An American Living in France

French shutters and flowers

When you are an American living in France, there are a few things that you can be sure of:

1) You will compare your adopted country to your home country.

2) You will miss home, and eventually miss the other when you are home.

3) You will say French words when speaking English, and English words while speaking French.

 

French Husband

 

4) Family and friends will come to visit, crowning you the best tour guide.

5) You will find yourself defending the misunderstood ways of the French.

6) You will say Oh la la in a perfect French accent, and be able puff your lips, and blow air out in the most convincing way.

 

Flowers in provence

 

7) You will know how to get the French waiter's attention to pay the bill.

8) Instead of hugging your friends you will kiss them.

9) You will be able to spot another American ten miles away.

10) When in the States you will ask the waiter, “Can I have water with no ice, please?” 

 

Bottle drying rack

Dejeuner

 

11) You will know the secret of how the French stay thin and how to wear a scarf.

12) Endives, Radishes, Leeks… will be your new best friend.

13) The paper cup will feel shameful.

 

High heels and bicycles

14) You will understand the art and appreciation of flirting.

15) Good butter, wonderfully inexpensive wines (that would cost a fortune in the States,) and baguettes will never, never compare anywhere eles in the world.

16) Perfume.

17) Being chic for no reason is reason enough: Why not wear high heels today?

18) That dogs are not dogs but human beings.

 

France

19) You will smile knowing that a facade is a facade, and that what is real is behind the wall.

And I am not talking about shutters and house interiors.

20) When you have visited France, or have lived here twenty five years, or are a native, you will be asked, "What is it about the French?" And if you are like me you will smile knowing deep down inside that it simple… la vie est belle and why not?

 



Comments

47 responses to “An American Living in France”

  1. C,
    Sometime I “hear” a French accent in your writing, just as if you were speaking. It is one of the things I find charming about your blog.
    Jackie
    bliss farm antiques

  2. Life is beautiful, whether in France or the States. I think the French just take the time to savor it. That’s a lesson we all need. Thanks for taking us there. Someday I’ll be an American living in France.

  3. The need to compare is dead on and the comparisons are dead on.

  4. So… What IS the French secret to staying thin? I think it’s in the genes.

  5. Jean(ne) P in MN

    Your beautiful photos and your so, so true thoughts brighten my day. I’m so grateful to my French husband for sharing and teaching me this lovely way of life, even here in the frozen north. He was from Aix-Marseille.

  6. The gal with the bike and heels. Classic!

  7. I love this post! And especially the photo of the woman shopping in a skirt and little heels – WHILE RIDING A BIKE!!!
    That’s it. I’m going to be my bike tires inflated after the winter (my bike is a vintage green Monark with whitewall tires and a wicker basket), put on a skirt and some cute shoes and ride down the street.
    maybe to the liquor store for (expensive) French wine!

  8. How true are these? you are so right on? Greetings from S. CA. xxpeggybraswelldesign.com

  9. Beautiful post. Humour and wisdom woven together in your own special way.
    xoxo

  10. Beautiful, Corey. You had me at the inexpensive wine and the baguettes!
    Diane

  11. martina

    Everything about this is wonderful—your thoughts, the photos…The #18s and I want to come right over!
    Do you think the French haven’t had weight problems because they eat smaller portions of fresh/nonprocessed foods and don’t snack?

  12. Thank you for the tour through being an American in France.

  13. Love your spot on list! I am still working on both aspects of #11.
    11) You will know the secret of how the French stay thin and how to wear a scarf.

  14. well, you could said South American instead and everything will apply!
    I’m a Venezuelan living in France, the only difference is about flirting…we also do 🙂
    Lovely post as always!
    XX

  15. I love this post! It is so true. Bisous, J

  16. Love it! Now practicing puffing my lips, but must find the high heels and lose about 30 pounds. Love the style of the girl with the bicycle.

  17. Corey, I’ve been reading your blog for years now (secretly!) and I say this with love and devotion:
    On shoes: Heels are a rarity in France. I blame it on the cobble stone roads, but I’m not sure.
    On weight: I see a lot of meaty people in France. I mean, obesity in France is very, very rare. But being meaty or “bloated” as my wife says is quite common in France. I have never understood this myth of French people being thin. Not obese, yes. Obesity is a lot more common in the US, compared to most of Europe. But French women are oftentimes far from thin, unless they’re very young.
    Maybe it’s just a matter of the definition of thin varying according to where you’re from and our individual cultures. For someone from LA, women in France might seem big. For someone from the southern US, maybe women here may seem smaller. I’m not sure.
    On dogs: I don’t agree at all that people in France treat dogs like human beings. The French are notorious for abandoning their dogs when it’s time to take vacation and just replacing them when they get back. The same phenomenon has apparently hit Italy, interestingly enough. Instead of taking the dog with them or instead of boarding the pup, people often just abandon the dog, thinking they can just get another dog when they get back. This is not how you treat a human being.
    Each summer, shelters in France are overrun with dogs who have been abandoned because their humans decided to go on vacation without them and thought of their dogs as just replaceable. My wife volunteers at a shelter here and the numbers are horrendous, every single summer.
    For more information, or to see how you can help:
    http://www.ladepeche.fr/article/2009/06/28/630988-vacances-60-000-animaux-abandonnes-chaque-annee.html
    http://www.sudouest.fr/2012/06/06/encore-60-000-chats-et-chiens-abandonnes-au-moment-des-grandes-vacances-735526-3.php

  18. Oh, that was wonderful – that you so much! I like #6 especially 🙂

  19. Anjanette

    I enjoy your readers comments just as much as your post!! I adore the pictures which bring your words to life as well!!

  20. Is this your best post ever, Corey? (and that’s saying a lot). I especially love 13 (the paper cup IS shameful!), 14 and 17, which express so well the ‘la vie est belle’ approach to life. And this so perfectly complemented by your images – magnifique!

  21. You can take the girl out of Willows but not Willows out of the girl. I have no fear of you adopting no. 18.

  22. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    Here’s a topic I’d love you to cover for some future post: How DO you spot Americans? At 10 miles away, or closer?
    And is there anything that Americans can to (other than never wearing trainers) to look less touristic and American when traveling in France? Or is there any point in that?

  23. Well, a lot of comments regarding this little tour.
    I saw portly French women when I was visiting 2 years ago…but I have to agree that mostly the young are thin and beautiful. As far as LA chicks being thinner…it is probably the cocaine that keeps them thin…just sayin.
    Seriously, your post was great as usual. I have returned from 2 weeks in Utah and I can tell you, the cliffs in Zion or Cedar Breaks outshine the Cassis cliffs. The only thing that would make Utah’s better would be the Ocean next to them. I am always in awe when I visit southern Utah. The colors of purple, gold, and brown, sienna, just shout on the side of the cliffs.
    I love France because it is so delicious in my eys, mouth, and ears.
    Love you
    Sharon

  24. Priscilla

    I always love your posts, but I especially loved this one today. You are so right about all of it and it made me remember my mother so fondly. I miss her dearly and she used to say the very same things!

  25. love this post!!!!!

  26. TEXAS FRANCOPHILE

    I assume the French stay thin because they are more active, I.e. ride bikes,etc. and they smoke!

  27. littlebadwolf

    great flowers, and dishy husband, but if i move to france, do i really have to ride a bicycle with high heels, corey

  28. Oh Corey, I just loved this post. I had to read it over again as it was so gorgeous! Makes me want to come over and live in France and experience all of this … not sure about riding a bike in high heels though 🙂

  29. #11 I need help…..how do they stay thin????
    most of the comments I can relate to :0)

  30. jend’isère

    Voicing opinion by complaining has made me join the French. This sentence makes me guilty, even! But I adore this freedom of expression through culture, cuisine, language, ideas and the scarves which I love this empemeral experience. Vivre la France!

  31. How DO the French stay thin? I’m still trying to loose the weight I gained while there!!!!! I can not walk w heels and was speechless to see women riding bikes w them!!
    Dd

  32. Love this post, Corey. I can apply most of it! It is very similar to my culture and I know what you mean about the languages 😉

  33. Maybe that is why my dream is to live in France. Things like hard to get a waitress attention, much worth bureaucracy does not scare me, I’ve seen that all! Beauty, history, traditions, well, food that is what I love. And I like to dress nice too ;))

  34. I was transported to France on an early Saturday morning after reading your post.
    Often, I think I can speak French (mais no). But I truly feel living the French life you detail can be a feeling that one holds inside and savors without ever leaving the country.

  35. Corey,
    I LOVED this post! I have the French way of life on the brain, having just read, “Bringing Up Bebe” by Pamela Druckerman, who is another American living in France and observing the differences between French and American cultures. Have you read it? I found myself thinking of you raising your kids in France and wondering if you experienced many of the same things she writes about in the book.
    Thanks for bringing France to us through your lovely thoughts and photos!

  36. Mary O. K.

    Water without ice!! I learned that in Germany and found that it truly is better. Still say it today here in the states and I think the waiters think I am crazy!!

  37. What a lovely post with beautiful images to accentuate!

  38. GORGEOUS once again……………YOU are ONE Lucky DAME living with what appears to be a very WONDERFUL husband!After living in Italy for a few years I can related to a few on the list.I thought you were being a tour guide this week………..and you are STILL POSTING!!!!!!!!!!!

  39. I really like ice in my cocktail. It was next to impossible to get that in Paris. It was as if ice was extremely valuable. And one thing I have in common with the French is that my dogs are not dogs. However, I do pick up their poop.

  40. After 20+ years in France, I can completely relate to this post. It is spot on. Bravo and merci!
    When I forget to tell waiters in the US to hold the ice… I am always horrified by how much ice they use. And, it’s so cold!
    And now . . . I hate to admit it, but in Paris, if I go out without my scarf, I feel naked.
    And my French husband and I have a continual flow of Franglais going at all times. So much fun. And I definitely say French when speaking English and vice versa. It is even worse now that I am learning Italian. Aie!
    I still don’t wear perfume however… Oh la la!! Don’t tell anyone.
    Thank you for finding the perfect words to express so many of these everyday wonderful aspects of life in France as a foreigner.
    Erica

  41. I would absolutely love to live in France. My husband and I are NY’ers and had a chance to visit this past September….and fortunately again, in a few weeks.
    I can’t stress how utterly true #15 is! Thank you for such an insightful post!

  42. 🙂 I love your list Corey! Do you SERIOUSLY ask for water without ice?? I’m trying to figure out how to bring ice with me to Europe when I finally get the chance to come!!!! I cannot stand warm water to drink!

  43. Mmmm, pain et beurre!

  44. I love the outfit of the lady with the bicycle. That is just a darling picture. And the picture of the glass tumblers speaks to me too!
    What a fun list! Isn’t it cool to sit back and look at how we are influenced by the places and people in our lives?!

  45. Based on one visit to Paris and Provence, I’m not entirely convinced that the French are on average really slimmer than Americans. But to the extent that some of them are, I’d be inclined to attribute it to smaller portions. Good grief, a restaurant portion in the US nowadays is big enough to serve TWO hungry people (thank goodness for “doggie bags”!).
    “Why not wear high heels today?” Ask your podiatrist. Or your own feet.
    Any weight-control benefits that might accrue from smoking are vastly outweighed (so to speak) from the health risks. Ask your pulmonologist. Or my late parents, who paid the ultimate price for decades of blithely puffing away.
    “Perfume”? Ah-choo!

  46. so so true and expressed so beautifully and elegantly -Thanks

  47. Jenifer

    Corey, we just returned from Paris and our experience was totally delightful! I do need to master the art of a scarf, and women wore them so perfectly and so casually. The bread, the cold butter, the cheese, fresh, fresh food. And, the friendliness of those with whom we communicated in fractured French and English. We only had time to explore the Latin Quarter, the Louvre and Orsay, but the narrow streets, and the surprises around each corner were enchanting. Loved the doors. So, I read your blog with great enjoyment and look forward to visiting Paris again.

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