Loving Kindness

 

My mother always said, "When someone dies everyone is very present to the loved ones for the first few weeks, which is good and needed. But do not forget in six months, or even a year after that those who have lost someone still need loving attention, maybe even more so as the weeks turn into months as life goes on for those who haven't suffered, but those who have suffered, suffer long after."

 

Sometimes it is difficult to know what to say, or how to say it, or if it should be said…

 

 

 

No words are needed to show love.

nor to be loving-kindness.

 

 

Wherever we are there is something to share.

 

 

 

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To be present to silence.

 

 

 

 

A gentle smile.

 

 

 

Tears are okay.

 

 

 

 

Tears make room

 

 

 

 

Gentle bloom.

 

 

 

 

Petal by petal,

rain or shine.

 

 

 

 

 

Standing alone if need be.

 

 

 

 

Adding light to the darkness.

 

 

 

Side by side.

 

 

 

 

Gentleness.

 

 

 

 

Togetherness.

 

 

 

A place to exhale.

 

 

 

 

An open invitation to be there.



Comments

7 responses to “Loving Kindness”

  1. I have always felt the same as your mom…it is so strange to watch life go on as “normal” when you feel and it feels anything but normal…I call it the new normal- THANK YOU COREY this has made today good.

  2. Yes, I have often thought these thoughts and try to remember that sadness doesn’t end at the funeral. A good reminder, thanks!

  3. I think about this too, and the situation with the pandemic enhances the feelings of isolation right now too. It really is a new “normal.”

  4. Sending my love, hugs and prayers always.
    You cannot read loss you can only feel it.
    Praying for all those suffering in grief and enduring all there is to deal with in our world today.
    Love Jeanne

  5. Texasfrancophile

    A very good reminder, thank you. After the flowers and casseroles are gone, there you are with your thoughts.

  6. fat Rabbit

    Floral thoughts – thank you Corey

  7. Susan in Zurich

    Grief doesn’t keep a calendar, does it?
    Your post is beautiful, and a good reminder to be kind, to be available to those grieving. And to be gentle with ourselves.
    Thanks, Corey.

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