth of the next and now the next generation…I celebrate their birthdays and we play scrabble all night. Wonderful for the mind and we just stay young! Link me up to her blog when she starts!!!!

  13. My 71 year old father in law did a friend request to me this week too. It felt very strange accepting it. I was his first friend but now a week later he has lots and has set up a group and uploaded photos of his latest fishing trip…. A sign of the times….!

  14. My mother-in-law has become computer savvy too, only this year. She hasn’t joined face book but she does send emails everyday, even forwards me jokes 🙂 She loves Google, thinks it is amazing, lots for her to read.
    So a big well done to your mum in law 🙂
    Oh the other day she had a problem and couldn’t connect, she is in London and we 6o miles away, my husband is an IT consultant, had to talk her through connecting etc, she was brilliant .
    Corey I just love your story about France not changing things, just letting it be. That is why I love mainland Europe.

  15. Hi Corey,
    I’m only ten years younger than your MIL. When we were young, my generation didn’t have cell phones, computers, or GPS systems…so we invented them.

  16. hahahahahahaha!! LOVED this post. Really made me smile. I was so enjoying the pictures and then a slam-dunk! Great, just great! – Kathy

  17. Nancy from Mass

    That’s Fantastic! I’m trying to get my 62yo sister to sign up for facebook…I’ll mention that an 80yo from France has signed up, so she should too!

  18. I love Annie’s comment the most! My hubby is a 69 year old IT person, still employed, and that description fits him perfectly.

  19. Linda C.

    Corey, Corey, Corey, you are a delightful tease….
    Am I ever so-o-o glad it wasn’t a “fast food joint”, just a fast fingered MIL!!
    Vive La France.

  20. I can’t wait to use this one when my kids tell me I am too old for Facebook…and to think it started with college kids!!! By the way your photos were amazing!!!!

  21. What a wonderful post…fabulous way to start a Friday!
    Thanks,
    Katherine

  22. Love, love, love the photos – especially those majolica tiles…. glad the change was not so earth-shattering but more enlightening….

  23. Marie-Noëlle

    I tell you, FB is incredible !
    We can’t measure what it can do in ONE SINGLE click … !!!
    (I can picture 2 different pots of salt on the same shelf now !!!???!!!)

  24. timeworninteriors

    Cute!
    Theresa

  25. Never underestimate the resourcefulness of what our Tom Brokaw calls The Greatest Generation. Good for her! I’ve resisted being anyone’s friend on Facebook as I spend far too much time on the internet as it is, but, hmmmm, if your mother-in-law if befriending everyone, maybe I don’t want to be left out.
    Your pictures and words and the suspense you build was masterful.
    I have always been intrigued by hands, Corey, I’m not sure why, though, to this day, I still see my grandmother’s, who lived with us, so, I suppose that has something to do with it. You have captured them so well in this post, as well as others: Annie’s, French Husband’s, friends. Wouldn’t they make a wonderful little book?

  26. How amazing is that! I love it! And how wonderful that she would want to be your friend on Facebook.

  27. It happens to the best of us!

  28. Oh Corey, this is hilarious!! I love it.

  29. What a wonderful post! Your mother-in-law must be young at heart, and hands even look younger than 80.

  30. My Grandmother Rosa immigrated from Germany after the war. Left her family, village, traditions behind. Missed her family terribly. Communication proved diificult. Phone calls were expensive and letters happened once a year. Today, I speak daily with my German family. Photos and notes sent over the Atlantic. As, the entire village is on Facebook. My Grandmother never lived to see it happen.
    Laurie
    SF

  31. Oh, Corey, what a hoot! Knowing that things have beet at times a bit frosty there, I’m pleased for you that she wants to include you in her circle. 🙂
    Your mother-in-law is head and shoulders above me, for I have not chosen to get involved with either Facebook or Twitter. I have a rather small circle of family and friends and it is not difficult for me to keep up. My husband, on the other hand, has a larger family and many acquaintances from his time in the military, so he has enjoyed being able to take advantage of Facebook to renew those relationships.

  32. I was worried there for a second. Oh so true about things in Europe, whereas here…not so good for us. it funny how in my home town there was a thriving downtown area with busy shops, department stores,restarants and banks. In the 70’s a mall came to the outskirts of town where people could shop indoors. The downtown area went into serious decline. Now they are spending millions to get it back to the way it was..And trying to make it “quaint” and old fashioned..All that wasted money..all those torn down buildings ending up in landfill. What happens here in Los Angeles is scary and a crime.. Buildings gone at the wink of an eye. This is America. Architecural history means nothing but to seemily only a few.
    On a light note, your MIL sounds groovy..Will she be my friend?..xxcw

  33. That is too funny! And I thought things were weird when my high school French teacher friended me lol!

  34. That was a classic line out of the movie, Under The Tuscan sun. I picked it up, maybe because I was older, (65. The package changes in appearance, but the heart stays the same.
    sharon

  35. I am off over to Facebook NOW to see what she looks like!!!! Corey you are SO very funny.

  36. I wondered what you were leading up to!! Very funny! I have 85 and 89 year old relatives and friends on Facebook. But, when my husband joined last week …. oh, no, he is not my “friend”; I have to have somewhere “private” LOL.

  37. Corey, I thought you were going to say the shock was that she asked to be your “Friend”. Enjoy.

  38. I thought something dire had happened and then wham – laughter! So, did you “friend” her?

  39. Uh oh. The distance between the 2 of you just shrunk as well 🙂

  40. I love that none of those things have changed. That’s what makes France special and a pain at the same time. (Strollers and stone stairs…) But it’s true, if my mother-in-law ever finds her way to the internet, my world will be turned upside down.

  41. I love the contrast! (And the photos!)

  42. LOL – Excellent post, Corey!
    When I first married my husband back in 1984, my mother-in-law and I were off to a rocky start. A couple of years later I knew all was finally well between us when she said to me “I wish my daughters were more like you.” She was never interested in computers, but instead played video games – even at the age of 75.
    An old joke: What’s the difference between inlaws and outlaws? Outlaws are wanted!

  43. Julie Ann

    How cool is that?! Yann told us in the Summer that he was encouraging her with the computer. I wish my D would do it, it would open up a whole new world for him. He would love it. Did your MIL already type ? My D comes from a generation of secretaries so typing and computer is a bit of a double whammy for him ! Trust you accepted her offer … she is your belle-mere after all ?! Jx

  44. Corey this is GREAT! First, all the lovely views of French stability and tradition…then your MIL on FB!!! How fun this post is! Bless you sweet gal~~

  45. My Goodness, this is such a wonderful post. You have the soul of France in you. The photo’s are beautiful and love that tile. It is majolica, I thought that was Spanish?
    Thumbs up on your Mother in law.
    Thank you so much,
    yvonne

  46. I had to laugh and will show this blog to my son. He has been trying to get me on facebook forever and when I used my SIL’s facebook account, he said it did not count!!

  47. Bea in Sweden

    Hi, I really envy you living in France! All the lovely villages, all kind of markets, beautiful old interior stuff…it is my dream to one day live in France as well. Actually I think about investing for my future retirement soon, by buying some old house to renovate (I am 42).
    Thanks for a wonderful blog. I will surely return here to enjoy your photos and stories.

  48. My former mother-in-law is well into her eighties and also on facebook….yes, I was beckoned. Viva la difference!!!

  49. Oh Corey. … i did NOT see this coming – I was taking a long, warm sip of my coffee when I hit the line about your MIL asking you to be her friend on Facebook – I laughed so hard and proceeded to choke on my coffee! So, so funny. You always find the perfect photos, too! I will be picturing those sweet hands typing feverishly on facebook and giggling about this all night.
    xo Isa

  50. I would not have guessed that in a million years…better watch out, she may ask you to go the a U2 concert in Paris this September! Heehee…. 🙂

  51. I LOVE this post thank you for the laugh !

  52. I’ve told my son’s that I am too old for fb.ooops.
    My 86 yo Dad emails me all the time. He spends his days on the computer and I am very sure it’s kept his brain working and added years to his life. It’s the best gift I’ve ever given anyone.
    (fyi it’s added years to his life)

  53. i love reading your stories and seeing the pictures you post. hurray for your mom in law…if my father was still alive, he would have loved to have a computer….he would have been my very first friend….keep the great stories coming….

  54. Corey!!!! YOU MAKE ME LAUGH OUT LOUD ALL THE TIME! This post was hilarious. You totally built it up… I wasn’t sure what to expect. The punch line was perfect! INDEED it is monumental for your 80 year old mother-in-law to befriend you on FACEBOOK. : )
    Are you on facebook? Can we be friends too!
    Lily (los angeles)

  55. jend’isère

    Your story drew me immediately to Facebook to check if my mother-in-law has a account. Since she emails/chats with Japanese writers and Czech photographers, I’ve wondered for awhile when I will be confronted with this! Brocantess has a point about shrinking distance with those who can impose.

  56. That’s hilarious.
    : )
    Julie M.

  57. as each picture and story unfolded I expected that the French had lost it and had done away with the things that say “Ah France. or OOOOh so French”. I never saw it coming.. Mom in Law! Now that’s funny.

  58. Facebook can be a very scary place! Thanks for the laugh!

  59. That is so COOL! I was expecting you to show pavement and remodels! I love the stone steps and the doorways and everything else you showed us. I hope they never do change! But Your MIL on Facebook-monumental!
    Sherry

  60. Ahhhhahahah!!
    My mother-in-law and even my grandfather-in-law are my Facebook friends. Facebook has done wonders in bringing all branches of my family closer together – I talk regularly to cousins and second cousins and aunts and uncles and in-laws and outlaws that I hadn’t had any contact with in years.

  61. Ha ha ha!! This was fabulous! I wondered what change was underfoot that could rock your world so…and now I understand. The world will never be the same, my friend…
    🙂
    Tamara

  62. You write so well. You observe so well. You photograph exquisitely. You personal view of France is a delight for us all to enjoy. Thank you.

  63. This got quite a laugh out of me tonight!
    I’m not allowed to be friends with my boys on Facebook (so they tell me), but this morning with a broken phone and no way to get help…guess who messaged me on Facebook!?!

  64. Joann Burnham

    Well, this G’ma is friends with all her young ones….one of the grandkids today told me one of their friends said “YOUR G’MA’S ON FACEBOOK ???? and then “YOUR G’MA HAS AN iPHONE ??” Yep…but I don’t have a blog.

  65. My oh my oh my oh my. You gave love and love and more love and the mountain moved. Outstanding, Corey.

  66. that is wonderful. well written, good buildup. i must convince my mother to dabble. too funny. thank you for the laugh.

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