French Silverware

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French silverware speaks of the importance that the French put on food and meal- time. The French have a fork, knife, spoon for every food under the Eiffel Tower. They also have one for every sauce, and believe me they love their sauces. To which my thighs cry "Amen!".

 

 

 

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Since we are a Franco-American family some of my silverware is from the States. The innocent pair come to the table, an American fruit knife (1920s) and a dessert fork (1940s.)

Unlike dinner knives and forks, the fruit knife has a sharp blade with a point on the end for stabbing fruit after it has been cut.  The dessert fork has a fancy prong. The tip is curled-in to aid with slicing into a cake bite.

The fruit knife and dessert fork are much smaller than the dinnerware knife and fork.

 

 

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The French place the silverware upside down on the family table, well that is in comparison to the American style of setting a table. The monograms on French silver are on the backside. Note the photo of the service above (1880): The fork's front side is bare, and the back side is fancy.

Though at restaurants the French place the silverware right side up.

I have noticed over the years that the younger generation is loosening up on this tradition. It might be because they are not buying silverware, and ordinary silverware is not more decorative on one side or the other. 

 

 

 

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The French have two sizes of spoons for coffee. A tiny one for espresso and a larger one for cafe au lait. The larger spoon can be used for tea, hot chocolate, eating cereal and yogurt (… ) that tiny espresso spoon has a singular role, certainly it feels smug adorning those cute little expresso cups.

 

 

(Photo: Spode tea and coffee cups. Hand painted 1920s)

 

 

 

Tablesetting

 

 

The table fork goes on the left side of the plate. The table knife goes on the right, with its blade facing towards the plate. The table soup spoon (which looks like a serving spoon) goes by the table knife. The dessert spoon and cheese knife go on top of the plate.

The first time I came to France and had a meal at French Husband's parents home I went as stiff as the silverware in front of me. I sat the entire lunch (five hours) imitating my Belle-Pere, (Father-in-Law). Whatever fork, knife or spoon he picked up I followed suit. I don't remember a thing I ate, but I thank God for French Husband's Father's impeccable manners.

 

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Another view of a French table setting line up. As you can see I have mix and match silverware. It makes collecting easier. Find a pretty fork at the flea market, inexpensive since it is on its own. Buy it polish it…  Instant success! It adds to the collection and shakes up the snobby line up.

And by the way the French eat Pizza with a fork and knife. Trés Elegant.



Comments

23 responses to “French Silverware”

  1. When I first came to Europe, I fell in love with those tiny coffee spoons. They have to be small, for the tiny cups. I have a set from Bordeaux with a cluster of grapes at the end of the stems.
    I still see the forks turned down at restos. Everything is behind here. Which is why I like it.
    After I’d first lived overseas, in Africa, I had made many international friends, some of whom teased me about eating American style, with one hand in my lap, unless I was cutting meat, and the exchange of the fork from right to left. So I learned to eat European-style. When I did it in front of my parents, my dad scolded me for eating like a barbarian–to him not putting down the knife implied rushing through the meal. Though of course Europeans–the French especialy–don’t rush their meals.
    As for pizza, I find the crust here to be too thin to be able to pick up a slice. Fork and knife it is.
    My husband even eats fruit with a fork and knife.

  2. Cynthia Rieth

    Fascinating – I never knew that about setting them upside down – and I don’t remember that at any restaurants I’ve been to in France!

  3. I love how the french place the silverware face side down looks good to me
    I also love finding an odd pieces and get it home and shine it up.this posy makes me want o set a pretty table for one with all my pretty odd silver and dishes

  4. I have noticed more and more that young people don’t know how to place silverware when setting the table. I love your mix and match. Thanks for the lesson too.

  5. ChicagoSheila

    I adore the formality and requirement of knowledge of manners and etiquette. I think it turns what could be a rushed eating into a social event. As for the fork and knife for pizza…certainly a requirement sometimes for Chicago style deep dish pizza!

  6. When you show lovely old “silverware” like the examples in your post today, are these items sterling, silverplate or something else?

  7. I like that you mentioned French Husband’s father. I don’t recall that you have written much about him. It might be nice to write a bit about him? Cannot help but be curious,since all the rest of the family seem so lovely?

  8. Ann of Avondale

    Corey, I read the reason the French place the fork and spoon down is because in the old days, they would get caught on the lace cuff of men’s attire. Seems the tradition continues even though the original reason for doing so does not.

  9. In restaurants they are always faced up, or since the last 30 years they have been. Yann told me that is because the flatware is simple without monograms?

  10. All those types exist. The ones shown are silver plated but with a higher percentage of silver. The marks tell a person how many grams of silver have been used. French silverware tends to be heavier and larger.

  11. Oh that makes sense. Also in the 18th century the silverware was upside down, meaning the blades/prongs where at the edge of the table and the handles at the top. So that even makes more sense about the lace hooking.

  12. Miss Bunny

    Love your stories – thank you for sharing about the beautiful silver ware!

  13. Oh, I love, love, LOVE French silverware! I think it is how I first found you so many years ago! I love the fancy backs, but then, I love the juxtaposition of ornate with simple. And of course, I cannot resist espresso spoons, even if I do not drink it very often. Because you must have the right tool for what you are doing!

  14. Kristin

    what a lovely story and lesson in silverware today. Pulled up the memory of my grandparents eating European – fork in the left hand -and how, I, too, ate this way until I was in school and got curious looks. Every day I use my grandmother Freeman’s sterling…heavy…12 place settings with ever so many spoons, forks, 3 knives…a family treasure to pass down. But, after seeing your table, I really do like seeing the collected assortment setting the place. went to read the link on your father-in-law and loved the story about Chelsea’s name.

  15. Barbara Blizzard

    Thanks for ending the mystery of the face down silverware! My granddaughter fell in love with the espresso spoons at a young age and thought her Grandfather Franklin had bought them just for her to prolong her enjoyment of her ice cream treats!

  16. I collect mix and match, antique, sterling flatware, too. There are so many wonderful patterns, why use only one?

  17. becky up a hill

    Our first night in Paris my Son googled a good pizza place. It was nearby, so we walked, down a narrow alley or passage, lined with prostitutes, mere feet away in lit doorways. La! Anyhow we squeezed in and shared a table with a thin French couple and the lady did indeed eat with her knife and fork, after she finished the whole pizza, she called the young green Italian waiter over and complained about her pizza. The whole experience, was amazing.

  18. Ana Maria

    Dear Corey,
    Most of my assorted French silverplate I’ve acquired thanks to you! I enjoy it everyday, sometimes handwash it but more often, just stick it in the dishwasher.
    I never thought of asking you for expresso spoons, something we drink every day here in Miami – it’s Cuban coffee! Would you please find some for me?
    Thanks and a big hug,
    Ana María

  19. Sure I can find some for you xxx

  20. When in Paris in April, I intentionally shopped for little spoons to bring back as gifts for my sister, my daughter, Sarah, and me. Found some to bring home. Reading this post caused me to go into our storage area to look at my mom’s sterling silver place settings that rarely see the light of day. I am put to shame by that and will find more opportunity to use them. They remind me so much of my little mum and that is always a joyful memory. What do you use to polish your silver? Mum’s silver service set is screaming for a shine from the glass cupboard!

  21. Debby H

    Corey, can you tell us the name of the Spode pattern on the cup sets? It’s marvelous!

  22. Nice story. love it. Where and how I found this French Silverware ?

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