The Gift of Life Unexpectedly

Heart Justin
 
Nearly, eight years ago Justin a good friend and "like a brother to my brothers" died in a tragic motorcycle accident. Today on Justin's mother's FB page she posted this article and I wanted to share it with you:
 
 
 
Text and photo courtesy Eric Kurhi S.J. Mercury News
 
 
"I saw this picture in the San Jose Mercury News.
Let's just say there’s a LOT more to this picture than meets the eye."

"In the middle is Arthur Reyes from Fairfield. 
He’s 28. And he’s VERY lucky to be alive.
Three years ago his heart gave out. 
What saved him was a heart transplant. 

On the right is Mary Knauer. 
It was her son who died.
It is her son’s heart that is now beating inside Reyes.
This was the first time they met.

"I feel so blessed to meet them. To say thank you in person, to put a face to them. It made everything so real. My heart is still pounding."

 Mary Knauer’s son Justin was a corrections officer from Willows in Northern California. He was 40 years old when he was killed in a motorcycle crash.


Reyes says:
"His selflessness changed my life 180degrees. Because of his choice, I was able to do so much more in life."

I remember many years ago I interviewed a woman who had a heart transplant. 

He had to keep a beeper on her at all times waiting for the call.
When it finally came he was taken to the hospital and prepped for the operation.

I asked her if he remembered her last thought before going into surgery.

He said the last thing he remembered thinking was, “Am I going to wake up, or is this operating room the last thing I'm going to see.”

Can you imagine being wheeled into an operating room knowing that someone is about to remove your heart? My god that must be frightening. Then again you also know it’s your only hope to survive.

I thought it was pretty cool what Reyes said a few days after the transplant as he was lying in bed. 

"I could hear it — it was so loud. I forgot what it was like to have a healthy heart. I could finally rest without worrying."

The one thing that always gets me about transplants is the extreme emotion on both sides.
Someone has to die, for another person to live. 

Mary Knauer lost her son. 
I hope she is very proud of the fact that because he decided to be an organ donor, he saved Arthur Reyes life. "



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11 responses to “The Gift of Life Unexpectedly”

  1. Tragedy and joy combined. Such a gift can scarcely be comprehended.

  2. That is powerful. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Ardi Butler

    What a tender, powerful story. We have a friend who also had a heart transplant. His donor also died in a motorcycle accident – 20 years old. He had signed up to be an organ donor and gave our friend the opportunity to watch his children grow up, to walk his daughter down the aisle at her wedding and to see his granddaughter join the family. That gift, made by the parents of the young man under the worst of circumstances, must be small comfort to know that they gave another the chance at life.

  4. So much in this post I have to comment.
    First, so much love and respect for donors, and parents like Mary Knauer who sacrifice greatly out of pure deep love.
    I remember Malcolm, from my childhood. Such a neat guy, super funny, smart, always kind, big big mop of white blonde hair, and blind. Sure he could “technically” see through thick weighty glasses, but because of the severity of his lack, he needed assistance to do many every day activities, he certainly couldn’t see or even play as we did. I grew with Malcolm all the way through to High School when we both graduate and went our separate ways. I ran into him 3 years later and barely recognized him, he wasn’t wearing glasses anymore. He knew me by my voice. After a brief reunion he told me he had cornea transplants, it was something “new” back then, but a man had passed away on a (again-) motorcycle and had gifted him with sight. It changed me in the moment and I became a doner. I couldn’t believe such a miracle was standing in front of me.
    As you said,”Someone has to die, for another person to live.” This line hit my heart. It is like our Saviour, who died so that we might live. It deepens my core when I realize His plan for us. Thank you for this.
    And a reminder to us all, because science and God’s inspiration are constantly here for us, we can, now, help others live through blood donation, marrow donation, liver, lung lobe, kidney, pancreas, and even intestine LIVING transplants, meaning you can donate and still live a healthy life as a donor!

  5. Amen.

  6. This made me cry…

  7. OH!!!!! THIS IS TIMELY AS I JUST CALLED MY HEART DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!
    BUT will not dwell on that I am writing today to tell COREY I sat on an AIRPLANE Yesterday with a couple from CHICCO,CALIFORNIA!WHAT ARE THE CHANCES THEY KNOW YOU?50….50 right?Well, I had to wait to ask because he was a bit GRUMPY with me!!!!!DON’t ASK just say I looked like THE BAG LADY after spending two weeks in ENGLAND at GARDENS AND ANTIQUES SHOWS and walking down PORTOBELLO ROAD!!!!!!!!!HE GOT THE MIDDLE SEAT!I was on the aisle…………his adorable wife looked identical to a woman I know.I did get to ask after I warm him up with my Pretzels and Nuts as I’m Gluten Free and cannot eat them………..THEY DO NOT KNOW YOU DIRECTLY BUT THEY KNOW TESS…….THE FRENCH WOMAN AND YOUR BROTHER MARTY!!!!!!!!!!!AND SHE KNOWS ALL ABOUT YOU AND THOUGHT YOU HAD THE SHOP IN WILLOWS AND I CORRECTED HER IT IS YOUR MOTHERS!!!!!!
    STAY TUNED FOR PHOTOs AND MORE ON MY BLOG AS I GET OVER JET LAG AND START PUTTING WORDS TO COMPUTER……….PROBABLY NEXT WEEK WILL BE THE FIRST POST ON A VERY EXCITING TWO WEEKS IN ENGLAND!
    THE VINTAGE CONTESSA.NET
    SO SORRY TO HEAR OF THE TRAGIC LOSS OF YOUR BROTHERS FRIEND….BUT THRILLED FOR THIS MAN WHO WILL BE HEALTY AND HAPPY NOW FOR YEARS TO COME…………..MY PERSONAL ADVISE.STAY OFF MOTORCYCLES!IT’s NOT YOU DRIVING THEM it’s the people who do not see YOU coming!!!!!
    MY HUSBAND DRIVES THEM AND IT SCARES ME NO END!!!!!!
    HUGS TO YOU COREY………..LOVE HOW SMALL THIS BLOGGING WORLD REALLY IS!
    XOXO

  8. This is the second time this week that I have heard of a mother listening to their child’s heart in someone else. It is so touching and generous. A true gift from the heart.

  9. A moving and kind act and story.

  10. Carole Prinz

    Hi Corey. Is this Mary Knauer that is married to Fred? I didn’t hear her son had died. Thanks for posting. Great article.

  11. Oh, Corey. Oh, my heart.

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