Everything You Every Wanted to Know about Living in France

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A few years ago I asked what you would like to know about France. Holy Moley the response was fantastic. Over the years I have been trying to answer them either by word or photo. I soon realized that at this rate I could be answering questions about France until I am ninety. I am fifty four as of today. So I decided to put my head to the computer screen and make today a marathon answering questions sort of day…. here it goes:

This year we are looking for a house in Provence for the holidays. Do you have any recommendations for villages? Any information will be greatly appreciated.  Kurt asked.

Aix en Provence, Avignon, Lourmarin, Apt where you can stay at La Madone, or Uzes, Barjac, or Arles, Cotignac…..

 

Is it essential to speak French to get along ok? Posted by: sandra blanks

A smile goes a long way. If you are here on vacation a smile and a few words will do….thank you (Merci) How much (Combien) and You sure look pretty (Vous etes belle) can go a long way. If you are in France to live…language is essential…especially with a good pair of lips that can pucker up and blow out.

What is it that we dream so fondly of living abroad? Is it really that different than here in the states? Posted by: jody 

Maybe dreaming is what keeps us warm at night?

Yes it is different, both are good and both have room for improvement. France has history and  it gives structure…where America shows the possibility in its newness.

 Is it really cold in January? Posted by: Nel

You are asking a native Californian is it cold in France in the heart of winter? Yes, I am always a bit cold even in the summer.

Is there anything about France that you dislike? What was your biggest adjustment other than not speaking the language. Posted by: Elaine L. 

Oh gee must I say it? When I first moved to France there was a hundred things I didn't like… but now I have grown accustom to most of those things and they don't bother me. With that said the hardest things to adjust to where: 1) Spending what seems like hours to say goodbye to everyone when one is ready to leave. 2) The taxes. 3) The lack of good Mexican food. 4) The school system in regards to the late bloomer and creativity expression. 5) That the word NON said in French seemed so dead end, where in the USA it seems a challenge to go beyond it. 6) The American attitude, "Where there is a will there is a way." I missed that the most. 7) Parking.

My biggest adjustment was… 1) Missing my family and connecting to my new family. 2) That the French seemed more self contained, more reserved, calmer… my personality seemed like a little puppy barking in left field. 3) (And) that I wasn't as independent as I thought I was.

 What is the word for "pub"? Posted by: Christine

I think Cafe would be the place best to describe PUB, though Bar is the word.

 I bet there is juicy village gossip, no? hee hee…Posted by: Amy

There is a Peyton Place or Desperate Housewives in every town mine included. 

What is chic there now? How are they wearing their hair? Jewelry? Posted by: Chelsea G.

Flow-y blouses, prints, wallpaper, mixing old with the new, hair seems to be shaggy and going longer in front and shorter in back, Chunky jewelry, dyed hair even when you aren't grey, cool glasses, More to come when my daughter sends photos….

Also, who keeps your quaint little town clean? Posted by: Hasmin

A whole team of street keepers, garbage collectors, and the maintenance crew in lime green.

What is the weather there like? Posted by: Denise

Chilly crisp fall weather. Sunny with a few puffy clouds.

Living in France? How do YOU pronounce croissant? I have always left out the R. In Australia they leave it in, sounds odd to me:) Posted by: herhimnbryn 

Without the R.

When did it feel like you belonged? After 18 years in your little town, do you still feel 'other' and keenly aware of your American-ness, or has that faded? Do you ever hear your beautiful kids speak French flawlessly and marvel at the fact that they are your children? Posted by: Fanfan

About ten years. I felt I belonged when a man (who then became a good friend of mine) asked me how to cook celery at the grocery store. I was flattered to think he thought I was a Bonne Femme (a French woman who knew her cuisine.)

My children alway amaze me, that is what love does to a mother.

 Is it hard for Americans to find work in France? Posted by: Charles

Without a Carte de Sejour or a French working visa it would be legally very hard to find a job.

Could you tell us more about the water?
Where does it come from and do you fill pitchers with the water and bring it home for drinking? 
Posted by: Miz

People do collect it from the fountains in plastic jugs to take home. I don't. Most people buy their water or have water filters in their homes (we have a water filter.) The water is safe, even from the tap without a filter. The water in the fountains come from the natural springs under ground and the household water comes from reservoirs.

Are there any art galleries near you? Or maybe you have a favorite one?Posted by: Kayla

In Marseille, Aix, Arles and Avignon there are many. Sadly though I do not have a favorite… I love the brocante.

 Have you ever seen the Tour De France? Posted by: Martha

Yes. Several times. 

Do the French freeze or refrigerate their bread to preserve it? Or is it just like a baguette a day and throw out whatever you don't use? And do they make a fuss about carbs like they do here in America?! Posted by: Uber

Yes, though most who live near a bakery and bakeries are everywhere buy it daily. Few throw it out as they eat it. The French for the most part have healthier eating habits.

How difficult is it to live there is one is self-employed? What do you have to do initially? Loads of paperwork? Posted by: Wish I were there

Hard. A ton of paperwork, heavy taxes and like any self employed person a great deal of motivation and determination.

What is like being American living there full-time? Have you grown more French and less American? Posted by: Debbie

I don't see myself as a foreigner. Though with that said it is different to live in a country when you know you are not going back to your country of birth to live. I do not feel more French or Less American. I have taken the best of both places and created my own special place called home. Or one could say I know how to survive.

With that said I am more defensive about France, I try to promote it and see the good it has to offer… especially because in the beginning I wasn't as positive about it.

 I know when I visited England they had small refrigerators which made the frequent trips to get food a necessity, is that the same in France? Posted by: Ariane

When we lived in a studio in Paris we had a refrigerator as small as an ice chest. In Chelsea's apartment she has a small refrigerator. As our home got bigger so did our refrigerator. Most food is still packaged in small quantities.

How far is your village by train from Paris? Posted by: Alina

Seven hours by car, three hours by the TGV train, or over an hour by plane.

Do you live in a house to yourself or shared? Do you live upstairs or down or both? Posted by: stljoie

We live in a house that shares walls with other houses. The walls are stone walls that are six feet thick. Our house is on three floors (a natural stair-master workout).

 Do the bakery smells waft up towards your home? Posted by: m

Depends which way the wind blows. Though I do smell my neighbors' cooking, which makes my mouth water just thinking about it…. Often I want to go to their homes and eat!

 

 

I love the different color shutters. I think maybe I've read here that the colors have different meanings? Is that true or am I really crazy. Posted by: Janet

I don't know if that is true, though I am going to check that idea out. If it is not true maybe I'll start making something up about it. Let's see there are  cranberry shutters, pale green shutters, lavender shutters, and several variation of blue shutters to name a few… though pastel shutters rule in my neck of the woods.

 What method of learning (French) would you suggest? Posted by: Cindy

The best way to learn French is to fall in love. My niece was in love with Michael Jackson, by the time she was 12 she spoke English by listening to his songs.

Are there any bookstores or antiquarians in your village? Posted by: Anna Bluebell

No. Though I save money because of it.

What does your dreamy neighborhood look like at Christmas? Do your neighbors in France go all out with holiday lights like we do here? And do neighbors visit each other often, and ask for that occasional "cup of sugar"? =) Posted by: Beachy

No, the French do not "go all out" like they do in the States at Christmas. But the shops downtown do and it is beautiful.

Yes, neighbors visit each other, and do borrow the occasional sugar. But they are also very respectful of privacy. Rarely would they stop by at unannounced or at the hour of mealtime.

 How large is it (population)? Do most of the people who live there work there also, or do they commute to Marseilles or other places?  Posted by: Star

My town has 5000. Most commute. Our children use to  commute to Marseille to go to Lycee (high school) it took them over an hour (we live twenty five minutes away without traffic).

Is this small village one of those places where everyone knows everyone? I guess I'm asking about the contrast between small town France and small town America, where you grew up.

Yes, for the most part. Small towns can be like fishbowls? In my hometown (in California) everyone knows everyone and everything about your private life… especially if you were born and raised in the area. It is the same in France.

Is it difficult to live in a place where space seems to be at a premium and where there is no grass or gardens surrounding the homes? Posted by: Suzanne

We live in the country, like most small towns in France the center is tight and compact and the wide open spaces are a stone throw away. It is not like living in a city where it takes a car to find natural, wide open spaces.

Nevertheless, living in Europe one senses space differently and values the sense of freedom it offers.

I want to know, does all of your town look like that – filled with lovely old homes and little fountains, or is there a modern section, or even a housing development of boring tract houses? Posted by: Mary

The town's center is hundreds of years old. Though outside the center there is a new section, and a housing development happening as I type.

If you could pick just ONE- only ONE brocante- which is your favorite- the one your wouldn't miss?

Vanves in Paris.

Villeneuve in Avignon.

Do you have any questions or thoughts about France for me?? 



Comments

27 responses to “Everything You Every Wanted to Know about Living in France”

  1. Wow, that’s a lot of info! Enjoyed reading it all. Have a very happy birthday and wonderful year!

  2. Joyeux anniversaire, Corey. You tackled a lot of questions.
    Since you asked, I am curious to know what your favorite traditional bistro is in Paris?

  3. Thank you for all the work answering questions. Can you pronounce the French “R” effortlessly when you speak French?

  4. So, November 17th is now your birthday? I’ll have to make the change in the family birthday. Let me know if you decide to go back to February 4th.
    While I’m here, I hear the water heaters in Europe are much more efficient, heating only the water needed. And do you have one of those all-in-one machines that wash AND dry? It seemed to me like they had really long cycles, especially to dry.

  5. Happy birthday, Corey! I love when you do Q & A; I love imagining the things you share. Thank you so much for sharing.
    Best wishes for a happy, healthy and prosperous year ahead!

  6. Happy birthday, Corey! I love when you do Q & A; I love imagining the things you share. Thank you so much for sharing.
    Best wishes for a happy, healthy and prosperous year ahead!

  7. Happy birthday, Corey! I love when you do Q & A; I love imagining the things you share. Thank you so much for sharing.
    Best wishes for a happy, healthy and prosperous year ahead!

  8. What a fun post with great answers about living in France. I definitely want to be there. Maybe I’ll celebrate my 54th birthday in France. That gives me a few years yet. Happy Birthday

  9. Happy Birthday, Corey! Have a wonderful day and many more!

  10. Happy Happy Birthday, dear Corey! Wonderful job on the post!

  11. Ah, I see…she meant she is currently 54 in the post, LOL.

  12. Happy birthday, thank you for he intimate information on your world, sad I missed you in Pasadena. Hurricane Sandy kept me in NYC.

  13. TEXAS FRANCOPHILE

    Happy Birthday to you. Very interesting and informative. Is the marathon in Nice still on for the spring?

  14. Happy Birthday! and here i was only going to thank you for such a wonderful post. and here it is ‘your’ special day. but isn’t that you Corey? always the discreet giver of all you have, even on your Birthday. Oh may God continue to bless your beautiful soul. xoxoxo jody

  15. wait i thought your b-day was in feb-remember the time you made yourself a year older-anyway i really fun post-people ask the darndest things-thanks for the answers-

  16. OMG!Your 1 thru 7 are spot on again for me too!When I lived outside of FLORENCE I can relate totally!Especially, the part about saying good-bye and Mexican food!!!

  17. C – Happy not-your-birthday . . .just have a good day & thanks for all the info cuz I’m just dying to get back there ASAP!
    Things I learned from my French family:
    to not use paper towels; use dish towels after washing lettuce & store in the fridge.
    use leftover bagettes to make things daily like croutons,
    to remember to set a beautiful table each & every day!

  18. Oh no… it is not my Birthday! I am currently 54, but thank you for the wishes a few months early!

  19. Can I say all of them?
    There was one I loved and then Rick Steves mentioned it in a book and it was invaded. It doesn’t feel French anymore. The restaurant had a faithful crowd, but now the crowd is mainly tourists and hard to get in.
    I will write about a few of the places I like the next time I am in Paris.

  20. So true. The washing machines heat their own water verses using water already heated. And yes the cycles are long… an hour or more. I never had to use stain remover, the clothes always come clean… maybe an hour has something to do with it?
    I have a washer and a dryer, usually the washer/dryer ensemble are used in rentals.
    C

  21. Upbeat Day to relax and be pampered! then again here i was just heading off to thank you for quite an impressive grand post. but here its ‘your’ extraordinary day. be that as it may isn’t that you Corey? constantly the tactful provider of all you have, even on your Day to party. Goodness may God carry on to favor your delightful soul.

  22. Question for you? How does French Husband find you in France when he loses you? We visited with him after church on Sunday. So funny of how the jeep battery was dead so he rode the bike to town thinking he’d find you there!! LOL
    Enjoy a wonderful Thanksgiving and safe trip home! Glad we got to catch a glimpse of both of you.

  23. Bom aniversário, Corey! A number of your points re French living are comparable for the Azores (not that I’ve lived there, but if I did emigrate from the US…).
    Cindy, my experience with learning another language is that the next best way — after the ones that Corey lists — is to start by taking courses for a couple of terms at your local college. That way you can master the basics of the grammar and vocabulary, with the fear of not getting a good grade if you don’t keep up with the classwork to motivate you when you feel tempted to slack off (well, it worked for me — LOL!).
    THEN… before you’ve forgotten any of what you’ve learned, go someplace where they speak the language, and allow yourself to become immersed. In my case, with Portuguese, my first trip to the Azores was arguably one of the transformative experiences of my lifetime (even though I was lucky enough to meet quite a few English-as-a-second-language speakers, thank goodness). In many ways it was truly educational, although more like getting tossed into the deep end of the pool and having to tread like mad!

  24. Oops, I got punked on the birthday thang, too. Oh well, a very merry unbirthday to you!

  25. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    Perfect! I loved reading all these questions and answers. Thank you!

  26. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    And then your favorite places will be invaded by fans of Tongue in Cheek!

  27. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    Maybe she’s wanting two birthday parties each year. Of course then she’d get older twice as fast!

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