Living In France: A Day in the Life of an American Living in Small Provencal Village

Our street was narrow, unpaved, and fenced by two large stone walls.  This was before the jolies maisons sprang up like mushrooms surrounding us, eating up the vineyards and olive trees. This was before our town became a bedroom community for Marseille. This was before we had to say goodbye to those who had lived on Rue du Moulin their entire lives giving us a passage that took us back in time.

Since the construction trucks couldn't pass on our narrow street, those stone walls that had been there longer than anyone living in the village had to come down; bulldozing the stone walls took less than thirty minutes. The tumbling of those walls brought an end to the life that used to trespass on either side.

Often upon a time, I strolled down the unpaved rue with my two children. I encountered the local color of our village Photo property of Corey Amaro.  All rights reserved.every step of the way. How I loved those afternoon walks where it felt like I slipped back a century, seeing France that is romanticised and held up by dreamers like me.

"Monsieur Gaston!" I waved to our neighbor who, in his bleus walking alongside the vines. In his strong Provençal accent, he said, "Come see!" There in the vineyard, at the foot of the mountain, he was gathering wild asperges, like he had done every year since he was a child.

Gaston's weathered hands offered us some, "Taste them; you can eat them raw, you know." He beamed proudly. We sat amongst the vines in the vineyard, eating from his loved, worn basket lined with a disheveled red and white dishtowel. Sacha, then a toddler, pulled on the vines, barely budding, which made Monsieur Gaston laugh.

"These asperges are my secret. Nobody knows they are here but me," he glanced around as if to be sure, "You see, I am alone." 

"Aren't they delicious?" Mr. Gaston winked, adding a few more wrinkles to his aged face.

After our impromptu picnic, we continued on our way to where we met Odette, who rode a bicyclette. That day a large cardboard box was attached to her bicyclette. As we grew closer, we could see the purpose of that box. Odette was collecting twigs. She shyly smiled, "I can never be too early. Little by little, I need to collect firewood for the winter. I can only carry so much at a time, you see."

My children scurried about making a game out of collecting a few dry twigs and eventually handed them to her. When her box was full, she waved goodbye; we waved back and continued down the Rue du Moulin.

Michel has had a limp from a childhood illness and hid his left hand in his pocket because it didn't behave either. Though that never stopped him from gathering fennel, marjolaine, lavender, and whatever else he could forage in the fields to sell at the local marché

Michel beckoned me towards the middle of the field, earmarked for construction, "Do you think we should dig up the wild tulips bulbs? The new houses will stand right on top of them." He was right; I hadn't thought about that. I glanced out into the open field, sadly realizing that next year I would see paved driveways instead of wild red tulips with yellow stripes.

Not very long after, we saw Annie, who was tenderly picking sage. After kissing the children 'Bonjour', she said, "Il vaut mieux avoir la sauge dans son jardin, qu'un frère médecin." (It is better to grow sage in your garden than have a brother as a doctor.) This is my garden!" As she closed her eyes and spread open her arms. Annie invited us to her home, where she prepared fresh sage tea that we ate with dry bread and black olives that she cured from the olives she picked in the fields along Rue du Moulin. 

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Flanking both sides of the river were ancient plantain trees. Crossing the river was always a highlight of our promenade. First, we had to find our footing; if too deep, piggyback rides were in order. Next to the river was a laveriele nettoyage à l'ancienne ~ long ago, the community gathered to wash clothes at such a place. Sure enough, Marie washed her clothes, scrubbing them on the washboard made of stone as the river ran through.

"Bonjour Madame et les enfants." Marie nervously added, "I know! I know! I'm crazy. But the clothes smell so good afterward, and at my age, I have time. I can do what I want… Non?" Looking at this 85-year-old lady, I had to agree, but I doubted I could be on my knees that long.

This daily walk down our street was real and happened just like I said, but when the walls came down, and the houses sprang up like mushrooms, this way of life was lost under the pavement, new homes.

And as the days flowed by, those who shared France with me from another generation, which I thankfully knew and enjoyed, have left this world filled with natural beauty and well-lived history that they shared so lovingly with me, the American.

Chelsea and Sacha were five and three years old then. They will barely remember those early days of our life on Rue du Moulin in our small French village. So I am penning them on my blog.

 


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42 responses to “Living In France: A Day in the Life of an American Living in Small Provencal Village”

  1. Marie-Noëlle

    Thank you, Corey, for sharing those “juicy” bits of life !!!
    While reading your post, I could recollect the summers spent with my great grand parents in Beaujolais… Going collecting mushrooms all together, visiting the tiny cemetery which was a social place, picking some of the grapes from the long steep rows ….
    So THANK YOU again and again, … Every daily activity was special !!!

  2. Reading your beautiful account of times gone by, a line from John Milton’s poem On Time came to mind, “when every thing that is sincerely good” – sometimes it seems as if everything that is sincerely good disappears, without the faintest chance of holding on to it. What survives is memories and sharing them the most precious duty of them all. Thank you, Corey!

  3. penning your memories and making me cry.
    i love the sweetness of your past days.
    but, somehow you evoke your current village/town as being
    the same. you broaden and expand the scenes of the shops with words to make in my mind a vision, the bakery has become a field of grains. i feel i know those friends who “moved on in one way or another”. it seems the life there has not changed, but does exist.
    gratefully we do still hear dear stories of Annie. her fruit bearing trees and life, her hands, her smile, her caring touch.
    your life there has become a history book. xoxo jody

  4. penny Willoughby

    Dear Corey, How quickly things change, and how beautifully you described the way it was. Here’s to the good old days! Love, Penny

  5. I understand families needing homes, but I also mourn the loss of countryside. I have seen the town where I was born change overnight. Where raspberry, strawberry, corn, potato, and pea fields once were are now McMansions. The trails to the river and claybanks where we slid into the river are gone. The memories are here with me, but I mourn the loss of future generations not knowing the freedom of the countryside. Your post was especially heart touching today. xo

  6. What a wonderful post which reminds me of our little village in the Haute Provence, were life seems to be more intact than it is here in the big city in Germany.
    Thanks a lot, Monika

  7. This is such a beautiful description; I can see everything in my mind! It is good to write these things down so that you dear children will share the memories as they grow.

  8. Oh to have such sweet memories~
    Sadly that life style has left us.
    I remember as a child having a neighbor take my family
    to a small stream where he found fresh watercress growing. I can still imagine the fragrance and flavor of that special treat. I hope someone dug up some of the wild tulips. When my children were young I use to take them to pick wild blackberries along the road.

  9. Thank you for taking us on your memory trip through your village. It sounds very magical and like something from a classical book. I bet you have not had wild aparagus as tasty as the ones Monsieur Albert shared.

  10. I feel as if I am right there with you. I know change is inevitable, but I am not good with it, especially when the land is gone. I have such fond memories of my childhood with cotton fields beside my home and a small mountain to look at every day. Cows in the field to the right, along the long drivewy. Now it is suburbia. Houses jammed right next to one another. For so long, I could not bear to see it… I want to remember it just the way it was.

  11. Linda R.

    I’m glad you are penning your memories of times past. You will keep the people and places alive for another generation.

  12. beautiful memories…it is good to make a wriiten record of such things!

  13. Angela Vular

    Sounds heavenly! Thanks for sharing these beautiful memories.

  14. This one made me so very sad.

  15. christine in sacramento

    There is so much beauty in your mind. Your words bring everything you say to life. We are with you. We fell the air, hear the sounds and live the emotions. Thank you for adding so much to my days. You are a blessing to so many.

  16. Lauren slavin.

    I love it when you write blogs like this!!

  17. What beautiful memories! You are lucky to have seen the sights in your village before the old ways were replaced by the new.

  18. thank you for the beautiful memories, makes you stop and drink in what’s around you, reminds me to reflect what was, that is now gone, and what the future may hold, the memories our children will take them, what they will remember and what changes are ahead for them. xxx

  19. Thank you, Corey. Beautiful memories, and heart rending to think of the innumerable changes. Treasure them. I have a woods, the one on what was my Grandparents’ farm, to which I retreat in memory. Wild flowers and berries come to mind, bird nests and song, and maple syrup. These are the treasures of childhood and young years, so happy we can bring them to our reverie. Love, Cara

  20. Thank you for sharing these memories, Corey. It’s always so sad to feel the passing of old ways of life and wonderful traditions. I remember a friend who I worked with in Italy gathering wild asparagus, delicious in pastas and risotto, as well as raw. Her family lived in Provence, so I guess she grew up with it too.

  21. Rosemary Wilmot

    What wonderful evocative writing Corey, of days gone past, but wonderful memories to cherish, I was with you every step of the way and what a journey.
    Where’s that book then – you know you have one in you, it’s time you started, you have written so much of it already. Thank you for a wonderful post !!
    Love Rosemary xxx

  22. What beautiful memories you’re preserving! So many pretty places are being literally ‘loved’ to death. Thank you for saving them in your words.,

  23. I’ve lived in France for the last 41 years, and the only real changes I’ve noticed have been in agriculture. Big machines have now replaced oxen, no vines exist any more, and most farmyards are eerily silent. Progress, I suppose!

  24. Even the memories of today will someday be the memories of the past in the future…thanks for the lovely walk down your memory lane.

  25. Is it really progress? Or has that way of life become unsustainable for farmers? If prodict does not come from our farm, I make a point of buying direct from other farmers. I would hate to see this way of life and good quality (nonindustrial) food become extinct for the generations who would love to live and eat this way.

  26. Nancy in Solana Beach

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful memory!

  27. What a lovely memory, a treasure to read!

  28. My blog started out with my intention of sharing myself on a deeper level with my children. Somehow I lost my focus and it meandered off course. Your eloquent post today has reminded me of my direction. Thank you.
    I too, am disheartened with “progress”. Give me the fields and farms and trees.

  29. Dear Corey,
    I just love reading what you write. You have a wonderful way with language and everything comes alive. I used to teach writing to sixth graders – I think the writing you do on your blog would be a great example of stream-of-consciousness writing for them. If they would each author a blog for a school year – wouldn’t that be a wonderful memory of their days as sixth graders?
    Since I’m now a RETIRED teacher, I have the time to read your blog every single day and I really look forward to it. I now have time for the things I love to do and one of them is painting. I just love the photo of your street before the demolition – I just might have to try my hand at a painting of that photo!! I’ll have to send you a photo of it!

  30. You are so right to record those thoughts (and share them with us). Else they may be lost forever. We hang on every word you share

  31. Great idea to write for the kids!Beautiful memories…………..I bet they recall a lot more then you think!
    XXX

  32. So much has been destroyed in the name of “progress.” We see it in New England too. Workforce housing, so called “sustainable” communities…they are destroying the rural fabric of New England and taking away private property rights. The goverment wants us all to live in high rise boxes built like cardboard, to move people away from the rural and suburban life into cluster housing. It stinks! The small farms are all at risk, it is such a disaster. We are trying to fight it here in my own little town. You are right to record what you remember of the earlier days in France….

  33. What a blessing you were given, to live there in time to experience what you described! And what a delight to re-live it with you through your beautiful words.
    My sweet little “Leve-assiette” arrived Saturday. What fun it was to open it! It resides in a letter-cast on my wall in the dining room with other special little treasures… until I need it to keep the gray where it belongs! Thank you so much!

  34. Progression is something we just can’t change, but it does make us cherish what we can keep….

  35. Thank you for sharing. I love those sweet memories.

  36. Serendipitously, I am drinking sage tea as I read your post.
    Sage tea from the St. Bernard Pass in Switzerland. It is my last bag.
    I can see Monsieur Albert’s face; it is so tantalizingly close I am almost touch it.
    …and Jean-Louis, Annie and Marie…
    I ache to be back in that little corner of France and Switzerland where everything felt so right.
    (fingers crossed my post makes it through and is not eaten again!)

  37. Oh Corey you have such a talent for writing. One day will we read your posts compiled in a book complete with your glorious photographs?

  38. Thank you Corey for the most beautiful post I have read in a long time! Your words painted such clear pictures for your children and us your readers. Someday soon I hope to visit your village and will be able to imagine what once was.

  39. March 21st…
    Missed this post before.
    I could feel a knot growing in my throat, as I read this post. So sad, beyond sad, a horror!
    I actually didn’t know that the horrid spread of “MacMansions,” had happened in Europe too!!!! “Jolies maisons” as you call them. I don’t like the “Jolie” being in there. They must be a horror, covering over the country side! Nothing nice/happy about that, at all. -sigh-
    Even though it was years ago, it still makes me furious. I’m sure it made you furious, at the time, also.
    Bahhhhhhhhhhhh-humbuggggggggggggggggg… So called progress! People *needing* huge homes, just to show off. Ripping out and tearing over, the beautiful old countryside. All of this… It is an abomination.
    -sigh- Guess I’d better go-chill. My blood pressure is rising, as I consider all of this. And my BP rising, will do nothing about it. Like so many things, in this world.
    Oh Cory, please do write down, all/any such memories you have!!!!!!!! Preserve them! Don’t let the memory of them, die out…
    Hugs,
    “Auntie”

  40. This would be a beautiful illustrated children’s book. Something to think about….

  41. Kathie B

    Saw wild asparagus as well as green and white domestic types in the produce market next to Hôtel La Louisiane in the 5th Arrondissement, wondered how the wild variety tastes compared to the domestic. Stronger? Milder? More (or less) tender? Certainly foraging makes the price right!

  42. Kathie B

    Ack! Should read, “in the 6th arrondissement”!

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