Love is never leaving the window Open, or is it?

French-perched-village

Ping, ping, ping came the sound from outside late last night. I sat up in bed, poked French Husband, "It is raining cats and dogs, or is the sky falling? Listen to it coming down!"

The window was left open, a habit of mine when I go to bed, we both got up to look outside and if truth be known to see who would win…. window left open– me, or window closed– him.

"That's not rain, it is hail," he said. We both starred at the star-less sky and watched the ground turn white as snow. "Fallen stars," I thought out loud.

After an eternity we looked at each other, then at the window…. French Husband turned and walked to the bed. I shut the window, but not completely.

Bench-under-oilve-tree

After twenty some years I think I got his number: Mr. Reverse
Psychology is his name. If he had closed the window I would have balked and opened
it. I am stubborn like that. So instead he does the opposite of what he wants, knowing I will
succumb to my kinder sense and close it…. well half way at least.

50/50 works. Maybe in another twenty years I will learn to give two thousand percent.

But then again maybe love is letting go and letting be, open, closed and somewhere in between.



Comments

30 responses to “Love is never leaving the window Open, or is it?”

  1. Sweet story and one I recognize… although my husband and I have only been married for about a year, I smiled when I came to bed the other night, long after he had gone to sleep and found that he had left the window open a bit for me even though he prefers to sleep with it closed.

  2. Julienne

    ooooooh! he has your number!

  3. your stories are reaching a whole new level of gorgeously cute.
    thanks for always sharing your hearts insights.
    *

  4. Linda C.

    Open bedroom windows…watch out for those roof walking neighbours of yours.
    Always wondered why they don’t slip off those tiles..

  5. Love is whatever is working for YOU, I can tell you that!
    Another great post…

  6. Love is always like this, shades between two colors…….

  7. My husband and I play cribbage every morning while we eat breakfast together. Sometimes, when he hasn’t won a game in a while, I cheat so he will win and I think he does the same for me. 50/50 is a good thing. Your photo is calling to me, I can hear the bench whispering……come sit here.

  8. Next task: the toilet seat!

  9. Lovely post… falling stars (love that)…. and such a gorgeous photo… I want to sit there this April and enjoy spring in France (alas, but a dream!!).

  10. Love is give and take…easier said than done sometimes…leave the window open a crack, just make sure your curtains are closed 🙂

  11. Love is give and take…easier said than done sometimes! Leave that window open a crack, just make sure the curtains are closed 🙂

  12. Corey your marriage seems to be to be one made in heaven. Yours is a role model for graciousness, generosity and kindness. Doesn’t hurt that he’s a hunka hunka burnin love either ..sorry I couldn’t resist!! Love you , cw

  13. I’m a window open gal, my guy is window closed – so of course we sleep with the windows open. While living in Aix, we always had our windows thrown open to the night sky … and visiting cats!
    Here’s more of my wonderful trip to Santa Fe:
    http://thebutterflymind.com/ramblings_0156_santafepart2.htm

  14. Denise Solsrud

    marriage,i think takes a lot of homework. and i love how you have been molded into what works for the two of you. i love it. you know how to make it click. Bestest,Denise

  15. Yes, after 45 years I still have a difficult time letting go. Relationships are always learning to walk together in the middle of the road.

  16. My husband and I are the opposite–he likes it open and I prefer it closed. I love the fresh air, but the windows are right above our heads and I don’t like the breeze blowing right on my face.
    On a brighter note, I LOVE the bench photo. It truly makes my day 🙂

  17. Ah-Ha! …french windows are very helpful that way: you can use the handle to lock the window in a slightly open position. (those typical french window handles I mean) :You just close one side and jam the other side under the handle. You can only succeed if you carefully move the 2 windows towards each-others until they meet in that position , then turn the lock 1/2 way as you push it close. (I’m sure I either make no sense or you already know this!) … compromises: such a beautiful thing!

  18. Julie Ann Evins

    We are so the opposite way round but I love the dance between you two – thats love for sure ! Happy Easter Coco ! Jx

  19. Cute post; love the pictures! Is the bench and cobbled street right outside your door?
    Those streets would be difficult for me…my ole’ knees couldn’t take all the bumps 😉

  20. Another perfect chapter for the book as I see it. It has romance of your life, but not boastfully. It gives great wisdom. All with the patently playful Corey twist.

  21. Pure magic.
    Laurie
    SF
    (Went for a run today near Baker Beach. The beach hasn’t been the same, since I read your post about that first kiss with FH 🙂

  22. I loved this Corey. I should send this to Don. Something about lights on and off comes to mind. LOL

  23. Julie W.

    FH is a good sport…and knows his wife well. Gotta love it. One thing I wonder, Corey–I suppose you do not have window screens (or do you?)–Aren’t you worried about tiny little flying creatures that bite or sting? Hope the hail gives way to sunshine for Easter. (We are having snow…sigh.)
    A Blessed Easter to You and All,
    Julie W.

  24. I love all of your market items today! Hopefully in 20 years my husband will be trained to let me buy all the french antiques I want. I thought of you this weekend, went to an antique market (wished it was 1/10 as good as a french one) and luckily found an old 1797 book from France! Take Care!!!

  25. Ah, the give and take of a beautiful relationship! Sherry

  26. He’s a smart man..he’s certainly got you figured out but then again you’re a smart woman as you still kept the window open. Even if it was just a little bit. Give and Take…It’s all part of marriage. Hope the hail didn’t do any damage to the gardens. Have a wonder day! Maura

  27. Why do we choose such opposite bed partners?
    We live near (but not on) a busy road. I’m a window closed/curtains closed/door open person. He’s a window open/curtains ajar/door closed person (he does have a longer, darker walk to the en-suite).
    I get cold shoulders, he gets cold feet.
    I need to read, he needs the light out.
    I wake early, he later.
    He says he can’t sleep without me. I just can’t sleep – period.
    We both love each other.
    As much as I long to move into the spare bedroom at the back of the house, the lost, love-lorn look on his face stops me every time.
    So,
    I guess I have to settle for sleepless, love-filled nights.
    BUT
    I just LOVE the sound of rain on the roof and storms when I am snuggled close to him.

  28. shelley@decoragain.blogspot.com

    windows mean many things.

  29. Corey
    Love knows — some people would fight over such silly stuff — but not you too — he cares enough to use finesse Ah the French.
    Joanny

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