Amy Kortuem: Shared Stories

After many years of penning this blog I have come to know many of you and if you have been following me and reading the comments you probably know each other too.
During Christmas many of you shared your home’s Christmas decor which gave us another glimpse of you. I enjoyed that so much that I want to continue putting forth ways for us to connect. If you have a personal story that you would want to share please send it to me at

coreyamaro@aol.com

 

Shared Story Number 1

 

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Photo via Amy’s Facebook

 

Mom and I spent a lot of time lying in her bed over the last year – she was sick and weak and in pain, and I wanted to be near her to keep her company and in case she needed anything.

We were constantly on our phones, sharing funny, interesting things with each other. I came across a compilation of hilarious, horrible tattoos, and when we saw this one – NO REGERTS – we laughed so hard Dad came in to see what we were doing. It's especially funny because Mom was a famously terrible speller and called me all the time to ask me how to spell things. NO REGERTS became our mantra.

After another trip to the doctor, when chemo failed, after another trip to the ER, another fight with the doctors to get her pain relief, a bad pain day, the day she entered hospice, a day she just couldn't muster the energy to eat or shower, the hours of medication organizing, the heart-wrenching conversations we had, the naps we took together when she held my cold hands between her warm ones, the lanes of memories we wandered, the joy and laughter we still shared even so close to the end. Every night, I made sure she had clean sheets and jammies and gave her a facial with a warm cloth, rose-scented face cream, and a hand and foot massage, and then I'd kiss her good night. And we would both whisper our love to each other, grab hands, look in each others' eyes, and say, "NO REGERTS."

I won't get a tattoo, but it's how I hope to live from now on. With not one single regert.

Not a single one.

 Amy Kortuem



Comments

24 responses to “Amy Kortuem: Shared Stories”

  1. awwwww this deeply touched my heart. Thank you for sharing
    Tears in my eyes. I am so glad you were there for her.
    God bless us all
    Jeanne

  2. Poignant, lovely and hilarious. Thank you for sharing.

  3. This is the most beautiful of posts . Thank you Amy for sharing it with us . How blessed you your mom and dad are to have shared this journey together. The gift of a facial soothing rose moisturizer v can lean greasy sheets and Jammies and your hands your face your mantra all the things that truly matter!

  4. I am so sorry my phone changes words all the time that should be your hands clean sheets and pajamas not that nonsense I am so sorry you have to even read that because I love the gentleness of what you shared

  5. Lorraine Oh

    Thank you for that beautiful, love-filled story!

  6. Thank you Amy. It is how I’d like to live my life. No regerts

  7. Nancy Gross

    I was so touched by your lovely story. What a blessing for you and your dear mother to share that sweet wonderful time together.

  8. I love this so. Thank you for sharing this story full of love.♥️

  9. Susan in Zurich

    ❤️
    Thanks for sharing these precious memories, Amy.

  10. Ella Dyer

    Thank you Amy, what a powerful message. I am sorry for your loss but greatly appreciate the relationship you had with your mother. May we all live each day with no regrets.
    As well sung by the forever-relevant Edith Piaf in one of my favorite songs:
    Non, rien de rien
    No, nothing of nothing
    Non, je ne regrette rien
    No, I don’t feel sorry
    About nothing
    Ni le bien qu’on m’a fait
    Not the good things people have done to me
    Ni le mal tout ça m’est bien égal
    Not the bad things, it’s all the same to me
    Non, rien de rien
    No, nothing of nothing
    Non, Je ne regrette rien
    No, I don’t feel sorry
    About nothing
    C’est payé, balayé, oublié
    It’s paid for, removed, forgotten
    Je me fous do passé
    I’m happy of the past
    Avec mes souvenirs
    With my memories
    J’ai allumé le feu
    I lit up the fire
    Mes chagrins, mes plaisirs
    My troubles, my pleasures
    Je n’ai plus besoin d’eux
    I don’t need them anymore
    Balayées les amours
    Broomed away my love stories
    Et tous leurs trémolos
    And all their tremble
    Balayés pour toujours
    Broomed away for always
    Je repars à zéro
    I start again from zero
    Non, rien de rien
    No, nothing of nothing
    Non, je ne regrette rien
    No, I don’t feel sorry
    About nothing
    Ni le bien qu’on m’a fait
    Not the good things people have done to me
    Ni le mal tout ça m’est bien égal
    Not the bad things, it’s all the same to me
    Non, rien de rien
    No, nothing of nothing
    Non, je ne regrette rien
    No, I don’t feel sorry
    About nothing
    Car ma vie, car mes joies
    Because my life, my joys
    Aujourd’hui, ça commence avec toi
    Today, they begin with you
    Bonne journée à tous et bonne année,
    Ella (who doesn’t regret living in Nice!)

  11. Jennifer Phillipps

    What a nice thought to share precious stories from your readers. This special story from Amy is a timely reminder of the importance of each moment with family members and how humour can be such a great bonus. Thanks. Jennie in NZ

  12. Stunning. Perfect. Perfect writing. Perfect mother. Perfect daughter. Perfect philosophy. Perfect. Thank you for sharing this glimpse into your perfect love. It was an honor to read.

  13. Deeply touching and beautiful, most of my my words fail me, except to say a heartfelt thank you!

  14. A beautiful story of love that brought forth a few tears.

  15. judy Wilcox

    What a beautiful story, Amy. How fortunate you and your mother were to be able to spend her last days together and share your memories and your love. You will never have any “regerts” and you will have her enduring love. Judy Wilcox

  16. Such a beautiful story. Thank you.

  17. Thank you, Amy for such a heartwarming share. Thank you, Corey for sharing it. Starting today I am having No Regerts. Jennie Q

  18. Angela Vular

    Oh, the care Amy gave to her mom is so beautiful. I love this story. God Bless You, Amy. We all should live with “no regerts”! Thank you for sharing.

  19. The love and laughter you shared with your mom, despite the sad times is inspiring. No regerts! (I also took care of my mom for her last few months and the funny moments were the best.)

  20. Amy, I second every word/sentiment of Jackie’s.
    Just perfect. Thank you for sharing your love of your mother with us. I’m sorry for your loss.

  21. Karen from wisconsin

    Amy,
    I lost my Mom at a very young age, truly effecting my life. I thank God that you had this opportunity to share these precious moments to usher Mom’s journey to her Heavenly Home.
    Thank you so, so much and sympathies to you and Dad…Prayers and Love, Karen from Wisconsin,

  22. Beautiful post, Amy. Thank you. Bless your dear heart.

  23. This is just wonderful.

  24. Corey, Once again a perfect post. Just what I needed today. Thank you for all your efforts to keep us focused on love and giving during these past difficult years.

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