Nearing 100,000

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”The cover of Sunday’s New York Times. It lists the names of 1000 Americans, dead of Covid-19. One thousand is just one percent of the number of those officially counted as dead of coronavirus we will likely hit this Memorial Day weekend.

 

It is “AN INCALCULABLE LOSS,” the headline reads. “They Were Not Simply Names on a List, They Were Us.” 

 

The editors introduce the list by saying: “Numbers alone cannot possibly measure the impact of the coronavirus on America, whether it is the number of patients treated, jobs interrupted or lives cut short. As the country nears a grim milestone of 100,000 deaths attributed to the virus, The New York Times scoured more than 1,000 obituaries and death notices honoring those who died. None were mere numbers.” 

 

Each name comes with a characteristic of the person lost: “Stanley L. Morse, 88, Stark County, Ohio, trombonist who once turned down an offer to join Duke Ellington’s orchestra;” “Jose Diaz-Ayala, 38, Palm Beach, Fla., served with the Palm Beach County Sheriff’s Office for 14 years;” “Louvenia Henderson, 44, Tonawanda, N.Y., proud single mother of three;” “Ruth Skapinok, 85, Roseville, Calif., backyard birds were known to eat from her hand.” “Richard Passman, 94, Silver Spring, Md., rocket engineer in the early days“?

"Every year on the date, the 3,000 victims of September 11th are read aloud at the World Trade Center. It takes 3 hours.

If we were to read the names of each person who has died of Covid-19 so far, it would take over 4 days, without stopping.

It would cover each Sunday issue for over the next two years.

 

Today I read 1% of those names. Each of those names was allowed half a sentence to describe them. Half a sentence for a lifetime on the front page of The New York Times.

 

I picked out some of my favorites:

 

-“We called him the grand Poobah”

 

-her backyard birds ate right from her hand

 

-could fix almost anything

 

-first black woman to graduate Harvard Law school

 

-quick with his fists in the ring

 

-her will was indomitable

 

-he could spit a watermelon seed halfway across a double lot

 

-agent who turned on the CIA

 

-her favorite quote was ‘I am as good as you are, and as bad as I am’

 

-cancer survivor who lived as a deacon

 

-nothing delighted him more than picking up the bill

 

-saved 56 Jewish families from the Gestapo

 

-could be a real jokester

 

-thought it was important to know a person’s life story

 

-maestro of a steel-pan band

 

-saw friends at their worst and made them their best

 

-engineer behind the first 200mph stock car

 

-discovered his true calling when he started driving a school bus

 

-made the best Baklava ever

 

-emergency room doctor who died in his husband’s arms

 

-leader in integrating schools

 

-architect behind Boston’s City Hall

 

-shared his produce with food banks and neighbors

 

-family believed she would have lived the traditional Navajo lifespan of 102 years.

 

-loved his wife and said ‘yes dear’ a lot

 

-mother to a generation of AIDS patients

 

-worked long hard hours and still made time for everyone

 

-walked across the Golden Gate Bridge on opening day

 

-liked his bacon and hash browns crispy

 

-more adept than many knew

 

-would stay awake the whole night shift because she didn’t want anyone to die alone

 

-freed from life in prison

 

-her last words were ‘thank you’

 

Seven small towns I thought no one else had heard of.

Six women who reminded me of my mother.

Five people my age.

Four holocaust survivors.

Three 9/11 responders.

Two couples who died together.

One person I’ve met.

And a 5 year old girl.

 

They didn't get a funeral.

They didn't get to say goodbye.

 

I've been in my apartment for 71 days. I've cried four times.

Three of those times, was while I read this.

 

Have fun at your barbecue."  - Jacqueline Kamel“

 



Comments

18 responses to “Nearing 100,000”

  1. Thank you.
    Dear fellow citizens, be careful what we wish for. Convenience married to greed results in not more life and liberty, but in foolish and wasteful death.
    God bless America. We need those blessings now more than ever.

  2. Cynthia Thompson

    Amen. Be strong and careful everyone. Pray for each other.

  3. Leslie in Oregon

    This may be the most important of all your posts, Corey (and you have written many posts that are important). Thank you for speaking for decency, community, sacrifice. 💜

  4. Thank you

  5. Teddee Grace

    Thanks for posting about this. I had read about the N.Y. Times front page, but not seen or read the actual thing. I am touched that the newspaper chose to include a highlight of each person’s life, bringing it home, at least to anyone who is not so self-centered that they are totally tone deaf about the situation, that these are not just numbers.

  6. Merci, Corey. And as Leslie notes, we need more than ever to focus on decency, community and sacrifice.

  7. Ann of Avondale

    This is a fact that didn’t get published, in 1968-69 the Hong Kong flu hit America and 100,000 people died from it. There was no quarantine, no shutdown, no social distancing. We all continued with normal life of going to school, concerts, church, work, etc. Not sure who is right but there is a divide on attitudes.

  8. Beautiful post. I love you!

  9. Thank you, Corey! What a lovely tribute to those that have lost their lives during this pandemic. Take care as your shelter in place.

  10. Thank you Corey, once again you have left me in tears….I hope with all my heart that those people who choose to disobey guidelines will read and reflect on what you have written today. God Bless you and your family.

  11. Everything Leslie said. Thank you ,Corey for this post. I wish it could be put somewhere where it would sink in and resonate with all people. 💕

  12. Michelle

    When I opened the NYT and saw the front page it was too much to comprehend. Somehow I felt just as bad about that sad mama bird after a predator got her babies. Seems kind of like a metaphor of some sort…
    Reading those few words after every name to describe a lifetime of living made me so sad but we need to bear witness to this loss of life.
    My sorrow is laced with anger and rage as a health care provider. I don’t possess your grace. I wish I did.

  13. jend’isère

    The very last line made my tears drown in anger. Memorial Day barbeques and swarming to the beaches were earned by sacrifice of others. Every life deserves respect.

  14. Julia Thelen

    Sometimes I cry at the beauty of your posts.
    Today, I’m crying at the poignancy.

  15. To Ann of Avondale : Check the spanish flue in the US in 1918/20.
    https://t.co/mTctmV6o1O?amp=1

  16. I thought to myself as I read this, “This post is a written variation of Corey’s life.”
    In this instance the “bits and bobs” she’s collected are snippets of someone’s life, rather than physical antiques. They are the intangibles, (“the first black women to graduate from Harvard Law school” and “her backyard birds ate right from her hand”) instead of the tangibles (a vintage frame with a diploma from 1956 or an antique bird feeder.) 
    You are attracted to not only the antique object, but-more importantly-the story behind that object. An antique is a beautiful object for eyes to behold. The story behind the antique imbues it with depth of meaning that touches heart and soul.
    Your post is the best-intangible-reason I’ve seen for social distancing, masks, gloves, etc. A poetic ode to social responsibility.
    Thank you for your compassionate eloquence.

  17. I’m saddened by the partisan take on this post as I come to this blog to get away from all of that. I come to learn about the French way of life, the antiquing and of course the human stories that run deep through our lives. Stating that it’s a “portion of Trumps base” who are refusing to wear masks and to isolate is wrong on so many levels. The NYT’s is a liberal newspaper and does its best to spin news to its own benefit. I have several Democratic card carrying members who are neighbors who have refused from day one to put on a mask and have large gatherings at their homes all the time. So please, let’s honor the lives of those who have succumbed to this horrible virus but please let’s leave politics out of it!

  18. Paula Tyner

    Thank you , Corey, for posting .

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