Looping

Looping

 

 

The other night at dinner, an enjoyable dinner, bite after bite of delicious wonder French Husband casually said he was going to sell his ULM (plane). Well, I continued to casually sip my wine but inside I was jumping up and down with excitement. You see French Husband goes flying a couple times a week. I do not tag along because I am scared.

I have flown with him once in three years.

 

 

 

Looping

 

To keep the conversation going I asked him why he was going to sell his plane. Hoping with the prayers that I have said that he would say he was growing tired of it.

Between bites, he added, "Well, I am thinking of buying something stronger, a plane to do trick flying."

I nearly choked, but managed to spit out, "Why, why, why?"

"Trick flying excites me, flying from one place to another doesn't interest me as much as it uses to." He pinched off another piece of baguette, and continued, "I especially want to do parallel trick flying with this other pilot."

Inside my stomach did flip flops. I waved a finger in the air towards that guy in the sky complaining, "And this is your answer to my prayers?"

French Husband smiled not catching my drift of frustration.

 

 

 

Looping

 

I thought to myself, "Maybe if I had flown with him he would not have had to seek other thrills? Maybe if I flown with him, kissing him non stop, telling him he was my hero he would be content? Maybe if I had flown with him, swallowed my fear whole, pooping my pants, laughed hysterically, telling him faster, faster, faster he would think we were flying to the moon?"

Instead, I kept my fear, as he spread his wings.

I asked, "Maybe if I had flown with you more often, maybe you wouldn't have wanted to do trick flying?"

He laughed, "Oh no I would have wanted you to tag along! "Looping" is fun! Can you imagine us seeing the world upside down and around and around!?!"

"No," I said looking at my upside-down world.

 

 



Comments

33 responses to “Looping”

  1. Oh dear. I share your apprehensions, Corey. I don’t think these daredevil choices are at all wise. But for those that have it in their nature to do these things as fun why should our fearfulness limit them?
    I tell myself there are no guarantees in life even with both feet on the ground, that we all have to take each moment as its own gift. Regardless of how many moments there are.

  2. Oh you poor thing, I’d be a wreck if Mr. Wonderful decided to do something like that.

  3. “If you love somebody, set them free” Sting…..but it’s so hard when we worry. It applies to our children and partners and other members of the family. Love is happiness but it is also worry and pain.

  4. Corey,
    My husband has been a supervisor on a huge, very tall, very old swing bridge for the past seven years. Before he can turn it for marine traffic he has to climb these tall open steps, over the traffic below to get to the tower. Not once have I been up there to see what my husband does for a living. I cant, my legs turn to jello just thinking about it. He accepts my fear and I accept his enthusiasm for it. Letting your partner be free to be is hard, but it makes for a happy marriage. We’ll be married thirty years next month…..yikes !

  5. You are very brave Corey. It seems that you’ve been surrounded all your life by males who take physical risks for fun. Standing by takes a lot of fortitude. The kind of fortitude that I’m totally lacking by the way.

  6. I almost fell off my chair.
    Imagine you!
    I need something strong now.
    xxx

  7. Oh, Corey. You wouldn’t love him nearly as much if he was a sensible, plodding guy. You love him for the risks he takes. Happy looping!

  8. Sorry to laugh Corey, but you are so very funny ! kisses to your wrist xxx
    Christine

  9. I feel your pain, Corey. I don’t like to fly commercial planes, let alone private planes. My relatives recently tried to get us to take a smaller plane from airport to airport in Illinois. I said HELL no. I’ll drive in a car as God intended. They laughed at me.

  10. Brenda L. from TN.

    Oh! Corey! I hope, for your sake, he was just teasing you about the other plane!
    I can understand why you love/fear for him….AND why you stay with him!! A fearless man is brave and courageous….and always too damn handsome for his own good!! Seems as if YOU found one of those!! LOL!

  11. Oh no. I’ll bet your stomach did a trick there – leaping up when he said he was selling the plane and then crashing down when he said he wanted a bigger one.
    They do say that driving a car is more dangerous than flying in an airplane…

  12. OH,good GOD!I too have a husband with a motorcycle that Iam afraid to ride!He was talking about getting a faster one!WHY??
    Does FRENCH HUSBAND work?He is always with you………or so it seems.Lets all put our heads together and find something for him to do so he will have no time for LOOPS in the sky!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!OUT OF THE QUESTION.Tell him it will add many grey hairs to your head.Corey,you must find someway to stop this action!GOOD -LUCK……..xxx

  13. Corey, you and I and flying….we are the same!
    My father was a stunt pilot when I was 5 years old. He took me up in his plane and did somersaults and flips and we flew upside down and I got sick and thus my fear of flying began! Now, many, many years later, I still am apprehensive about flying, even though I do it several times a year.
    I come from a family of pilots. My father was, my brother is and my sister is a captain of a major airlines!
    Until just a few years ago, I had to have several drinks of the hard stuff before I would get on a plane.
    My daughter gave me a prayer to take with and it is almost worn out! I have to concentrate on the place I am flying to, and it helps somewhat.
    May Yann stay safe and have his enjoyment! May you have a speedy recovery and have your enjoyment with your feet firmly on the ground!

  14. Corey, I feel your apprehension. I am one of those down to earth kind and when DH said he wanted a motorcycle (Harley) I said NO, NO, NO. I won’t have it-me being worried every evening wondering if he’ll show up for dinner. Call it selfish but it would be torture for me – I couldn’t put myself in that position. I guess it would be different if two people shared the same thrill seeking hobbies but for one it is fun and the other it is torture – what to do. I say marriage is about compromise – can you find a happy medium somewhere? I’m only speaking from my perspective and get tense just thinking about what you are going through. Blessings.

  15. Oh no!! But he must be very good at it. Hang in there!

  16. You are a very good wife…not complaining…i would rant and i would rave and i wouldn’t let it happen. I admit i myself had a big sense of relief when you said he
    was selling the plane. I was happy for you. Yann is a stone cold fox but a the daredevil stuff would drive me round the bend.

  17. Gulp! I wouldn’t be able to breathe the whole time he was out “looping”. He is an adventurous soul. I love adventure, but this is scary.

  18. Oh good Lord in heaven!!! He MUST be kidding you no?

  19. One word…..LIFE INSURANCE (guess that’s two words)!!!

  20. Wonderful use of pictures to illistrate your blog message! And just remember, our time here on earth is in God’s hands. God will hold him up, whether it’s right side up, upside down or on the ground!

  21. Oh Corey….yikes!

  22. I know exactly how you feel. That’s what happened with my husband. He moved on to plane #2 for stunt flying. Yikes! But I found there was nothing I could do since men seem to have a one-track mind once they decide on something. Fortunately, now he’s my ex (the cause was not related to flying) so I don’t have to worry about it. You’re in my thoughts!

  23. Violet Cadburry

    Well, at least he didn’t decide that he was going to get a sex change. Things could be worse. I know people who know. Is FH going through manopause? Wouldn’t a shiny red Ferrari serve just as well? Good luck mon cherie:)

  24. I agree. This is just not fair and married people must be sensitive to the spouses’ feelings.

  25. considering how your fear might manifest itself, just make a deal with him: he has to do your laundry every time he goes looping.

  26. LOL. I think I know where your son gets his desire to do flips on a bicycle.

  27. oh Corey, you ‘ve an incredible sense of humor !!
    I love read you !
    I can imagine your facial expressions !!! laugh !!!
    you have a great talent “storyteller”
    I hope you’re much better and also hopes to visit you as soon as possible
    mo

  28. Oh Corey my heart goes out to you….I would feel the same way as you do. You have a wonderful way of handling things like this…I think that’s the secret to your long and loving marriage. Now lets just hope he changes his mind!

  29. Oh My! Hands you the moisturizer! You might wear out and callous a pair of knees praying about this situation! God knows all, has a solution for all….whichever it will be, something you like or something you don’t, just pray for God’s will, and His safety for all loved ones!
    (Agrees with an increase in the amount of Life Insurance!)

  30. I would feel exactly like you do! I am not an adventurer.

  31. Well, somebody’s got to point out the elephant in the parlor.
    “Death toll in Reno air race crash up to 9; probe focuses on part that may have come off plane”:
    http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/vintage-plane-crashes-near-grandstand-at-nevada-air-race-killing-3-and-injuring-more-than-50/2011/09/17/gIQAQTBJZK_story.html
    And closer to(my) home, “Pilot of post-WWII plane dies in crash during routine at W.Va. air show; no spectators hurt”:
    http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/wwii-era-plane-crashes-during-routine-at-wva-air-show-pilots-condition-unknown/2011/09/17/gIQAIOyMaK_story.html
    Signed, Your super-cautious friend.

  32. Marie-Noëlle

    THERE, you and I are on the same wavelength, Corey !!!
    Flying=O.K.
    Trick flying=K.O.

  33. He his a free spirit, that is why you love him. He wouldn’t be happy if he didn’t follow his heart, and then would you really be happy? A marriage is compromise.
    Try buying some chocolate to soothe yourself during his aerial acrobatics, the good stuff, don’t skimp. You’re in France, that part should be easy.

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