Do You Enjoy Going to a Party?

Rose-wine

Photos and text by: Corey Amaro

When at a party with a bunch of chic people I do not know, I feel a bit shy.

I notice I am not alone in this feeling:

Some people hold a drink.
Some people stay close to the ones they know.
Some people sit and eat.
Some people offer to help the host.
Some use their cell phone.
Some go to the bathroom and gather their nerves (okay maybe that is just me.)

Most people have a crutch to lean on…

I use my camera. It is a great thing to hide behind, and a helpful icebreaker.

 

Color-in-black

The camera also lets me admire without seeming rude. I love looking at how everyone is dressed from head to toe, better than any magazine. Elegant, simple, casual chic. Overdressed is overkill.

Chunky bracelet simple necklace.
A chunky necklace, simple bracelet.
One or the other but not both.

French women know how to layer jewelry as well as they know how to wear a scarf.

Unbutton

With a camera in hand, I asked a few men if I could take their photo.

"Where are you from?" they asked detecting my accent.

I wanted to say Venus, but luckily I caught myself instead I said,

"I live here, but I am an American. And you?"

Having an accent is a good conversation starter. Gee, what would I do without it?

"I like your shirt, well actually your collar." I blushed. Why did I narrow it to his collar? What a ding dong thing to say.

Unbutton-pink

 

Everyone likes a compliment.

He asked, "Should I remove my sunglasses?"

"Oh no no," then I pointed for him to put them back where he had them.

His smile was a million dollars.

Sunglasses at night, blond hair, pink shirt, I love a man who carries that style and not feel threatened.

 

 

Three-buttons

 

French Husband hates shopping. Any type of shopping: Food, furniture, light bobs (as he calls them, and I never want him to stop calling them 'light bobs') clothes, especially clothes.

He shops for buildings and I buy his clothes.

I found a shirt (the one above) a few hours before the party. Raced home, ironed it, then polished my nails mauve brown to hide the cherry juice stains.

As shopping for clothes is one of French Husband's biggest pet peeves, he dares not to complain about what I bring home for him to wear.

Flower collared shirts,
Pink sweaters,
Long overcoats,
Pastel scarves,
Polka dotted underwear,
Black socks (some things must remain basic),
Red patent shoes…

Wear it or go naked is the underline thought.

Though…..

Naked might not be a bad option.

 

Colorful-collar

 

Colorful collars seem to be the new thing this year.

 

Canopy-light

 

The canopy tents lite up with varied colors throughout the night.

Clever details make a party festive.

Grilled-shrimp

Grilled shrimp with spicy tomato. I stood at the grill, chatting up the chef.

As tempting as it was dainty forks put a stop to my natural desire to pick up the shrimp and pop it in my mouth and then lick my fingers.

"What is the recipe?" I asked.

Conversation flows when it is about food.

"Garlic and chili with a hint of fennel."

"Fennel? I would have never guessed."

Test-tube-drinks

Test tube drinks. Melon and mango.

A fantastic combo for the taste buds: Grilled shrimp and Melon/Mango.

"Is there rum in this?" I asked then shook my head back and declared, "Wonderful mix!"

I noticed that I was the only woman really, truly, eating as I took another grilled shrimp declaring to the chef, " I have a love affair with food!" then I kissed it to my lips.

The French chef looked at me oddly. Most likely what I think I said wasn't what he understood. Thinking about it now, it literally translated:

"I have a love deal with a castrated bull."

Speaking French, is a finesse I do not have. I butcher it badly.

Distant-blue

A colorful play of color:

Pink light on the silver railing,
Pale rose in a glass,
a hint of blue from the distant sea.

Simple elegance.

 

Splash-pink-shawl

Strapless dresses.

Mile high, toe-less heels,

Pink and melon seemed to be the big accent colors this season.

 

Pillow-talk

Over-sized outdoor bean bags. Very comfortable:

French Husband and his partner Thierry talked shop.

Outdoor-pillow

I sat in one while they talked. If I had known how difficult it was going to be to get up elegantly from it, I would not have sat in it. Imagine sitting in a marsh-mellow-cotton-candy goo with a short strapless dress and a chunky camera around your neck.

Feel sorry for me, please. It was embarrassing.

Bridge

But, oh, the view!

The view made the memory of the marsh-mellow-cotton-candy goo, and the castrated bull comment seem trivial.

Caviar

I passed on the bite-sized, caviar.

I prefer sticky complicated things to dine on.

 

 

Music

I love going to parties.

I enjoy looking at what people are wearing.
I enjoy the food and the petits fours.
I enjoy seeing the decor.
I enjoy meeting people, although mingling is not my forte.

Mostly I get a kick out of going to parties because…

 

I

Love

to

Dance!

Dancelight
Dancing

Dancing-with-him

Do you enjoy going to parties?



Comments

56 responses to “Do You Enjoy Going to a Party?”

  1. Wonderful glimpses of a great party! Love those shirt collars!
    (So strange, I looked here late today – just peeled a kilo of white asparagus – and I am once again among the first to comment.)

  2. Jean(ne) Pierre in MN

    The shirts–tres cool, and so so French. Loved your party stories.

  3. Bouffe!!! I had to figure out why the chef looked at you oddly. I love your accent!
    Kris

  4. bramble

    Curious whether those shirt collars will translate to cross the Atlantic but I love them! Men’s “fashion” is rather stuffy on the East Coast! You looked wonderful as well (skunkline be damned!) and I am glad you had another grand and glorious time! Be well Corey and thanks for taking us with you!

  5. Linda C.

    Hi Corey, loved this one!
    Your reasons for loving parties are the same as mine..DANCING is big time for me, rather dance than talk ,,I have trouble hearing people anyhow when music’s playing. Love taking everything else in like the surroundings, looking at the people, (I’m a people watcher from way back) and I’ll only eat if the music’s stopped..
    p.s. still don’t know why people can’t leave those darned phones home.

  6. Not only do you have a love affair with food,(and FH of course)you have an obvious love affair with life… and it is inspiring and fulfilling simply to read about it! Thank you for taking us along on your journey! not only to this party, but with your family, friends and France. What a treasure you are.

  7. Also hoping those shirts make it over here. I love going to parties but I love throwing them even more. It is one of my greatest joys. I love the entire process except of course the clean-up. I like that girl in the purple dress in the 2nd photo. Adorable, daring to stand out. Love it.

  8. Natalie Thiele

    WOW! Great post! What a spectacular party! FH’s shirt collar would cause a sensation in California. Stunning!
    How on Earth did you get out of the beanbag? Roll and tumble? Flag down FH for assistance?
    I used to love dancing, too, danced all the time, but married a musician who can’t dance. Kind of takes the fun out of dancing for me, but it’s easy on the ears.

  9. Thank you for taking US to the party! We had a fabulous time. Our feet are killing us but it was worth it 😉 Mixing with the BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE. I am now on the lookout for one of those shirts for Mr. CCC and son CCC. And one final comment after much observation….women have UGLY knees!! LOL!

  10. Love, love LOVE those shirts!!! Thanks for the party invite. This was fun. I’m like you. I like parties, but mingling is hard for me. And you and French husband looked deeevine! Dance on, girl!!
    Kathy

  11. I love going to parties through your camera!!

  12. Oh my! Your fancy parties are much fancier than the ones I go to. Love the men’s collars and oh to have dresses like the women.

  13. I do not enjoy the anticipation of going to parties and arriving and mingling, but, funny thing is, that once there, we are usually the last to leave, having had a good time. I love giving a party, though not to this phenomenal gala your post is about.
    What a delightful time I had with you and your man and your camera, seeing such beauty out of its eye.
    The last shot of Yann dancing the night away would make a great ad!

  14. question; why do women stand pigeon toed in high heels? Never understood if this is chic, or just bad posture.
    Loved the party and the men’s shirts. Wonder how long before they reach Kansas.
    Oh how I miss being in France. I wish we would have had more time to visit.
    Keep the stories and pictures coming…and thank you again for a wonderful Saturday at the Broncante.

  15. Do I like going to parties? yes. Do I have to have a crutch? yes…usually a shawl and a glass of wine. Would I ever go alone…NO.
    I prefer small gatherings of 6-10. Loved the lawn party at Nathalie and Jean Bernard’s. It was small enough to visit with everyone.
    hugs..

  16. Loved your beautiful, chic party, Corey. Thanks for taking us along. Years ago when I was married to an American military officer, my cocktail wardrobe was larger than my everyday wardrobe. Now I just have a couple of black evening outfits for winter and a couple for summer. But I do love parties.

  17. Thanks for sharing about the food! I would love to know how they made the mixture of mango and melon–maybe I’ll experiment with that later today.
    Parties? Well it depends if I know folks or not. If I’m there in a professional role, I enjoy them but if not, it depends on how good the food is!

  18. every single year i look forward to this post. the fashion, the glamour, the beauty. yes, i adore going to the party…especially when looking through your eyes. xo

  19. Very clever icebreaker, the camera! Have several parties to attend today. May follow your lead on this one! Also, good to know that colorful collars are on the rise on the fashion horizon!! Have a great weekend, Corey!!!

  20. Brenda L from TN

    Ahhhhh,Corey, Loved going to the party thru your eyes and camera.I like the men’s shirt collars too…very colorful..they’ll be in all the fashion magazines…Loved the buttons on FH’s shirt. He’s lucky to have someone who can spot a new trend…I like going to parties too but I’m like you if I don’t know many people there..a little shy..The views are SPECTACULAR!!…Many thanks for sharing.

  21. Inasmuch as Farmboy Husband and I are among the last people we know never ti have owned a cell phone, we feel they are a plague on socializing so should be confiscated at party entrances, except for those few that will be used ONLY for photography — unless the owner is in the midst of a major family emergency, which makes us wonder why they even came to the party in the first place.
    I agree with you that it’s always nice to ask the photo subject first if one may take his/her picture; I’ve only ever had one person refuse, the proprietor of a (knitting) yarn shop! I couldn’t imagine anything illegal re her business that she feared would appear in my photo, but acceded to her demand anyway.
    Also, having a foreign accent — in our case, American — is usually a great ice-breaker while trying to speak the native language in another country. For you living in France, as well as for me when I visit the Azores, there’s a back-story re how we wound up there that most locals will find interesting due to the uniqueness of our respective histories.
    Do Farmboy Husband and I totally ENJOY going to parties? Almost all the ones we attend are professionally necessary, so there’s always a sense of duty that admittedly takes the edge off the fun, in the sense of knowing one will be judged partly on looks, attire, education, wit and charm, table-manners, etc., etc. (we both gave up trying to look youthful long ago, which is for the best, because folks our age who still try always wind up looking more foolish than those of us who go with the flow!).
    However, on the plus side, FH and I find that most hosts go to great lengths to make guests feel at ease — and indeed most of their guests likewise enter into such a spirit. We find it’s the rare guest who behaves like a tool, and s/he is mentally noted by the other guests, and not in a good way, either :-)))
    The feminist rule of role reversal, which is similar to the Golden Rule — treat others as you would wish to be treated — is the most reliable guideline for having a good time at a party, don’t you think?

  22. How awful to think that we are all standing there needing our crutches and not realising that everyone else is doing the same thing!!!!
    Next party instead of helping hand round food I am going to be very brave and just talk to people…well….maybe…I will think a bit more about that. Love the sound of the red patent shoes!

  23. I hadn’t thought of it before, but I, too, have begun to use my camera as my crutch.
    I must find my husband a shirt with a great collar!
    I love you sense of humor! The comment to the Frnch chef is priceless! 🙂 LOL
    What fun to go to a party in France through your eyes…lens! 🙂
    Blessings!

  24. I love going to party. Philippe says I’m a party girl …Love your details

  25. welltraveled10

    You looked FANTASIC in your strapless black dress and wonderful necklace….

  26. It has been way to long since I have been to a party. Your pictures are a delight and a very chic party indeed. I would love to sit in one of those pink bean bag chairs and watch this party transpire. Love seeing the shoes and the men’s lovely shirts. The view was magnificent. Thanks so much for taking us along.

  27. First off, I never love going to parties. I may love it when I get there though. I would be shy at your party and chic Europeans would feel that I am too casual and familiar. But if I get a chance to sing, to dance, to find like-minded people POOF, I change into a party-loving person.
    But I always leave before the party winds down.

  28. I do not like parties where I know no one. Much too stressful trying to make small talk with people who I clearly have nothing in common with at all, other than we are all people. I usually sit at a table waiting for my husband to come rescue me. Now, if I brought my camera? Well, that would certainly open up a whole new world. At least I could hide behind it and have all sorts of fun instead of pretending that I am.
    I loved going to your party, though. 🙂

  29. It was fun. Thanks for letting us perch on your shoulder invisibly. A camera is a great tool at gatherings. Pair that with a willingness to ask questions and one is off and running.

  30. WOW Corey .. that is one party 🙂 and the men are quite desireable … I love the shirt you choose for your FH.. I don’t think mine would let me choose, must try it one day…
    If I was amongst these chic people I would feel very very shy.. and maybe a bit akward .. I love to dance too, but my husband doesn’t .. and I might have a wine too many oooopps !

  31. I feel about them,the same way you do. I am going to bring my camera with me the next time!
    I love your slaughter of the French language…
    annie

  32. Denise Solsrud

    corey, you are something else. you have such a superior and interesting way with your blogs. you could work for a posh magazine company,but don’t. we want you for ourselves. and i know that saying that would be easier said than doing. you are amazing! Bestest,Denise

  33. What a party you went too.
    O My Goodness!!! Be still my heart!!!
    Smiles,
    Dottie

  34. Another wonderful post – thank you for these fabulous pics and your usual wise and funny take on events!

  35. I love paries! The dresses are very pretty in the picture

  36. marsha danosky

    I will take the guy with the cute collar.I would love to go to a chic party in a setting like that! Guess I will have to come to France for that experience……

  37. Corey, you looked awesome!

  38. Kathleen in Oregon

    Nice to know I’m not the only one uncomfortable with mingling. I’ve used a camera as a crutch many times. I’d rather help give the party than be a guest, but it is fun to people watch.
    Love the last picture and caption. My husband doesn’t dance and there is noone else I’d ever want to dance with.
    Also love FH pronunciations you include sometimes, light bobs–how cute is that.

  39. All people just want to be loved and appreciated. It is that simple.
    Houston, TX

  40. Lia deKoster

    Ohhlala…
    what a treat
    to sit
    perched
    I feel as if I was draped around the neck
    of a chick gentleman…
    ahhh the shirts
    the dresses
    I can smell the evening scents.
    I have just bundled my wee grand daughter up and cradled her to sleep…
    whisper read a little tale or two and
    off she wonders to
    sleepy land.
    then Oma (that is me) creeps
    quietly over the the laptop that is cradle beside Milan (grand daughter beauty)
    to glimpsy
    at Corey’s Party
    I am a dancing queen.
    I will dance with anyone
    …but not slow romantic close dancing.
    Just fun in the sun dancing..
    Close is for My Honey (like you with yours)
    I love the anticipation of the event.
    Naughty husband of yours not to give you all the girly time required to
    plan and play with dresses and hair.
    His shirt by the way is yummy.
    Your dress..chic, cute, sexy.
    I feel the pain of hair – I would wear a hat, I do often when the ‘skunk appears’
    I teach and students are the leveler of all fool hardy attire.
    The students have their school Ball on the 19 of this month.
    I am the OP Shop queen (like you and Broncante) h mmm may have got this wrong???
    Anyways..I found a dress for $39 nz dollars and it is stunning…Chocolate brown silk, strapless and beaded bodice. The theme is secret garden. I will be the flower bed.
    Thank you Corey. I may not write often. But I read, read, read, smile and
    enjoy your
    life stories.
    Thank you
    Milan is waking and singing
    off
    I
    go
    Lia

  41. Elaine L.

    I can’t believe there was one woman at the party who could gracefully maneuver out of a beanbag, even if she were wearing pants. Poor choice of seating for an elegant party IMO.
    Better suited to a casual affair.
    I would love to see a video of you and FH dancing!
    ~elaine~

  42. What a treat to attend a party in such a gorgeous location – absolutely stunning! Loved all the photos and comments. Would love to go to something like that although I too would be a little shy.

  43. I entered this site by chance, but I found very interesting. A greeting to all the people who visit this page.

  44. It is not only your writing that grabs me in and makes me yearn for more of the French lifestyle, but your photographs are exquisite. They tell a story all their own. I look forward to your blog every single day, Corey. I am a Tongue in Cheek addict and I declare it proudly!

  45. Great Party, I also love to dance but those shoes. Would love them better in my closet than on my feet. What an elegant party. Thanks for sharing.

  46. Colorful inner collars tres chic. I would buy one for Frank but it will be out of style next season and he will keep wearing it for 10 years.
    Love the fashion report! E

  47. Julie Ann Evins

    I love parties, the anticipation, preparation, almost as much as the event. I love them more as time goes by, as opportunities to dress up are fewer in my life now & I love that. I am not a great dancer but a couple of glasses of champagne encourage me. I like the company, particularly if the host has mixed it up a bit. I love the generations, and the different backgrounds all in the mix. I love when people make an effort with the food, the drinks, their dress and grooming, I love speeches and live music & elements of surprise. I am a people watcher through & through and would happily attend a party solo & just observe.
    You were sadly deprived the anticipation and preparation this year. I advise diarising it at least a month ahead for next year so you can time the cherry picking and hairdresser accordingly. The event itself though looks anything but a disappointment. I love all the little details, the girl in the purple dress looks fab but you need great legs to do ankle straps like that. The photograph of the guy with a glass of rose, the view & the light on the rail is truly a work of art. Bring on the coffee table book I say, never mind the blog book – put me down for a signed 1st edition of both please Coco, you are a star. jx.

  48. You crack me up, Corey! I love that you are so yourself in the world and in France and make no apologies for it. You give us permission to be our silly, radiant selves and I love you for it!
    Light bobs, orange carrot skins and mauve nails to hide the cherry stains. You are my hero!
    And God, you make me so hungry I want to eat a castrated bull!

  49. I am just on my way out the door to attend a graduation party. I’m certain it will be nothing like this one!

  50. I was admiring those bean bags in the first post, but didn’t think about the completely impractical nature of them considering the attire of most of the ladies. But they look sooo inviting.

  51. I’ve never liked big parties, too shy, and now I don’t even have a little black dress… I chickened out of th eonly glitzy party I’ve been invited to since we’ve been here. But having a camera in hand is a great disguise, comfort blanket and prop, so maybe I should have offered my services as photographer!
    You have done such a wonderful job of conveying the atmosphere of this party, Corey, bringing it to life and making it sound fun.

  52. You and your fun life are delightful! I am enjoying your blogs immensely! I blog about my surroundings and write stories of my past as my present is a hard thing. My precious husband has dementia and parkingsons and requires me to care for him 24/7. Parties are a thing of the past now and hard to even go out to eat but I so enjoy my blogging world that this party girl is somewhat satisfied! Blessings on you and I look forward to your posts!

  53. MaryElle

    I loved this post! It captures so beautifully the elegance and casual grace of the French… so lovely, I’m a bit misty.
    I agree about parties. It is the rare person who feels comfortable mingling willy-nilly with strangers. Don’t feel bad.
    The camera idea is, in a word, brilliant. I will do it next party.
    PS: Key look for all chic French women (you are right) – underdressed but KILLER heels and a dash of color. Oh, and maybe a Chanel bag. Perfection.

  54. lovely!
    no…I don’t like parties…:) I can be an observer at most…
    only enjoy family ones
    but I like to eat and take pictures! so, now is better
    xoxo

  55. OMG! I thought I was going to die laughing from your comment about the castrated bull. Too funny! Loved the photos. Looks like it was a great party. The party planners for that annual party always seem to do a spendid job!

  56. OH,love family parties and friends parties, and friends of friends parties –but business networking parties are not for me. Do not like the forced conversation at those events, as there are usually too many big ego’s walking around. However, you my dear would be an exception and I would notice you and your camera, and would no doubt find you interesting.

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