Soul Manure: Growing with Love

Apaintedcreamer

 

 Ever since I came home, nearly every morning my first thoughts go to Annie as I calculate my day. I find myself thinking, "I will go see Annie now since the rest of the day is full, or I will go this evening…" Then at the same time, reality dawns on me with those first rays of sunlight.

My heart pours out.

Endless words untangle thoughts.

Snippets of the past pour out.

I hear Annie as she use to say, "Don't cry when I am gone. I have lived a beautiful life and I am ready. So don't cry."

My throat swells, my eyes sting, as I swallow back what I feel and lean towards her words… even though I use to say to her,

"Not crying is not going to be easy. I know you are ready, but I am going to miss you, badly."

And then with that my face is wet, my heart heaves as I wait for the transformation of grief, the storm to pass, the feeling of deep sadness to move on.

Loving has its cost, and the cost is worth it: Deep, true, beautiful, raw, stirring, powerful manure for the soul that wants to be what I believe it to be: Deep, true, beautiful, raw, stirring, powerful goodness.



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22 responses to “Soul Manure: Growing with Love”

  1. Dear Corey, Such tender feelings and loving thoughts. You and Annie had a lovely friendship and your missing her reminds me of something I once read…Dying doesn’t stop a relationship, it changes it. She is still a part of you in each day through those precious memories.

  2. thinking of you both…as I too do everyday-only you are part of the equation-I say both of your names out loud-I don’t know why I do that but I do-

  3. Amazing,I have had Annie in my thot’s past few days…….
    Missy from the bayou

  4. Sigh…

  5. judy in fort worth

    My beautiful Mama passed August 8th, just days short of her 94th birthday. I had her so long, yet it appears not long enough judging by my grief.
    Keep thinking I need to call her. Keep wishing I could kiss and hug her.
    And keep being thankful and certain she is in Heaven. With my Daddy…and Annie.

  6. This past 12 months have been hard ones for me too having lost 2 loved ones who were a very big part of my daily life. I like you find myself thinking I need to do such and such for so and so. Or Oh I forgot to do such and such or I am running late. Hard to break old habits. I miss them terribly but like you would not trade one minute of the joy shared in spite of the pain now experiencing. It is all part of the circle of life.

  7. you were fortunate to have someone like Annie in your life…
    we all miss her….

  8. Loving deep means we grieve when the time comes.
    I saw a picture in my Instagram feed yesterday; it was of an older woman from behind, and for a moment I thought it was Annie. But then I realized it couldn’t be.
    So glad the two of you were in each others’ lives and that you were generous enough to share her here with us.

  9. Thank you for sharing some of your feelings with us about the loss of Annie’s physical presence. I have a feeling she is often right there beside you, in the spirit. Everything you have shared about Annie is very precious even to someone like me who has never met you or her. But yet, I have met you both, through your words. May God bless you both, as I know He does.

  10. Deep, true, raw, beautiful, powerful . . . as we witness those we love enter and leave the life we know. Hurting/loving down to the bone. I feel for you.

  11. LauraInSeattle

    She is still with you, in every sunrise and rose petal…I’m sorry for your heartache.

  12. I feel the same way…never having met corey or annie-yet I feel as though I have known them my entire life-

  13. xoxoxoxo

  14. Dear Corey, each death of a loved one leaves a hole in the heart, but filling that space with fond memories may help. My heart goes out to you.

  15. Mary from Napa Valley

    My heart hurts for your heart. Thank you for sharing Annie with us. Mary from Napa Valley

  16. “God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.” ~ J.M. Barrie
    May your memories of Sweet Annie bring you comfort and joy.

  17. Queen Elizabeth is quoted as saying “Grief is the price we pay for love”. Annie isn’t ever very far away from you.

  18. Corey, your grief is palpable. I am at a loss for words except I am so sorry she is gone.
    The two of you had a beautiful relationship. Much love to you, jody

  19. *Sends a smile to g* I guess Annie is a shining star and meant to reach many people with her loving spirit, as is Corey.

  20. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    Yes. Just yes.

  21. You know Annie is smiling down at you, don’t you?

  22. Loving does have it costs. We will miss Annie, but not as much be far as you are. She was a dear, dear friend to you and so wise.

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