The Fountain of Life

_Fountain-France

I dipped my hands into the fountain. The cold water felt so good I sunk my hands deeper, up to my elbows. Instantly, I was cooled off. In our village there are sixteen fountains, it is not uncommon to see someone cooling off by sticking their arms into one of them. Next to our home, there are three fountains, not even a stone's throw away.

Sitting by the fountain was an older woman, someone I have seen many times before and have often said hello to as I pass by. Yesterday, after I said the customary Bonjour, she added, "It sure is hot today isn't it?" 

Asking or talking about the weather is a classic conversation starter, it is safe, friendly, and easy to add on to. I agreed with her, "Hot, but not as hot as my native California."

With that, we started talking. She sat on the stone bench, and I sat on the edge of the fountain under the massive plane trees.

Her story unfolded… she never married, she was a clock mechanic, all her family had died, she moved to our village several years ago. She wore a red and white striped dress, with spaghetti red ribbons straps.

When she was a young girl she was in a car accident, "… I was bouncing my neighbor's baby on my knee when another car struck us, the baby flew out the window, luckily she wasn't hurt, except for a scratch on one hand…. a miracle really… the parents weren't hurt either. But I bite my tongue in half. I had too many stitches to count, I had to relearn to talk, that is why I speak as I do."

As she continued to talk about bits and pieces of her life, I dipped my hand into the fountain, I rubbed my neck, letting the cool water run down underneath my shirt across my heart. I felt a door open and felt myself walking into a new friendship.

Later that evening, at a dinner party there was a young man from Canada, he was very funny. He described himself in quarters, I am one-quarter ginger, one-quarter coke a cola, one-quarter baguette, and who knows what the other one-quarter is.

In France, it is customary at the end of a funeral to have a bucket of holy water at the end of the coffin. Those gathered are invited to come up and bless the coffin, by dipping the brass stick (I do not know the name of that thing! Crazy that I don't!) into the holy water and making the sign of the cross over the coffin.

I dipped the stick into the holy water, held it up over Mr. Porte's coffin, and instead of saying, "In name of the Father and of the son…

I heard myself say with tears running down my cheeks, Tomatoes, Green Beans, Cherries, and Figs… Amen Friend!"

What four things could describe you?

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Note:

Thank you, Marie-Claude for the name of the brass stick:

"GOUPILLON".



Comments

42 responses to “The Fountain of Life”

  1. Just clicked onto your blog(as I do on a daily basis!)and felt instantly transported to the Cours Mireabeau or the square in Avignon with that lovely accordion music!I stood in both places on holiday and listened enraptured to similar music then,its soooooooooo french!Loved your blessing at Mr.Porte coffin as I am sure he did too!Sympathies on the loss of your friend.

  2. Linda C.

    Music, sea-shells, pearls and greenery.

  3. Hmmm. Writer, Mother, Lover, Runner. Although my husband would like to see lover move to the front of the line.

  4. Traveler, dreamer, sea-goer, photographer.

  5. welltraveled

    Your blessing for Mr.Porte was just the RIGHT touch.You ALWAYS make me feel and think..BLESS YOU COREY

  6. Reader, teacher, creator, love
    And
    Talk, laugh, struggle, friend

  7. Linda C.

    After having replied to the 4 things question, I had a bit more of a think about it, and wondered, at my funeral what would people remember about me…
    Mother, first and foremost.
    Lover of cool weather, cannot handle the Australian summers.
    Lover of all kinds of music and when I hear it, I always have the urge to dance and sing.
    Lover of all things beautiful…no desire to own or have them, but as Da Vinci put it “my soul is stirred when my eyes rest on beauty”…
    and fifth,(sorry) I love water in every shape and form.

  8. i am sure Mr. Porte smiled when he heard your blessings!
    Me, four words? I’d say the names of my four children.
    Btw,
    have you read the “Aging Gracefully, the French Way” article in today’s New Times?
    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/15/fashion/15French.html?_r=1&src=me&ref=homepage
    The readers’ comments are … hm … interesting, for ex #105
    “do they (French women) work as hard as we do? Do they have as much stress as we do?”
    I had to think of beautiful Annie.
    .

  9. I agree your blessing was perfect, brought tears to my eyes.

  10. Hmmm, Family, Food, Flowers, Books
    I would want someone to bless me as you blessed Mr. Porte, from their heart and soul and I would hope I deserved it as much as he did.
    It will be interesting to hear more about your new friend, Corey. We all bear scars of some sort or other in this life. It is always enlightening to discover how those scars shape us.

  11. Your blessing for Mr. Porte was heart-felt and honest as well as a tender thought. Years ago my best friend and I were on our knees in a neighborhood garden. We were talking away and started, for some unknown reason, talking about a friend who was recently in the hospital. Don’t bring me flowers, she said, I can’t stand to see flowers die. I was weeding among the tomato vines and I said, OK, I’ll bring you tomato vines and dill weed. Perfect, she said, absolutely perfect. When she was in the hospital for a heart valve replacement, it wasn’t the season, but I did take her tomatoes instead of flowers.

  12. I am Canadian as well, and my mom always said I was one quarter Irish, one quarter Scottish, one quarter English, one quarter German and 100% Canadian.
    I think your new friend needs a friend like you – perhaps she can pick up where Mr. Porte was forced to leave off. ?

  13. seashells, spaghetti, ink, chatter!

  14. another beautiful story about humans.
    My Father was French, my Mother part Indian and Russian. This must be why I decorate French in some parts of the house and native/lodge looking in the TV family room areas. I love both looks.
    Mr. Porte smile from beyond when you gave him his blessing….

  15. Peacemaker, love, sunshine, dreamer

  16. Was the Canadian a red head? I hope to hear more about the female clock mechanic.
    Hmmm. Four things? That is so hard but I will have to say coffee, chocolate, cheese, curiosity.

  17. Julie Ann Evins

    So moving, a lost friend & a new friend. The cycle of life, Jx

  18. Oh Corey, that was beautiful. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend.

  19. Corey, that was beautiful! Just right.

  20. The perfect blessing for Mr. Porte.

  21. Only four words? This is tough…artist, musician, saviour of stray cats, and above all…independent.

  22. Lucy Rogers

    God, husband, children, life…

  23. splendid

    this was one of the best yet Corey
    oh how i love your words
    xoxoxoxoxox

  24. Bridget

    Family, friends, books and chatter.

  25. That was a beautiful blessing for your very dear friend.
    I will answer with what I think others would say about me…
    Mother
    Friend
    Musician
    Librarian
    I have to add family.
    Thank you for a moving post today. (and every day!!!)
    carol

  26. Passionate Heart, Francophile, Chicagoan, Loyal to the end
    Beautiful post Corey!

  27. right now, bruised, scarred, broken and scared.

  28. Kimberly

    Your ending caught me off guard and I cried. Beautifully written. You are gifted by the Lord above. 🙂
    Mom
    Wife
    Saved
    Sounds
    Blessings, Kimberly

  29. As always, you kill me…and make me think
    Mama
    Wife
    Lover
    Loved

  30. beate teale

    Corey, I really enjoy your blogs -so well written, so understanding of our hearts, thank you. My 4 things might be: music, love, chocolate, red wine and jesus.

  31. Marie-Caude Pariselle

    I am French, I live in the south of France, and I know most of the places you talk about;(I’ve been to La Madone!)
    The French name for the little stick that we use for funerals is”GOUPILLON”.
    I visit your website everyday, and I’m absolutely in love with it! One day, I’ll send you a photo of my home!
    Merci pour tout, à bientôt, je vous embrasse!

  32. How sweet…
    I haven’t been by very often and am sorry for it…I love your blog…you take me to another part of the world that I wouldn’t, at this time, have seen….things will change…
    booklady–lover of books, a sweetie–love to bake, a romantic–I take things to heart, a butterfly…I can change..

  33. Corey,
    God never closes a door without leaving another to open….in comes a new friendsip. Your blessing to Mr. Porte is perfect. I’d liked to think Mr. Porte was smiling down on that fountain.
    Regards,
    Gwen

  34. Mama
    laughter
    dance
    friends

  35. Researcher
    Nutritionist
    Lover of beauty
    Lover of God

  36. Brenda L from TN

    Ohhhh, Corey…what a sweet blessing for Mr. Porte. He knows exactly what you meant.
    You were saying Good-bye to a good friend and teacher of all things veggies.I’m sad for you he’s gone and I hope his wife realizes how wrong she was and maybe she will “come around”.
    My four words are: Mother,Grandmother,Friend, Antiques

  37. Burning vanilla candle, apple, lady bug, and pool of water. What a dear story of a new friend. I hope you chat again with her by the fountain.

  38. Martinis, guitars, laptops, and photos. Amen!

  39. C’est une belle histoire……….. pour moi , les 4 mots seront mère , gateaux , artiste , liberté. eowiin

  40. I hope you can play matchmaker for the clockmaker! Mom, patriotic and loyal, people and pets. Is that cheating, using the “and”? It’s hard to name just three.

  41. Thank you (and dare I call you…)Friend for opening your heart to the world. We are all better for it.
    My four things are money to buy wine, bread, cheese and brocante!

  42. Your blog is the best blog I ever visited to day. Your topic is so interesting. I wish I have found your blog sooner. I think I missed a lot interesting post.

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