The Evening Parade

The Evening Parade

  

Blurred photos. I knew they would be, but it didn't stop me from taking them.

My Mom (79 years old) makes dinner for the entire family every Monday night since my Father died over six years ago. My brothers and their wives come over after work, their children come over after school. It is a celebration for no other reason than to be together.

Around six in the morning my Mom woke me up saying we had to get a movin' because we had a dinner to make for seventeen. Six-in-the-morning… dinner. Growing up in a large rural family meals were the main topic of the day, even now.

We made casseroles, salads, mashed potatoes, fruit salads, vegetables… desserts. 

 

The Evening Parade

 

Outside the children played aged fourteen to seven. They reminded me of the years children have played outside in my Mother's yard, in the fields, around the barn, down the lane… Races had, scraped knees, picnics, hide and seek, kick the can, bikes that turned into motorcycles… They played followed the leader as I watched through the dining room window as if it were a TV screen. 

Imagination is a gift.

Unrobbed childhood is a gift.

Being loved is a gift.

 

The Evening Parade

The Evening Parade

 

 

A coconut pie, cookies in the cookie jar and cinnamon puffs sat on the sideboard nobody snitched. I remarked at that miracle, "I would have, I did."

They have such manners, sometimes.

I sat, watched them, laughed that laugh that speaks volumes of happiness. There is no other place I would rather be… outside of Yann's arms and my children's embrace.

Happiness in the moment. Kids running around in a circle, viewed through a window and yet it felt like a group hug instead.

 

The Evening Parade

 

A round and a round we go where we will stop nobody knows. 

 

 



Comments

16 responses to “The Evening Parade”

  1. The world your mother creates is such hard work, but is magically beautiful. What a blessing to grow up in such a family. Thank you for sharing it with us!

  2. How beautiful a tradition and how lucky is she to have most of her family near all year.
    Love Jeanne
    treasure every golden moment

  3. A gift indeed! They are behaving like kids, your Mom, like a super Grandmother and you my DC, like the kind of auntie I wished I had…

  4. nancy Doherty

    Corey, could you tell me where to locate your moms store and the name of it , thank you Nan

  5. Your mother is magical, talented, creative, energetic,generous, kind and loving. You have the most amazing family!

  6. love your traditions.. your mother is amazing.. up so early for dinner. so much love..
    thanks for sharing

  7. What a slice of Americana! I enjoy your stories of home and family very much. I come from a small family and am not much of a people person, but I love seeing your large family gatherings and seeing kids act like kids. It’s an amazing gift you all have and everyone seems to recognize it and cherish every moment of togetherness.

  8. Corey I love this. Our version of it was my grandparents house, Whitefish Bay, Wisconsin, every Sunday morning. A big brunch with everyone. Then my cousins moved away…and we three kids went off to college…but my dad continued to breakfast with grampa, his father-in-law, every morning on his way to work. When my brother returned to Milwaukee and started his career, he joined them. Grampa loved it and so did they. Then grama died…and grampa sold the house…weeping as he closed the door for the last time. But so many happy memories live on. My mom had 19 first cousins and has the same precious memories of regular, large, loud, loving, fun family get-togethers, always over wonderful meals, made by all the aunties. Last time my grandparents house went on the market, I went to see it…such nostalgia! It seemed like yesterday…all gone so quickly…what I wouldn’t give…

  9. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    They look like ghostly apparitions that impress themselves on an open camera without the photographer being able to see them. These are photos of the laughter of childhood, cousinhood, celebration of grandmother who creates such a tradition, such a welcoming space.
    They are the future ghosts of laughter that will echo long after the children are grown and have moved away.

  10. I am so happy for you! Having lived thousands of miles away for quite awhile, I know what it is like to go home and just sit and absorb family ,food, and love. Hurray!

  11. Oh such poignancy in your experiences and your writing. I wonder – how can you bear it, being so far from all this, then remember the gorgeous Yann, and Provence, and the other side of your life. I feel my heart full for what your mother does every Monday. How absolutely marvellous for her to have so many of her family within reach, and how much she must miss her Corey when she isn’t there.

  12. If wishes could come true, I would dream this childhood for every child around the world. What a wonderful thing your mother provides for her family.

  13. Just how I remembered it forty years ago..
    Magical.
    xx

  14. Oh, I love it!! Mom’s up at 6am to start dinner! I know what you mean, Corey. I too am so blessed to be from a large, close family. Since we are Sicilian, it was always centered around my “nona’s” pasta and meatballs every Sunday. She’s been gone for 30+ years now, but the Aunties, Uncles and cousins remain close for every holiday. We are truly blessed to have these people in our lives. p.s. Your mother has a store? Would also love to see it.

  15. seize every moment, corey amaro! embrace the life you have here and abroad. we who are your friends embrace you and your family and share in the ups and downs of your life.. most ups..
    can’t wait to hold you and share more wonderful tales… life is good!

  16. Shelley Noble

    And now, through your blog, that family love hug reaches around the world as well.

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