How to Check a Dog’s Collar

I bet you never thought you would see that blog post title on my blog.

Wonders thankfully never cease.

Those of you who have been reading my blog know I am afraid of dogs, but slowly very slowly conquering my fear of them. Well, the other day when I was out for my daily walk I saw a big black dog, yes that is how I describe dogs by size and color, its underbelly was wet and it wasn't raining and there wasn't a river or a pool around so I assumed it had been roaming for sometime. Often the dog stopped and smelled round as if it were searching for something. At this point, I realized that my first reaction was that I noticing the dog and its behavior and not freaking out like I usually do.

Progress felt like a pat on my back.

The dog did not pay attention to me, it seemed to be distracted or concentrating, I smiled at myself thinking how good I was for trying to understand dog language. As always I have your voices of confidence in my head, as if there is a tape that comes on, "It is okay, dogs are lovely, be not afraid, don't look the dog in the eye, see its tail is wagging, (s)he just wants to be your friend…" I wasn't afraid and that amused my thoughts for awhile, the dog was several steps ahead of me, and then it dawned on me that the dog was lost and trying to find its way home. 

The dog had a collar and a tag, I wanted to look at the tag to see if there was a phone number on it to call but I did not know how to go up to a dog and check its tag. I know some of you are probably thinking how silly I am, and most of you would know how to go up to a dog and check its collar. But not me. I have only touched a dog once or twice in my grown-up life and that was with Babette. More than that I was AMAZED that I was even thinking of helping the dog by looking at its dog collar! But I was and it concerned me that I did not know how but wanted to. I felt so sorry for the lost dog.

Eventually, there was a cafe so I went in and asked the patron if he could check the collar of the lost dog. He said he would and I left it at that.

So my question is how do I check a dog's collar without it biting my hand off?

I think I could have done it if I knew how. Funny thing is I am tearing up just thinking about it, I don't know why I have this strong reaction maybe healing brings on tears. Progress is happy tears.

 

 

How the healing began…

 

 

Spiritual Guide and Fear

 

I am afraid of dogs. It is beyond my control. When I see a dog I instantly think it is going to bite me. Many of you have told me what to do if I encounter a dog while walking. One thing I have learned is not to look a dog in the eye. Something I use to do, better to look a dog in the eye then have it attack you behind your back. But since many of you told me not to look a dog in the eye, I turn my head or better yet look at the ground. Most the dogs I see are behind gates, barking louder than an alarm system. Behind a gate, they still freak me out.

 

 

Spiritual Guide and Fear

 

 

Yesterday while out walking I saw two big dogs on the road ahead of me. Two dogs without anyone around. They were roaming the street unattended. I slowly turned around and walked the other way, I keep my eyes to the ground, put my hands in my pocket, and prayed, "Okay anyone who is praying for me, and please let there be several hundred or so, and you too God, do not let these dogs bite me. Help me to remain calm, because I want to run and scream and jump over a fence."

I heard them as they ran towards me. I could sense fear putting itself on me thick and juicy, bright and loud, with a neon sign, "Bite Me! I am terrified!"

My prayers became serious as I centered down.

 

 

 

Spiritual Guide and Fear

 

 

The black colored dog walked along one side and the beige colored dog walked along the other side of me. Ying and yang. Noticing that I recalled that in dream language dogs can be seen as a symbol of spiritual guidance, faithfulness, truth, loyalty… I imagined that I was dreaming, that the dogs were guiding me through my fear.

It seemed to calm my nerves so I stayed with it. 

The dogs did not bark, the three of us walked for about a mile together. Their tails wagged, and for an instant, I thought they were sweet and probably were lost. But then I thought they might be hungry, and so I had to pretend this was a dream so I wouldn't freak out. I slowly took out my phone and snapped some photos to prove to you that they really did exist.

 

 

 

Spiritual Guide and Fear

 

Spiritual Guide and Fear

 

 

Then just like that, they went the other way. 

Instead of dancing with wolves,

I was dreaming with dogs,

Sacred and scary,

I think I will walk with them whenever I am scared… healing in mysterious ways.

 

 



Comments

22 responses to “How to Check a Dog’s Collar”

  1. Ed in Willows

    Dogs are pretty good at judging people. As soon as you realized the dogs were not a threat, you should have started talking to them.

  2. Ed is correct. You have a very sweet feminine voice and the dogs will find it calming.

  3. Dogs don’t eat people. I was afraid of dogs when I was a kid and like you, I finally made myself relax and not react in any frightened way and surprise! they reacted the same. I agree with the above comments that if you talk to them they are friendly. You can even try baby talk. “Aren’t you a good boy? Yes you aaarrre.” They like it.

  4. Corey, I’m so proud of you. The expression “all bark and no bite” is so true when it comes to dogs. I’ve never been bitten.
    They pretty much all want to be your friend, and will love you given the chance. As others have said, call out hello to greet the dog, and it may walk up to you. A little baggie of treats in your coat pocket might be useful. 😉
    The two dogs you saw were probably near their owners home and were greeting you/hanging out with you – they returned because they didn’t want to stray too far from their home.

  5. OMG what a great new banner!

  6. Jacklynn Lantry

    Dogs are some of my favorite people. Loyalty and grace, they are the two words I think of when I think of dogs. I’m happy that you are working it out. And yes, the banner is spectacular.
    jackie
    ps
    My doctor, the women I sent to stay in your Paris apt, is pregnant! She said it happened in Paris:)

  7. Shelley Noble

    Agreed!

  8. Shelley Noble

    Soch a lovely thought, Corey, that the dogs could be imagined to be there to support you. So lovely to use your vivid imagination for greater experience. Why not win in our fantasies?!

  9. Good for you for your journey with dog healing. I am a bit afraid too, so your story gives me courage.

  10. The Banner is perfect. Your red lipstick, his red glasses, your black glasses…..classic and classy.
    Ali

  11. Your are never boring, always authentic … the dogs escorted you as far as they could go and went back home.

  12. the banner is lovely & unique just like the two of you.

  13. I feel you jumped another great big hurdle, well done and as everyone above says, next time just talk to them, they really are man’s best friend. On another note, that banner is fantastic, just love it.

  14. Hugs and I love your new banner. We all have our fears don’t we .
    I love all of your stories.
    Much love
    Jeanne

  15. Jennifer Phillipps

    Well done for tackling your fear and walking along with the dogs. You are also right to be a little cautious as it is not always clear when there is more than one dog how they will react or want to protect their home space, so all the things you did seemed sensible. Perhaps once you had been walking with them for a bit you could have had a bit of a chat….and seen how they reacted…waggy tails are always a good sign. I have a dog and have owned several, but I am still cautious if it is a big dog I see, just to be safe.
    Keep up the good work….you will be a champion dog whisperer before long! Cheers from hot and sunny NZ!

  16. Congratulations on working through your fear! Just a tip that might better help you to better read a dogs posture. When a dog is friendly his tail will wag back and forth excitedly. When a dog is agitated its tail is more of a quick flit back and forth and sometimes you will see the hair on its back is raised.
    At some point your next step will be to actually pet a dog and you should first extend your hand palm down so the dog can get your scent. Dogs are quite perspective and can tell when a person is afraid. Often they will put themselves in a posture of submission to make you feel better.
    Love the new banner!

  17. I have a fear of dogs that developed after I was bitten. When I am walking alone I give dogs their space. I get upset with dog owners who say that their dogs would never hurt anyone. Where I live there is a growing problem with pit bulls.

  18. You handled the loose dogs the only way you could. Which was the right way if you are not sure of them. I understand your fear of dogs. I worked with dogs in a shelter for eight years and was bitten half a dozen times. the worst by a chihuahua. Despite being bitten, I have no fear of dogs. Maybe I should have just a little fear, of small chihuahuas.

  19. TerriNTexas

    You were very lucky. They are very big dogs and could have done much damage. Should you be attacked – try to climb a tree or a fence – anything to get up high. Do not freeze. When 2 dogs or more are together they have a “pack animal” mentality. That means if one starts to attack the others will too. To soothe the animal and show them that you are “a good one” speak to them in a high pitched voice, talking baby talk to them. They don’t know what you’re saying, they judge you by your tone. If they come up to you wagging their tail to greet you put your hand palm up & down low to let them sniff your hand. NEVER put your hand up to pet them on the head, they assume you are going to hit them. This is what I was taught & it has served me well.

  20. I think animals can sense when you’re frightened of them. I never had a fear of dogs, and have owned them over the years, until I was nearly bitten by one while visiting a yard sale! Thankfully the dog only put his teeth around my ankle and didn’t break the skin, but it was enough to put me on the alert ever since whenever I’m around a strange dog.

  21. Rebecca from the pacific northwest now in delightful Isla Mujeres

    I noticed and quite like the new banner too.

  22. Rebecca from the pacific northwest now in delightful Isla Mujeres

    Well. Here are a lot of tips/commentary, to further comfort and/or freak you out.
    1. Fantastic!!!! That you actually had snap enough to take photos of them, in your fearsomeness, to document their nearness.
    2. What I do (I am not a dog-fearer but do respect that they come from different backgrounds and different attitudes about people:
    IF they come up to me,
    (a) I hold out my fist, top-of-hand-side down, so as not to appear threatening to them [they might be afraid of people = you, after all, which an open hand indicates they’re about to be hit]. The fist, you see, is not threatening but indicates that there is not a hand out to SLAP them. That is Good News to a dog.
    (b) I talk to them in a high sweet nice voice, the one I would use if I encountered a lost child.
    (c) if said dog approaches to sniff my (fisted, see # a)) knuckles, which it might or might not do, I keep talking sweetly to it as if to a child. Then dog sniffs. I hold the fisted hand out. Dog sniffs some more AS IT CHOOSES. It gives the dog-who-fears some control.
    The time when you should be worried is only when it approaches you with tail and head UP. (Ask me about that later, but body language is the key in dealing with dogs.)
    The dogs in your photos look like they were about their own business and you happened to be there in their same line of trajectory. In which case you mattered very little to them.
    _____________________
    I have followed for a very long time your fear/struggle with/about dogs. I applaud you now, Corey. (I also recall another time when a dog walked a portion of a trail with you? And you managed that too!)
    Any idea of what caused this distress for you? (I was afraid of cats due to the one that bit me when I was about 6 years old — due to my own misuse of him but still that imprinted me — until my high school boyfriend taught me how to like his cat and how to play with it. That helped immensely.)
    __________________
    One final thought is this: IF you consider this situation something that you’d like to address further — what about becoming friends with puppies? They love pretty much everyone and haven’t learned to be afraid/frightening to people. Perhaps talk to a humane shelter and ask if you could be taught how to interact with puppies?
    Wishing all the best to you. I’m proud of you.

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