If You Could Change Anything Would You?

If you could change anything would you star wish

"If you could change anything would you?" I asked Annie last night during her birthday dinner. As her hearing is failing her, even with the hearing aide, she just smiled. I repeated myself, and she answered thinking I was referring to dinner, "No-no, I am happy with what is on my plate."

As we ate I thought about how true that is: Annie takes each bite of life as it comes and gracefully moves with it. She doesn't dwell on the past, the negative, she manages to take it as it served, tasting the richness and putting aside that which isn't going to feed her in the long run.

Like my own Mother, Annie is capable of knowing what she has to do, and does it, without getting caught up with needing praise, recognition, or who should do what and when. I admire that self less quality that they have, and hope one day to have it under my belt as well.

 

Stars annie

After dinner we walked hand in arm, back to the car, the evening sky had a single star shining brightly overhead. Annie and I noticed it at the same time. "Let's make a wish!" Annie said hers outloud, "My wish it to be able to give back to you my God, in gratitude, all that I have been given in this beautiful life."

 

Silver-stars annie

I swallowed hard, held back my tears… lessons of love made evident from a friend I hope lives as long as I am alive and then some.

If you could change anything would you?

 

 

 

Thank you for the birthday wishes you added in the comment section yesterday! They really added to the flavor of the day!



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32 responses to “If You Could Change Anything Would You?”

  1. Annie just gets more and more lovely. What a prayer – humbling.
    I am a very happy and grateful person but I do long for change in some things (mostly health related). Think I’ll start praticing the happy with what’s on my plate mantra ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Well I am now brushing tears from my eyes. Another beautiful, heartfelt post, Corey. Annie is a treasure. Thank you for sharing her with us… Donna

  3. Belated birthday wishes to your beautiful friend, she is indeed a treasure and an inspiration to us all. Well there are certainly some things I wish I could change from the past, but in the here and now I’m quite blessed and shouldn’t grumble. I hope I can learn to age as gracefully as Annie and be as grateful for my blessings as she is of hers.

  4. so sorry to have missed out on wishing Annie a happy birthday for yesterday there was no time to read. I am thinking of her now longing for her grace. Corey, thank you for sharing.

  5. Bonne Fete dear Annie…………..
    What a sweet precious lady and story.
    Love Jeanne

  6. “Shoulda, woulda, coulda” seems to run through our minds as we age, but I like Annie’s outlook…take in what is on your plate that best satisfies you and push the rest off to the side ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. But….don’t forget to have DESERT on an extra plate!!

  8. I would make myself healthier. But I’m working on it and hope to be cancer free by the end of teh year.

  9. oh my gosh, Corey, I just love her! May we all have her incredible attitude.

  10. martina

    I remember an old story. A dying lady is visited by her Pastor. He asks if she has any requests for her funeral. “please bury me with a fork in my hand”. He asks why. “Well when we have church suppers, the ladies who serve the dishes are always saying “keep your fork, there is something even better coming””. “I know there is something better coming for me”. At the funeral, viewers asked the Pastor why the lady was holding a fork in her casket. He smiled and related her final request.
    Annie is so inspiring, thank you for sharng her with us!

  11. Oh — to have that self less quality! I am afraid I may not have such grace as I grow older. It’s such a blessing to have a friend like that, who can carry you along and point the way forward.

  12. “If you could change anything would you?”
    Well, there’s that famous invocation about accepting what one can’t change, finding the courage to change the things one can, and having the wisdom to know the difference. No point in tilting at windmills, of course, but for things where one can reasonably make an effort to change with some expectation of success, I say “Go for it!”
    P.S. This worked for me WRT taking Portuguese courses — yet mysteriously not for my diet ๐Ÿ˜‰

  13. to be more like me and less like what people want me to be.

  14. Beautiful wish, beautiful woman.
    What we all strive to be.
    Thank you Corey!

  15. Chris M.

    One thing I’m working on is not watching tv. More things are getting done, in the quiet I can think-I can get to those deep places, but most of all, I want to learn to listen to God and recognize His voice.

  16. Superbly beautifully written piece, Corey. Your wisdom and worth comes right through.

  17. Joanne Tuchman

    And this is why Annie is a hero to so many of us. How blessed we are to have you repeat your Annie stories so all of us are able to gain from her wisdom. Thank you Corey.

  18. Oh what a beautiful post.
    Cant hold tears.
    Happy belated Birthday Beautiful Annie.
    So much wisdom and grace
    …wish I was there for my son even more…

  19. denisesolsrud@hotmail.com

    if i could request anything,it would that my 93 yr old mother could enjoy some of her last days here on earth(whatever they may be) more pleasantly. she is not in pain,but much depression. i don’t expect a cure for all she has,but just to enjoy. nothing is doing it for her. and i thought what better place than here to voice my wish and possibly some prayers from your good readers. Bestest,Denise

  20. Jeannie

    Annie knows how to get to the heart, doesn’t she! I wish for less suffering in the world. For politicians everywhere to forget about themselves and their hidden agendas and get on with making the world a better place for all. I think we can all learn from you Mom and Annie, to do what is right and not expect kudos for doing it. xoxo

  21. A most beautiful post. Annie is a treasure. I thought I posted a birthday wish for her yesterday, but did not see it, so “Happy Belated Birthday, dear Annie. I feel like you are my friend too! How lucky you and Corey are to have one another as friends. May you have a wonderful year.” Love to you, carol

  22. Priscilla

    I am so sorry that I missed your post yesterday but would you please wish Annie the very best on her 93rd birthday for me? I am the lady who asked you to tell her of my mother’s story last year. She was the one who was taken into forced labor during WWII.
    God Bless Annie for her wisdom that she shares with us! A very wonderfully wise woman!! Please give Annie a big hug and a kiss on both cheeks for me! I wish I could have the honor of meeting her!
    Priscilla

  23. Annie I think God already knows….you are one of his special angels
    Corey you and Annie are such spcial angels and I think God joined you together to give each other one of lifes precious gifts…..friendship
    Do have a most wonderful day and enjoy it
    I think your gift to all of us is your blog ….It brightens my day every morning…
    The one thing I would like to change is lossing weight and walking more for my health…..and maybe one day finding a man that loves me and would like to share his life with me

  24. PS Annie you look so chic….what is you secret?

  25. Sometimes in life you’re blessed enough to meet people like Annie….I know she will be in your heart long after she’s gone, treasured there like a God’s given gift.

  26. I have a fantastic life, is it perfect no, would I like to change some things yes. I’m grateful for what have and what I have experienced. It’s like they say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”!. I love Maya’s saying best of all, “When you know better, you do better”!

  27. P.S. Thanks for sharing that story, it was beautiful! :—)

  28. Annie expresses the secret of life in her expression of gratitude for all that it has brought her. May I learn to recognize and acknowledge that. Thank you for sharing her with us.

  29. Corey…thanks for asking! I appreciate that you ask these questions, and I feel like when I respond, there is someone listening. Nice!
    When my grandpa was on his deathbed, I could only peek in the room at him. I was 27 years old. I wish I had gone in and spoken to him, even as I was unsure he could hear me. I wish I had held his hand. I hadn’t learned to be at peace with the uncomfortable emotions I was feeling. I’m sure I would do it differently today. But I also now realize that that is all I could do at the time. I needed to grow and gain more wisdom.
    I also wish Hubby and I had traveled to Europe together before we had kids, even if we would have had to do it on the cheap, or pay for it with plastic. Now we will have to wait a while…but there is a silver lining to that as well–we will probably be able to stay in better hotels!
    And I would love to someday visit you!

  30. Wishing Annie many more happy birthdays to come. She’s such a treasure! Thank you for sharing her with us! She has a grace that is hard to find these days. Great photo of her by the way!

  31. Sounds like Annie had a perfect birthday with a dear friend, Corey. I’m so glad you two have each other.

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