In Memory of my Dad

Dad hands

 

Those big soft hands, those wrangler jeans, that sideway smile, that generous heart, those words of encouragement throughout the years, that easy laugh, that tender heart, those motorcycles and rice fields, the sacrament with mom, the courage and faith and tendency to worry, those funny expression of yours that I keep saying so I won't forget.

Today was your birthday.

As the years have moved forward, nine and counting, the strangeness it is, first utter sadness of the inevitable, then the feeling of loss that the haunting space renders, eventually a voice within that isn't loud but soothing, time transforms physical death to spiritual birth. An inner connection that heals the loss of a loved one.

Dad.

After nine years days go by where I might not think of you, and then weeks go by where I cannot stop thinking of you. Memories flash unexpectedly, tears or laughter gush. Sometimes both.

Love.

The beauty that it is, the lessons that it teaches, the faith it extends, the courage it gives to face the unknown. 

xxx

 



Comments

33 responses to “In Memory of my Dad”

  1. Beautifully expressed Corey. Your dad was obviously a special man, as evidenced by your tributes and by the packed church at his funeral, with so many different kinds of people. I was standing in the back and saw the rough bikers and the well dressed and so many many people who loved your dad.

  2. You are always in my thoughts and my heart and prayers
    Love Jeanne
    X0X0
    big hugs

  3. Sending love to you.

  4. Such a tender time, yet filled with memories that bring joy and smiles. Thinking of you and your family today as you celebrate this wonderful man.

  5. Sadly, I know exactly what you mean.

  6. Diogenes

    Hugs to you, Corey. I remember you writing about this.

  7. A beautifully written tribute to your dad.

  8. A beautiful tribute to your loving father. Love to you, Corey.

  9. Julia Thelen

    Your all time best, Corey. Moved me to tears

  10. This brought a lump to my throat this morning. I feel just the same about my Father, although it is only five years ago. Still I find myself wanting to pick up the phone and ask his advice, I can hear him laughing or totally rebuffing some of my gardening ideas. We move forward, the numbness softens, but we will never stop missing them. Xx

  11. Merci de partager avec nous, ca touche mon coeur….tina

  12. Jacklynn Lantry

    Thinking of you. Wish I could be there to lend a bit of my heart, wrap you in a big fat hug…

  13. Beautifully written …. I share much of the same. Hugs…

  14. It is with a full heart that those memories hang on with me, and your words spoke so well of the journey we take in remembering and missing. My father, too, was everything and his passing at age 93, a long well-lived life, was still far too soon for me. Thank you for sharing the story you hold of your father.
    Kristin

  15. Bonnie Schulte

    Sweet, sweet memories…This post brought tears to my eyes.
    Wishing you oxoxox..today.

  16. Thank you Lil, I remember so well your writing and telling me that you were there. That meant so much to me, I have never forgotten that. Thank you for the gift of your friendship xxxx

  17. Jeanne you are one of the sweetest people I know. Thank you for sharing your love with me over the years xxxx

  18. Thank you dear Star. How are you? Everytime the bells ring I think of you xxx

  19. Then we are in a group hug!

  20. I remember your unending support xxx

  21. Ah, that made me tear up, xxx

  22. It sure does, like your said, numbness softens the longing.

  23. I feel you here xxx

  24. Compassion shared xxx

  25. Age means little when someone we love dies. Hugs from afar xoxo

  26. Thank you Bonnie xx

  27. Rebecca from the pacific northwest

    Those sweet, painful anniversaries of love, deep appreciation, loss, wrenching pain, and the healing properties of time even while one still remembers.
    I’d love it if you would do a blog sometime on your dad’s funny expressions. (Do your kids say them too?)
    This means I’ve “known” you for over 9 years. It’s been a pleasure in many ways.
    Sending love, and
    Happy birthday in heaven, Corey’s dad!

  28. You had a beautiful treasure for a father.

  29. Fathers are so special. I wish mine could see me now…,the things that I’ve done….the places I’ve been. He would be pleased for me.
    Ali

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