French Husband Breaks His Rule and Dances Around it

Dishes 18th century Creil

 

 

Anyone who has ever been to our home, dined with us and or spent the night knows that French Husband doesn't allow anyone to do the dishes.

 

 

Dancing in the kitchen

(Dancing in the Kitchen.)

We do not have a dishwasher (by choice) so washing the dishes is a three times a day feat.

French Husband allows Lucky Me, Chelsea and Sacha to do the dishes, and he does them as well. But nobody else.

It is one of his quirks. "Nobody does the dishes in our home except us."

Strange quirk. It doesn't matter if I agree with it or not. It is what it is… his quirky rule.

 

 


French silverware 19th century

 

 

French Husband's rule often makes many friends and family feel uncomfortable, "Why?" they ask, "Is he afraid I won't wash them well or I might break something, geez!"

Whatever French Husband's unknown reasoning is, it is what it is, nobody is allowed to do dishes in our home, except family.

 

Dancing instead of doing the dishes

(Dancing before dinner.)

 

I remember when we were first married French Husband didn't allow me to do the laundry, he did it himself. For some very odd reasoning on my part I fought him on this, and won. What a ding dong I was! 

 

Dinner dancing

(Dinner dancing.)

French Husband's mother is not allowed to wash our dishes. My mother was never allowed. Our dearest friends are not allowed. Not any of my cousins who ever came to visit were allowed.

Point blank: If you come to our house DOING THE DISHES IS A NO-NO. 

 


French wine glass Corey Amaro

 

It is such a "thing" that when people come over to stay, and believe me we have many people stay at our home, I usually take them aside, "Listen there are two rules in our house enforced by Yann. 1) You are not allowed to carry anything up or down the stairs. 2) You are not allowed to do the dishes.

Most people think I am joking.

But I am not.

They look at me and shrug, "Why?"

I am clueless to the answer, except the truth is it is a bizarre, odd, quirky, awkward Yann thing.

Until tonight.

 

Happy dish dance

(Happy Dish Dance.)

 

 

Alice did the dishes.

Yann survived.

I am surprised.

Is this a new beginning? Next will I be able to park the car without him asking, "Where?" Followed by him going outside to check on it?

 

Dish dancing partner

(Dish Dancing Partners.)

After doing the dishes, Alice laughed, wiped her hands on the apron, "That is by far the oddest compliment I have ever had."

I called my mother to tell her the news, I knew she would appreciate it! "Bop Yann for me would you!" without missing a beat she added, "Dancing and dishes! Bop him twice!"

Calling all dish dancing partners, come on down!

 

Dancing to the best song ever

Dancing to the sound of the suds, to the best song ever!

 



Comments

29 responses to “French Husband Breaks His Rule and Dances Around it”

  1. What a wonderful man, dancing in your kitchen. What a complete joy it must be to visit your French home.

  2. Mid life crisis… French style…
    Dish dancing and clothes shopping….
    Beware….getting a puppy is next!!!!

  3. All readers…Corey is NOT exaggerating!
    I was honored to be a home guest during a French trip one December.
    Yann and Corey open their hearts to their guest…roasted chestnuts in the fireplace.
    But…NEVER allowed to touch a dish NOR carry a single bag up the stairs!
    Maybe next time, I should try dancing 🙂

  4. You mean if I do the cha-cha, I can rub your Sarreguemines blow the suds off your 18th century glass and clean the crevices of the scrolled silverware?
    No weenis rubbing involved?
    Really really?
    I’ll be ding dong darned!

  5. Sue Young

    I agree with Rhonda!!!!!
    Corey, que tu as de la chance!!!( je te l’ai déjà dit, et je te le dirai encore!!!)

  6. Tongue in Cheek

    Dearest WR
    I told Yann, “WR is not gonna take this sittin’ down!”
    You better be ready to let go of the dishrag baby!”
    In which he had me repeat it three times and responded by saying, “What do you mean?” Lost in translation!
    WR come back and get ready to bubble bath the dishes and dance with the Sarreguemines!!!”

  7. Tongue in Cheek

    Dear Nance
    Are we really ready for this change?
    Dancing yes! Dishes NO!
    Come back soon!

  8. Tongue in Cheek

    Dear Cousin Ginny
    OH GOD NOT A DOG!!!
    Is that what this all about?
    Help me!
    C

  9. Tongue in Cheek

    Hi Rhonda
    Come and find out!
    Pack dancing shoes, dish towel and maple syrup.

  10. Cheryl ~ Casual Cottage Chic

    What tune were they merrily dancing too? They look soooo darn pleased with the event!

  11. Franca Bollo

    I’m like Yann. I don’t want people touching my things. OCD is we! And I was happy to let him get sudsy.

  12. Smiling! Dancing and dishes in the kitchen, how utterly delightful! How I would love visiting there.

  13. How sweet this . . . dancing in the kitchen with the spell broken.
    Alice the spell breaker . . . very sweet.

  14. Texas Francophile

    I agree with Yann. Nobody does dishes but me. HOWEVER I have a dishwasher. Might want to consider one. Only hand wash delicate stuff. Alice IS now family. COOL

  15. Sharon Penney-Morrison

    What fun. Hey, Yann can do the dishes for me anytime I am a guest, however I would offer to dry. (((smile)))

  16. Others have already asked the question.
    What song were they dancing to?
    Tell Yann, I don’t like people doing my dishes either, dishwasher or no dishwasher. No-one has to work for their supper at my table.
    I’m also with him about the stairs as well. YOUR rail-less stairs scare me silly so there’s no way I’d be carrying anything up or down. I’d be too glued to the wall.

  17. My mother agrees…no one does dishes in her house and she will not do dishes in your house.
    I on the other hand allow people to do dishes in my house…except for the person who dropped two plates and three bowls on the floor all in one go…thankfully they were replaceable albeit at great cost.

  18. I have the same rule! NO ONE should do dishes in my home unless they live here… because you are a guest, and dishes are a drag, and as my guest you should never be bummed out or do chores or whatever, anything other than spoiled, indulged, pampered, satisfied.
    It makes perfect sense to me that no one should carry bags up or down stairs for the same reason.
    Be my guest!

  19. Peggy Braswell

    I think it was kind of the fh to let alice wash the dishes. yes, made her feel apart of this wonderful family. xxpeggybraswelldesign.com

  20. annie vanderven

    For 40 years my husband was always traveling so dishes were my responsibility but then he retired and all of a sudden it seemed that I did not know how to fill the dishwasher…It seemed that there was a special way to do it…..Did not fight it … but once in a while I just sneak a dish in to see if it disturbs the order prescribed!!!!!!
    Dancing in the kitchen? used to do that with my Grandmother, sweet memories…

  21. Shelley Noble

    Welp, guess Alice is now “family”!! How nice.

  22. Merisi in Vienna

    Your story reminds me of my father. He would not interfere with washing the dishes, but he insisted to cook on Sundays. Soon the kitchen felt like an operating room when he was cooking: Hand me this, hand me that, clean up here, where’s the whatnot? Everyone was scurrying around while the master cooked. 😉

  23. Marie-Noëlle

    Corey, I do remember Yann’s reaction that very nice evening at your home !
    I had the privilege to have 2 steps toward the sink, and that was it !!! I tried… I insisted… I persisted… I struggled, I begged… Nothing would do ! Yann stood his ground …
    Should I say “Yann stood his kitchen” or “Yann stood his sink” ???
    You told me that it was his job… And, yes, I asked “why?” and “pourquoi?”. And I had to give in !!!
    Thinking of you two !!!

  24. Labergerebasque

    HA! I have the same rule AND I just say “NO ONE” is allowed in my kitchen work Area. NO ONE 🙂

  25. Teddee Grace

    New clothes, new rules. Nice mid-life crisis.

  26. Corey, Yann is undergoing a transformation. First the new clothes and not just any new clothes! and now relaxing the “no dishwashing” rule. Maybe he just wants to surprise you after many years together to keep things new and fresh ;-).
    Have a wonderful weekend.

  27. perhaps Yann is ever the protector, gentleman, hospitable, gracious, in which, chivalry is not dead, where, sadly in the USA I noticed it daily it is dead….I was lugging luggage in the snow here in Florida just yesterday, 2 able young men strolled by, as I practically feel over in weight…..and both walked by and nodded….sad…..Bravo to Yann…..

  28. Lauren Slavin

    your family is just the cutest!

  29. Waaahhh — Yann didn’t ask ME to dance! (However, I’ll pass on the “honor” of helping with the dishes, thankyouverymuch)

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